Im 17 almost 18 so naturally i'd like some privacy when it comes to my room. But the thing is I dont have any. My mom goes through my room all when I leave the house. Recently today my sister told me she spent a good hour in my room going through it, and I was looking to see if she took anything and some PRIVATE letters I had in my nightstand from my boyfriend went missing, which i found in her room later. She knows im sexually active, and knows that im on the pill and we have dicussed issues such as this openly before so I dont think shes searching my room for that reason. We normally have a very open line of communication. Usually if shes concerned about something she just asks me and Ive tried the whole calmly talking to her. However being 17 I do have letters and things I'd like to keep private. But she searches my room all the time and it really bothers me. I understand i live in her house but how can I talk to her to get her to stop constantly searching my room for no reason?
2007-12-15 05:15:50 · 3 answers · asked by TeddyBear6 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have another heart to heart with her. Expalin that you have been open and honest with her, and she should be tickeled pink by having a daughter that does this, many many parents don't! Asdk her what she's looking for! Ask if you can have permission to attach a lock to your room. If she says no, let her know because of your lack of privacy, she is running you out of her life sooner than expected and ask if that's what she's really wanting.
Good luck
2007-12-15 05:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there is a reason, at least in her head. Ask her what it is. You can't stop her from doing this, but you can calmly and respectfully ask her to stop going through your things. Tell her if there is something she is looking for or wants to know, you will be glad to tell her.
2007-12-15 13:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you two have a very open relationship... why not try talking to her about it! i'm going through the same thing with my mother.... but talking to her didn't do any good... cause she thinks that i don't need to keep anything private!! ugh... but i might work for you!!
good Luck
2007-12-15 13:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋