My mother?

Question

My mother stays at nere partners house down the road alot as christmas dinner there with here partners kids dosent invite me and dont let me make my own food. Dosent get me christmas or birthday presents If I ask for any she says get lost I give her 100£ bord a week clean the house get no thanks for it work allday come home get small meals. My fiend took me to a market with his perents one morning and when I come home my mum said have you had anyting I said yes a bacon sandwitch she said that will do you for the day.Took her partner and his kids away and dident invite me. On my 18th and 21st birthday I got nothing and they didnt say happy bithday.There tv broke took my tv and wouldnt let me use my ps2 down stairs. I went to work got hit by a car and they said you will do anyting to get out of work. I got her a mothers day card and some flowers and she said why bother. and sat down and said why do you treat like this she said thats the way it is.

She said if you get your own place I will disown you. what shall I do?

Answer 1

This might be intruding a bit, but it kinda sounds like she has already disowned u! if i was u i'd move out. ps. take ur tv!

Answer 2

I'm sorry you are going thru all of this. You're at the age where you can make your own decisions. I couldn't imagine for a second to do or put my son and my daughter thru any of this. Believe me, it is her loss. If she is an ounce of human she will regret this later.

It's not your fault. Don't believe that you've done anything wrong because you haven't. Move out. How much difference would it make if she disowned you because it sounds like she's done that already. You can chose to live a better happier life. You may struggle a little but that's ok. Struggles make you stronger. Mental and emotional abuse make you weaker. Put her on the back burner for now and get your life together. Then I suggest find your own place or room mate, then seek counseling for yourself. because this could affect you in your relationships and you don't want to bring your dirty laundry into any relationships especially if it could be the right person. Connect with your other family members and friends, ask them for help til you can get your feet on the ground. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. I go to my family and friends all the time if I need to and I return the favors. That's what love is all about.

She is ungrateful and you don't have to put up with this. that's not the way it is....You are worthy of love, compassion, and understanding. Don't let this ruin your life. You have so much to offer and so much to give. Believe in yourself and see this as something positive to becoming a stronger person.

Create a new life for yourself and you will find some peace and comfort. I don't know where God is in your life, but put Him at the forefront and ask for guidance and keep praying to see a better tomorrow. There is no right or wrong way to pray just say what your feeling and make your request.

I wish you peace and happiness. I wish you a merry christmas and a prosperous new year, a new beginning, a new life, a better tomorrow. Don't give up. and GOD Bless.

Answer 3

It sounds a very sad situation. I would want to hear both sides of the story before commenting on the relationship, and you haven't said what you think might be causing the problem.

But I do feel that if someone is upsetting you in your life as badly as your mother is, you would be better off just to cut her out of your life completely and start a new life mixing with people who do not undermine you. You need more of the things which make you happy, and less of the things that make you miserable.

Maybe if you and/or she go on some kind of self-realization course or get counselling, you might become reconciled, but meanwhile just get on with your life and avoid this unhappy situation. You will probably always both be at the end of a telephone so if you miss each other after a break, you can always have a chat. Maybe you know the reasons for the bad relationship in your heart of hearts, or maybe you don't, but you need to protect yourself from more pain, and accept that some people just do clash temperamentally.
I hope you do find happiness.

Answer 4

this sounds so close to home. my mother even had a bell when I was little so she could ring it to change the channel. We lived in an apt. My mother treated me in the same way as your mother treats you. Life has a way of working out. At least if something happened to your mother you have nothing to feel guilty about. You gave your all. If you didn't do anything then you would end up like her. But unfortunately she is a negative in your life so you have to keep some distance from her. I know it is hard but you at some point you may have to get a room or live with someone else because she is affecting your mental health. You can never remove the hurt she has already done. But you can limit the hurt she can do in the future.

Answer 5

Its sound like your mother is controllng and very cold hearted. You shouldent let or allow your mother to be like this to you.
You have a right to move out and be your own person if you continue to stay and take that kind of abuse your going to have a breakdown. Also your mother will push you to far one day and you will snap.
Your mother seems to enjoy in putting you down. I would go she has no respect for you why should respect he back. If your life is hell now why let it continue.
Please do not think im being hard i have parents just them same as yours. I live 160miles away from them i didnt speek to them for 2 years now we get on great. I am happy i have my on famiely but i tell you the relief of packing and just going it was a big weight off my shoulders i cryed i was so happy no more stress no more nasty comments on more being beaten by my mum dad and brothers. You are old enough to make up your own mind and old enough to do what you want so do whats right for you girl.

Answer 6

You are not a daughter you are a maid get out of that house and get a place of your own if my mother treated me like that and said i will disown you that would be fine with me so move and say hello to a new life and that is the way it should be i am a mom of three and i would never treat my kids this way so its all up to you

Answer 7

Your mother is abusing you emotionally, i think you should move out for your peace of mind,but you should not leave the situation as it is , it is obvious that you are deeply scarred by your mother.If she is willing both of you should see a counsellor so you can understand why she treats you like she does.If she is not willing,you should see a counsellor,to start some emotional and psychological healing.I wish you all the best.

Answer 8

MOVE OUT AND GET YOUR OWN PLACE... THEY CLEARLY DO NT HAVE YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART AND DO NT CARE ABOUT YOU...
I'M SO SORRY THAT YOU WERE HIT BY A CAR AND NO ONE CARED THAT IS JUST SO SAD... WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS HIT BY A CAR I WAS SO SAD AND SCARED FOR HER.. SHE WAS MY LIL DARLIN AND ONLY WALKING AGE AND WHEN SHE CAME HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL ALL I DID WAS STAY BY HER SIDE HUGGED HER LOVED HER AND WORRIED ABOUT HER..
YOUR MOTHER NEEDS MENTAL HELP AND YOU NEED PEACE... MOVE OUT AND FAR ENOUGH AWAY SHE CANT HOUND YOU ..
CHEERS
EMAIL ME IF YOU NEED TO TALK ...
JO

Answer 9

move out and keep your distance from her and her new family