would you allow your daughter to go on a trip to montreal,quebec on a bus with two other friends for 3 days staying at a hotel? what if u live within 4hours of quebec? what if she is 18 and still lives in ur house?
2007-12-14 03:26:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I answered this before. Read my other answer, its a good one.
You apparently are having trouble with this. Your daughter is not doing anything wrong, let her go. Trust is a two way street.
2007-12-14 03:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, are the friends men? I am 25 and I still live at home (until I get married in the summer) and my father has and does grant me certain freedoms. At the same time I know there are things he dissapproves of and I respect that. He thinks I shouldnt stay over night with my fiance until we are married and I respect that. He doesn't like it when I come home after 1 AM and I respect that. At the same time I have a very open relationship with him, and if I want to go to Canada with my girlfriends he respects that. So i gauge the situation and take it from there.
2007-12-14 11:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by BUFFCHICK25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would. 18 is adult, wherever she lives. She will pass into adulthood whether she lives with you or not. You can make her live by house rules when she's there as it is yours and you support her but remember you cant rule her life. If you miss the crucial point where she is ready to fledge and leave the nest what you will get is an irate frustrated adult living in your house, getting resentful and disrespectful of you and wanting to be further and further away. You could lose her instead of her growing from just a daughter into a friend as well.
2007-12-14 11:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
differnece between your daughter and jmat guy is that hes a guy and shes a girl.. with girls u need to be extra causious especially with boyfriends and peer pressure and all that.. best thing to do is to start of small.. if in the past you have never let her do anything on her own and u dont know if u should trust her start of small.. example; trusting her to drive your car with her friends and having her return it in good condition... , maybe sugesst she goes camping one weekend and tell her the rules and the time u want her back (camp should be near by though or at least 2 hrs away or half an hour.) and if she obeys all of them then you know ur able to trust her.. if she hasnt demonstrated trust in situations like that.. then NO .. u have to demonstrate it order to earn it..
My mom did that technique to me and she finally let me go to spring break.. but it started off with little things that were based on trust and then once i earnd it she had enough trust in me to let me go.. i respect that and i think thats a wonderfull idea that she did!! i obeyd her and i came home the time she wanted me..
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2007-12-14 11:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I've been traveling to Montreal with friends only overnight since I was 14 and nothing has happened. Sometimes on a bus, sometimes in cars.
2007-12-14 11:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by jmattiesmufc 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's an adult and traveling with 2 friends.
And if you trust that you have instilled the basic tools needed for survival, then let her go. You'll have to one day anyway.
2007-12-14 11:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not. My house, my rules! If she wants to move out and be an adult, then that's fine, but as long as you are paying her way, NO FREAKING WAY!!!!
2007-12-14 11:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋