I'm 16 years old my mom will only let me go to a movie, I would like to go out to dinner once in a while with my guy! She also won't let my 13 year old sister really do anything either! I hate to see my sister cry because mom won't let her grow up, it's nothing against mom, it's just she let out brothers (24&22) do a lot more than us! How can I work out my situation and my sister's too?
2007-12-14 08:33:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well for one thing I know I refuse sex before marriage I will not get pregnant unless I'm ever happily married and to be quite honest Ms. with all do respect I am a straight A student, very responsible, my guy is the best and does not believe in sex before marriage, I am in America's Who's Who, and I do everything my mother ask's of me, but all I'm asking for are these two things!
2007-12-14 08:41:51 · update #1
Well I wasn't talking about my little sister dating, just her being able to go to the movie's with her little friends
Personally I'd hang that boy by his nut's if I found out she was dating!
2007-12-14 08:48:56 · update #2
My mom has met him and like's him he's a sweetheart and very nice&polite the one mom consider's the guy she dreamed for me to marry but she doesn't really let me get to know him that great!
2007-12-14 08:50:59 · update #3
That's not cool. I was allowed to date when I turned 16 and my Mom basically told me "I trust you, until I can't trust you anymore."
My Mom was very lenient. My sis and I were very good (still are!). I feel like when parents do not trust their children to make good decisions, then that causes tension, and tension
causes dishonest behavior, like sneaking out, etc..
Tell your Mom honestly how you are feeling, and explain to her, that she should trust you and your sister. She did a great job being a Mom to you two, she should trust that she did a good enough job to let yall go and learn your own life lessons and to make good informed decisions.
I am now 26 and I am married to the guy I dated since age 16, we've been together for 10 years. My guy's family was very strict with him, and it caused him so much anger and frustration that he resorted to lies just so he could have a life!
Tell your Mom to let up, it causes more problems for her to be so overprotective.
2007-12-14 08:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm so sorry, but I'm on mom's side. If either of you girls got pregnant, your life would be ruined. Even if you gave the baby away or had an abortion, regrets would follow you forever.
Mom has to be absolutely sure that you're with a nice boy, and that there isn't time or opportunity to do more than kiss, and that you are mature enough to handle things if he wants to take you too far.
Girls and boys are different. Your brothers couldn't come back pregnant, and they can easily protect themselves.
My daughter wasn't allowed to single-date until 18. So in my mind, you girls need to go on group dates, or double dates for you, and maybe your mom will be more comfortable about that.
P.S. I worked at a pregnancy clinic--I've seen 10 year olds pregnant and destitute. So even your sister is vulnerable to a guy who insists he'll stop before anything happens.
TX Mom
2007-12-14 08:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 13 your sister should not be dating. Period
At 16 you should abide by your parents rules.Period
Yes it may suck but that's life and these are the breaks.
Why don't you go to the movies and enjoy yourself, let her see that she can trust you and then try asking for more time. Contrary to all of the popular tv shows some things are earned like trust and respect, so work on that.
2007-12-14 08:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by nyjae 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Same here with me. Mothers can be veeery overprotective and strict, limiting our 'rights' as young adults. Have you asked your mom to give you a specific reason why you may not? One thing that I tried doing, is acting more responsible. I helped around in the house, and limited some of my free time to help her. If you will be more supportive, your mother might say yes. If no, then at least you now know, how to be a good parent when you become a mother.
2007-12-14 08:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by Angie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe if you suggest that you guys go together she will feel more comfortable. Or try asking if you can go to dinner with your boyfriend, but put a time limit on it. Have her drop you off at the restaurant and tell her to pick you up in 1 hour. Start small, once she finally realizes she can trust you things should ease up a little.
2007-12-14 08:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jami W 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Show her her sexism blatantly. It is an aspect of our society to be unconsciously very sexist, especially about dating and relationships in guys and girls. If a guy goes out and dates 20 girls and has sex with them all, it's all right, he's "the big man on campus" (with many STDs). If a girl does the same, she's a slut. Just show her that she's being unconsciously sexist, without being too confrontational.
Also, establish trust. Show her you that you don't just want sex or to make out with a guy (even if you do), be responsible. Make good grades, do your chores, whatever. Express disapproval for all promiscuous behavior. Tell your sister to do the same. If she doesn't listen to you, just try harder! Persistence is key.
2007-12-14 08:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lillie! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my parents are the same way this is be cuz they see more kids getting pregnant now and days and they dont want you to go on that route they want u to be successful she not telling u nothing wrong im 14 on january 17 i will be 15 my mom told me i couldnt dye my hair till i was 15.good luck the best thing for u 2 do is sit down and talk 2 her persuade her that u can be more responsible just dont do nothing that i got in trouble for.
2007-12-14 08:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by jasmine m 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you sound like me when I was 16. Was never aloud to do anything yet my older brother (only older by a year) was allowed to do what he wanted. Guess that's just how it goes. My advice is to stick it out. Don't hate your mom, she's just trying to protect you. The key is trust. Does your mom trust you guys?
2007-12-14 08:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tina 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i know its tough. but has your mom met your bf, if not then mabey she should so that she will trust the both of you a little better and let you do stuff.
2007-12-14 08:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's because at 16 you are immature she cant trust your judgment you must have done things to show signs that you are irresponsible.. whats next? you going to get pregnant? or get an STD? hang with the wrong people?
2007-12-14 08:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋