I feel completely horrible b/c i am hosting christmas dinner for my immediate fmaily this year. Alll of a sudden I am getting calls from my extended family asking me for directions to my house for XMAS. At this point I want to cancel dinner. I really feel like I have been alone all year (no kids, No husband) and my family has not been supportive in any issues that I have had to deal with. My mom has spoken to me since Thanksgiving weekend because I did not take her side in an arguement. So at this point I do not feel like wasting my hard earned money buying gifts for a bunch of ungreatful people. I really would prefer to find a spa and get away for the holidays. I think that I have spent this year alone and i should just finish it off alone. Any thought,s comments????
2007-12-14 05:44:22 · 8 answers · asked by nyjae 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am not mad at any of them
2007-12-14 06:13:16 · update #1
Tx for all of your answers. I told my mom, aunt and grandmother that the dinner was specifically for them and I did not want to invite others because of the added expense-The next thing you know my phone is ringing off the hook and I am getting messages like" have something under the tree for me because I'll be there" from all the relatives that I did not invite. I wouldn;t have minded that it got beggier then expected but now you guys want gifts too. Are these the same people that haven't call me all year?
2007-12-14 08:24:09 · update #2
I have been here and done that. My ex husband's family is huge and if you invited one or two of them, all of the sudden you had 12 or 15. If you planned for a huge crowd, then no one showed up.
You've learned a valuable lesson. Be very specific about who is invited and who is not in the future.
I suggest you just tell you folks that this thing has just gotten totally out of hand and there is no way you can afford to house and feed that many people.
They may offer to help out and perhaps other family members will pitch in too.
As far as just feeling unsupported or close to your family, I'm not sure how you will explain that to them without causing a big ol' scene.
Good Luck!
2007-12-14 06:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry youve been alone all year and havent had support from your fam. All i can really say is do what you think would make you happy. I wouldnt spend my money on ungratefuls so in saying that it isnt recommended unless there are kids involved. But definitely get back talking to your moms cause life is too short to be mad at each other over some petty stuff. Be blessed and keep your head!!!!
2007-12-14 05:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by mwright745 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things in your family could be worse. I think you should opt for inexpensive plates of cookies, and candies nicely wrapped for everyone. And invite everyone. Have just a few extra plates in case ready to go. I have done this many Christmas' in the past largely due to a serious lack of money. Everyone is appreciative, because I bake the cookies and candies. In maybe a day and half you can have a large bunch of different cookies ready to plate up. Christmas is a time of giving, and sharing, and if it is only one time a year to see family....make the best of it Sweetie...some of them may not be here next year...enjoy and forget the problems for one day a year.....Merry Christmas to you and yours.
2007-12-14 05:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Toffy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
extremely of the enormous Chrostmas dinner how some enormous christmas breakfast or brunch. You adult men do the kinfolk ingredient in the morning. provides and have enormous breakfast. Than he can take the babe to his kinfolk at a similar time as you spend time inclusive of your stepfather. Than you are able to connect up later possibly at his kinfolk. making plans will make on the present time plenty extra elementary. i actually dont think of your bf could care in case you spend a pair hours with stepfather if so thats very immature or your no longer telling me something. in simple terms plan and make some adjustment it would desire to all artwork out super
2016-10-11 07:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by mccaleb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY, christmas is about family, all the little arguments and fall outs you have had over the last year, this is your chance to bond with them again, so the new year will be different. if you go ahead with the spa thing you will spend xmas feeling lonely and miserable, like it sounds like you have for the past year. dont make the next year be the same. for your sake. yeah they have done wrong, but its blood, and they r only human, give them another chance
2007-12-14 05:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The more the merrier!
Ask your family to each bring a dish so you odn't have to cook as much.
Also, you can make gifts for family members. My mom is making snake ornaments for everyone.
A great gift for a bunch of people is cookies. Plus, they're fun to make and cooking help relieves stress.
Also,
Family can make you feel better a lot of the time, even if you dont think they will.
2007-12-14 05:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah time to show everyone how YOU feel, don't be forced into hosting individuals you would rather not be around. If your having a wonderful CHRISTMAS means you spend it by yourself, then just think how BLESSED you are that you have family that you don't want to be around. Blessings we have to take them as they come and they come in many shapes and forms. Self, not selfish keeps one humble. God Bless.
2007-12-14 05:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which one would you regret?
2007-12-14 05:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by baby_rost 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋