Family - November 2007

My aunt took in this boy (everyone in my family seems to take in other people's children) and he has problems, I grew up with my grandma, her adopted child and several cousins younger than me, so I know what I'm talking about, he does the most bizarre things. He will do stuff that inflicts pain upon himself and he hits, bites, and physically attack my little brothers and cousins. All my aunt says is "DONT HIT MY BABY" if they hit him back. She always says "He just 2-years-old" I know from experience there is a difference between "Terrible 2" and just plain ---weird. If a 1 year old understands, "DO NOT TOUCH, IT'S HOT" Than certainly he should understand. My other aunt says ignore it because she was unable to have children, but my grandpa told her get out and don't ever bring her back, and she asks me if she can stay with me for a while, i agreed and when I came home from work he was coloring on my wall and all she said was "DONT HIT MY BABY!!!" and I told her to leave, was I wrong?

2007-11-29 12:20:42 · 9 answers · asked by Deontaye G 1

god! my parents are 'worried' about me and they are makeing me see a therapist and they butt into my private life and they harass me about things i dont like 2 talk about! theyre pushing me 2 do better in school even though im an honors student and im trying 2 pay attention 2 my boyfriend, my friends, my family, and my school work! i need help! how do i get my parents 2 quit butting into my life and how can i get 2 balance out my time between my boyfriends, friends, family, and school work???????? help me plz!

2007-11-29 12:08:19 · 8 answers · asked by Lauren 2

I haven't seen my mother in years but my brother was put up for adoption before i was born and i really want to find out if theres a possible way to contact him ,...help?

2007-11-29 12:03:39 · 7 answers · asked by ZO 1

Earlier, I over my parents talking in the kitchen as I was surfing the Web in the family room. They were talking quietly, but I could hear most of what they said. I heard "What if we have to take him to rehab?" "He'll never graduate if he does this" "This is serious stuff!" "If he's buying or selling..." .

I put two and two together and I think my parents think that my brother is doing drugs. What should I do?

2007-11-29 12:00:43 · 4 answers · asked by Music Sponge 2

For weeks I convinced my dad into letting me have a house party in our basement. (Our basement is huge.) My dad agreed and said that I'm responsible enough. So my dad said that he would go to a movie or do something so that way I wouldn't get embarressed with having my dad lingering around. So EVERYBODY he was anybody came to my party.Then this guy was passing alcohol out to people! I said "No way. Get rid of it." Then my boyfriend comes over and says hey it's a party have fun! Then he gives me a shot. I was like "Get rid of it, or everyone is going home." Then he did this look and I just gave in. Then before I knew I went crazy! I felt like like I was flying at one point. Anyway my boyfriend kissed me and then I guess I took him up to my room and we began to make out on the bed. Then all of a sudden my door opens! My Dad was right there! Then he walks away and he tells everybody to go home. In the morning I told my dad nothing happened.

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2007-11-29 11:57:39 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

why do parentrs want to control everything. What you do Even Grades. I am a A+ STUDENT I make good grades wheni talk about working harder my parents think i have bad grades but not. They say if your grades start failling and I am going to take you electronics away. when they are not failing They think your lazy but if they shutup I will do something. They are nasty to you and say you can talk back. tI gets on my neivers trhey try to make thing go thir way never show ing love or compassion. They have a heart of cold. My parents are not intacted in my life just never knowing just assuming. Tell me why they are like this.

2007-11-29 11:48:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a 21 year old son. he is always in trouble hang out with the wrong people and wont get a job. he is always got people in front of my house wanting to beat him up. he has been shot at and everthing ealse. i dont talk to him anymore cuz im so mad at him. now today my husband just called me and told me that a car load of gang members are in front of my house and calling him out because he got some girl really drunk and took advantage of her. i dont want him to be homeless or live in the river bottom but what do i do. his father and real mother have never carred for him just me but i dont know how much more i can take. anyone ealse have a problem child like this? if so what did you do.

2007-11-29 11:18:29 · 2 answers · asked by karls dream 3

She loves monkeys and she plays the violin and she likes vegetables and she goes mew mew mew mew mew and says monkey randomly

2007-11-29 10:54:17 · 22 answers · asked by windmaster 2

Well how do you live with a video game obsessed 8 yr old brother?

2007-11-29 10:42:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm in a place where i could really use any help i can get--emotionally & financially (i'm 6 months pregnant & always broke!). my mom & maternal grandma have offerred to help me out financially (they're *emotionally* aloof) but i know from past experiences that this will come with strings attached...
and if i don't do what they want they will throw their help in my face & do a huge guilt trip... (i once rented a house from my grandma, and she kicked me out for continuing a relationship with my father after he divorced my mom--that type of thing)

i could REALLY use the help (i can't get my asthma meds filled, & i'm living off of Ramen! it's SO not healthy, esp when pregnant) but i'm not sure i want to go through all their crap again, and get called a selfish, unappreciative brat....

so what would you do?
should i decline their help & continue struggling (possibly at the expense of my baby's health), or should i accept it & let them trash my name down the road?

2007-11-29 10:38:17 · 16 answers · asked by Ember Halo 6

First off I will tell you some background. I am 22, with my own house and a fulltime job. As far as I know I cannot have kids. I run a daycare out of my house. One of the boys I babysit is a placement child. He is 2. His mother did drugs and he is "delayed". His biological mother is dead. His "mother" is really his aunt and his brother(cousin) is three. His "mother" cannot take care of him she has had surgery and cannot hold a job. She wants to give him to me if I want him, or else he will go into the system. I am wondering if I should take him, she said if social services would not comply she would move him into my house and give me his checks when she gets them. She wants him to go to a pllace that she will be abl to visit him (she is his aunt) but knows he will be loved and be taken care of. We are very close he comes 5 days a week now and loves it here. I just don't know how I would explain it to my family but I would love to have him and he calls me mom on his own accord.Should I?

2007-11-29 09:57:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

so i have alot of friends...and my "best friend" is a girl but all my other good friends..that i alwayz hang out with are ALL guys...somehow my parents.don't like d fact dat all my friends are guyz n tell me dat i'm not allowed to hang out wit them (even though i still do shh)so now me n my parents have many arguements dat my behavior has changed.(but is not true because i alwayz hanged out wit dem..even b4 dey knew about it)so theres no way dat my attitude has changed they juz sayin dat to make me feel bad.also my friends break dance (juzz like myself)n go to bboy jams (breakdance competitions) and since my parents don't like it wen i breakdance n i'm not allowed to join their crew (my guy friends r in a breakdancein crew dat i really want to join but i cnt because of my parents) or go to jams.they don't let me go out anymore at all.after school i have gymnastics n den i walk home wit ma guy friends, until ma dad sarted pickin me up...
what should i do so my parents can trust me?

2007-11-29 09:55:19 · 23 answers · asked by bgirl stacey!!!! 3

Teachers at my school saw some bruises on my arms (which was caused by a wrestling/pillow fight with my cousins). I explained that to them, but instead without me knowing, called CPS to interview me today. CPS called my mom (who works as a pre school teacher) and said they needed to search our house tomorrow. The teachers said it would be over with today, but they TRICKED me!! My mom might lose her job for something she didnt do (or my dad). PLEASE HELP I FEEL TERRIBLE!!

2007-11-29 09:53:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

ME AND MY MOTHER-IN-LAW HAVE GOTTEN ALONG UP UNTIL ABOUT A MONTH AGO, MY HUSBANDS BROTHERS WIFE IS LIVING WITH HER, WHILE HIS BROTHER IS IN IRAQ, THE SISTER-IN-LAW IS CHEATING ON THE BROTHER WITH A STEP-BROTHER, WE TOLD MY HUSBANDS BROTHER ABOUT IT, AND NOW MY MOTHER-IN-LAW IS FURIOUS AT US, I WORK WITH HER, AND SHE HAS BEEN SO HATEFUL TO ME, SHE CONTROLS MY CHECK AND MY HOURS, THIS JOB PAYS GOOD, BUT I HATE COMING TO WORK, SHOULD I SAY SOMETHING TO HER?

2007-11-29 09:48:56 · 9 answers · asked by Groover_84 2

Ever since I can remember, my parents were too old to keep up with me . Their attitude was always "Why go out and have fun when we can stay home ?" . They griped and complained every time I wanted to go to the movies, or to another town . I didn't like that, and I swore I'd never put my children through that . NOW -- if your parents are older than most, what kind of an experience was that for you ? Did your parents push themselves to keep up with you, or did you have to have to sacrifice so your parents could take it slow and easy ? Did your parents gripe and complain whenever you wanted to have fun ? Was having older parents a good or a bad experience for you ? Do you think it's okay for parents to be old ? Are there any difficulties with having older parents that I didn't mention ?

2007-11-29 09:27:18 · 6 answers · asked by I_hate_being_single 3

She is always stressed when she comes home from work when I come home from school she yells sometimes to

2007-11-29 09:14:59 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

Years ago, my brother-in-law put the moves on me which I turned him down flatly. He did this right before I was marrying my husband. I told my husband about it but we decided to keep it quiet. We have had a series of problems with the in-laws that stem from people not visiting us and not understanding our financial position on not being able to give them presents or visiting them b/c they live three hours away, we don't have a car and they don't bother coming to see us. I have a son who's three, his Grandma is yet to see him. She believe we all should visit them or don't bother, that's just not realistic and as a result we've been shunned from the family. This brother-in-law is treated as a golden child and it's driving me nuts when my husband is a good man and I believe he should be given some slack.

It's been three years since we've seen any of them aside from a funeral where my husband was reamed out from his mom. Advice please?

2007-11-29 08:59:25 · 13 answers · asked by Yummy♥Mummy 6

She works, goes to college, volunteers w/ mentally ill children & teaches vocational bible school. He says she usually comes home & goes right to sleep. They have been dating for 1 1/2 years & are engaged, but they argue a lot about the amount of time they spend w/ eachother. Other than that they get along great. She is a sweetheart & I don't know what to tell him when he complains to me?

2007-11-29 08:26:50 · 11 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6

My aunt died of a stroke six days ago. The funeral was today. Her daughter, my cousin loved her a great deal. When my uncle called her to tell her the bad news, she came home immediatley but never acted upset or shed a tear. My whole family came together to make arrangements, and there were some heavy moments when everyone was a mess with emotion, but not her. I asked her if she needed a hug or to talk but she resisted kindly. She seemed almost oblivious to the fact that her mother was dead. Her actions were quite odd; she was calm and collected during the wake, and the next day for the funeral mass she was pleasant even though it was cold and pouring rain. I stuck by her all through the ceremony. It wasn't until we all laid flowers on my Aunt's casket that she began to laugh. It wasn't just laughing-it turned to uncontrolable sobs and heaves. It's like she just cracked and lost it. I drove her home after the episode and she laid down. Should I take her to a doctor? I am very worried!

2007-11-29 07:58:39 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married to my husband for about a year. He's a little older than I, a wonderful provider, and very conservative. We've been happy but a little bored. His grown son 18, has keys to our home and drops in unannounced. 2 weeks ago my friend Shari-beth was over. I knew she was bi but I was never interested in that. Well we ended up kissing and petting a little when step-son walked in. Ever since he's been hitting me up for "loans" and it's amounting to a lot of money. I DO NOT want my husband to find out, and don't plan to experiment any more. But how can I put a stop to this blackmail?

2007-11-29 07:02:20 · 23 answers · asked by strgoddss 3

fyi: im not on drugs and i never have been. also, i just dont relate to anything the way my family does...we just dont agree about things.

2007-11-29 05:34:49 · 28 answers · asked by Kori's_Angel 2

My mom has accused me of stealing money from her purse and i didnt, I have told her this and we went into a big arguement over it. Its not in my nature to do something like that, its not what i was brought up to be like but she wont believe me.
Im not talking to her that much either its just made things weird between us and im grounded so i cant go out with friends.
Its so unfair because i didnt do it!
Please help
I dont no what to do, i cant focus at school because im worried now cuz she thinks bad of me.
Its just not how i am. I dont steal for anyone especially my mother.
Help me please. x

2007-11-29 05:32:14 · 43 answers · asked by HoneyBee 2

First let me say I know my mother-in-law means well. She watches my 5 month old in the afternoons for about 3 to 4 hours while my husband and I are at work. She is always buying rice cereal, barley, oatmeal, jar baby food and feeding it the baby. Our pediatrician advised us that he does not need anything but formula till 6 months. My husband has told her that we do not want the baby eating anything but the one sereving of rice cereal that we agreed on, but now she is giving him oatmeal with bananas, barley, mixed cereal. My husband does not see a problem, but issue is he is my baby and that is not what I want. I want to decide and make the decisions for him. Am I making too much of this or should we be more firm with her about letting us make the decisions?

2007-11-29 05:16:46 · 20 answers · asked by mof2 2

Im a stay at home 20 yr old mother who just had a son late oct. I dont know what to get my fiance for Christmas...This will be our 2nd christmas together and I have no money since im not working! Any suggestions? We live in Las Vegas.

2007-11-29 04:59:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hate my brother, he belittles me everyday and he can't stop yelling n call me names! He takes me as his punching bag always unloading his own **** on me! I hate to be around him when he is in his crazy mood. He always pick on me, calling me names or loose his temper yelling at me like I am totally worthless. I feel very ashame and down because he disrespect me all the time, I tried to fight but he hits me, he recently gave me a black eye because he said he hates my ugly face and I wish I was dead. He is so mean to me and the beating doesn't hurt as much as what his words have done to me. He said he is ashamed of me, calling me an ugly fat loser and an dumbass. He and I are very popular outside but I cant pretend anymore cos when at home is like a living hell. My parents try to stop him all the time but he is just so violent, he likes to belittle me but when I does that to him he will hit me regardless of who is around. I say I hate him but I love him why can't he just be nice to me?

2007-11-29 04:56:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad past away in 2005, I moved in with mom and stayed by her side to help, She has back problems. I take care of grandpa, who is paralyzed and can’t see, and of mom. I stopped working in 2005 and now I've been back on the workforce for almost a year. It’s been almost a year now that I’m working. My current job is outside of my field and a lower level than what I used to do. We now share a house with my sister in law, brother and niece.

I want to get my life back together. I also want to go back and get a master degree.

The problem is I feel like I'm getting used. No one helps me with chores. I work late hours and when I get back home its like no one bothers to do anything and wait for me to do it. I have brought up the issue and everyone always have some reason why they can’t do this and that. Whenever I ask to rest or that I mentioned I'm late to work or busy doing something. My mom gets mad at me, slams doors and starts yelling. It seems whenever she can’t get what she wants when she wants it becomes major drama.

What can I do? I need to study for my entrance exam and i never get time to study

2007-11-29 04:52:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a 15year old son, who'd Dad left us many years ago. I'm afraid I'm not the best parent, as i am quick to yell and lose my temper with him quite often. I am trying to control this, but he seems kind of distant all of the time. He is always on his video game or phone. What can i do to improve our relationship and get closer to him?

2007-11-29 04:51:29 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

But what if your mother abused you and left you at the tender age of six and your father has been in and out of your life since day one. How do you honor them....honestly?

2007-11-29 04:49:08 · 12 answers · asked by Z. 3

I have 4 children ages 4-14. My husbands sister has 2 sons. My husbands parents have shown my kids pretty much no attention since my sister in laws kids came along. It really truly bothers us. My mother in law buys constantly for those boys, but NEVER buys anything for my kids. She sees them every single day, and sees mine about once a month, even though we live 5 miles away! We went over their on thanksgiving, and they pretty much disregarded my kids, and payed most of their attention to the other grandkids, even though they already see them everyday! My husband has talked to them on several occasions on how it bothers us, and how wrong it is to not spend any time with our children, but nothing changes. Just 3 weeks ago my husband called them because my 4 year old was saying that he missed them and wanted to go to their house, and told them maybe they should do something with him that weekend, and they never even called back!! It makes me sick. We just don't know what else to do.

2007-11-29 04:36:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had a child out of wedlock. I discovered shortly after I was pregnant that things weren't going well. I was not treated well at all. My son's father is from a different race and my brother will not speak to me or even acknowledge my son exists. My son is 1 1/2 years old. The last time my brother and I talked he said some pretty hateful things about me. It has been over 6 months since we have spoken 1 word to each other.
It has now made for a very weird situation for the rest of the family. I come from a large family and no one else treats me like this or feels the same way. What should I do to try and make it more comfortable for the rest of the family when we are around each other?
Anyone have any advice on how to try to begin to talk to him? He acts as though I asked to be treated horribly and everything was my fault.

2007-11-29 04:33:33 · 8 answers · asked by Mary M 2