Family - November 2007

Because black people robbed his house a couple years back......

2007-11-01 06:21:32 · 16 answers · asked by Young man 1

How many grandparents out there are guilty of treating one set of grandkids differently than another. Say, treating your daughters kids differently than your son's kids? How do you justify this?
My inlaws treat my sister in law's children totally different! They watch them all the time, buy them EVERYTHING they ask for, but never buy my kids anything unless it's a bday or whatever. They spend all their time with the other grandkids and never any time with my kids! When my kids play sports, I have to BEG them to come to a game... and I'm lucky if I get one game attended per season. One year, I coached a sport, and got my nephew on my team... Miraculously, my inlaws were at EVERY GAME! Because my nephew was there. How wrong is this?! I HATE IT! I feel like my children (3, 8 and 13) are looking at themselves and saying "why don't they love me the same?"... It's terrible!
We all live in the same town within blocks of each other, and the kids go to school together also...

2007-11-01 06:16:31 · 2 answers · asked by Amy G 4

me never babysit, later she hardly ever came down to visit, the thing is i find it really hard to ask people for help still, i assume they are not going to be interested, my mother used to help my sister with her son but never me, even get him really nice presents and mine crap from jumble sales. how do i overcome my fear of asking for help,

2007-11-01 06:11:32 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-01 05:38:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was close to both my children through out their childhood. Both could ask me anything in a private setting and would get an age appropriate honest answer. I have also been very defensive and protective of each, nothing they ever did jeopardized my devotion. I was not judgmental or disrespectful of who they chose to date, even when my daughter brought home gothic dressed drug attics- we discussed the pro’s and con’s of getting involved with someone whose habits may be more costly than their income.
Each married productive financially responsible partners that had strained relationships with their parents, especially the mother. Each felt they were deserted at some point when they needed their mom the most and each of those partners are completely devoted to making the abusing parent happy. These partners insist my children leave me out of many things and my daughter has somehow reinvented her childhood and will not talk to me unless she needs/wants something from me.
Do you think abusive parents command more respect from children by making them feel they were never good enough?
It just seems that those raised to be happy and independent will do anything to make a mate happy where as a survivor of an abusive childhood will spend their life and use their mates to make the abusive parent happy.

2007-11-01 05:31:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK we moved in alone together 3 months ago, we couldn't handle the rent so we moved out to live w/ his parents now he whines all the time about everything, won't help me clean the bedroom, and plays video games all the time, iof I ask him to do anything he whines, and then if i try to talk to him he gets hateful, and starts a fight, then he tells his mom everything. I don't know what to do I think he being very childish. Does anyone know what I should do or why he is acting the way he is?

2007-11-01 05:29:44 · 8 answers · asked by Chao 3

My daughters are 2 and 4 years old. Last night while we were trick or treating, I picked my 2 year old up and was carrying her because she was getting tired. My husband was holding my 4 year old's hand and walking with her. I was cuddling my 2 year old and singing "You are my Sunshine" to her and kissing her head. My 4 year old was busy having fun trick or treating with her Daddy.

This other mother was walking around with her son (obviously her only child- no others were with her and I could just tell by the way she acted with him he was her only). They were sort of on the same path we were- we bumped into them several times.

She snidely remarked that she hoped I pay as much attention to my 4 year old at home as I do my 2 year old then commented "I couldn't do that to my son- have another one and take any attention away from him." I was insulted, but didn't say anything because I didn't want to get upset and I tend to get more upset when I say something back. I wish I would've

2007-11-01 05:19:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-01 05:17:22 · 7 answers · asked by JoAnn W 3

her mother is not around. her father and mother are not in a relationship with each other. they have other significant others, obvioulsy. the 12 year old often embraces her father for a long period of time. but then she always says NO to her father, and he lets her get away with murder. she is quite developed for her age as well. he allows her to wear revealing clothes as well. i am just so confused. growing up, i did not have a very close relationship with my father, i mean i love him, but we never acted liked this. is this normal?

2007-11-01 05:12:03 · 11 answers · asked by ♥jessica♥♥ 2

I have a bit of a dilema. My wife and I were briefly divorced a couple years ago before getting re-married. While we were apart, she got pregnant, but we were remarried long before he was born. I was there thru most of the pregnancy and actually the one who got to "catch him" in the delivery room when he was born. My name is on the birth certificate as the father, and since i am disabled and am a stay at home dad, I have spent every moment of his life with him and he is a big daddy's boy. He is my son and i would fight anyone who says different. My problem is that I live very clode to my parents and spend alot of time there helping my mother because my dad is dying, and he doesn't have much longer. I don't know if its because my son isn't bioligically mine, or what, but he shows a lot of partiallity to my other two kids.. It has gotten to the point that it really upsets me. My dad sees thati'm upset and doesnt understand why? I don't want to upset him in his condition. How do I deal?

2007-11-01 05:02:04 · 6 answers · asked by Shadow 2

I feel so horrible. my grandfather is in the hospital after having a mini stroke. now he cant eat anymore. he has to be fed through a tube. he refuses cause hes very stubborn and even tho he is 89 he doesnt want to be a cripple. my mom has been breaking down. we have been taking care of my mentally ill grandmother since my grandfather has been in the hospital. she has been a thorn in my mothers side. my mom is stressing out horribly. she woke up this morning crying and saying that my grandfather had been telling her to let him die. he has been snapping at her when she is not there. and when she is hes asleep. she keeps crying. she snaps at me a lot cause she is stressed. i have been depressed to begin with but this is driving me over the edge. same with my mom but she is probably in worse condition than me. she has no one helping her. she has no siblings and she is divorced. i feel like i am in complete darkness. my body is aching so much. i have no break.

2007-11-01 04:58:30 · 3 answers · asked by self-appointed queen of bs 5

my brother inlaw has been living with us for over a year , we own our house , has he got any wright`s to my and my husbands property by law to stay on if i wont him to leave or if any think happend to any one or both of us ,has he got wright`s, were do i stand .

2007-11-01 04:38:06 · 8 answers · asked by star 3

Last night I took my daughter trick or treating. My husband gets out at about 6-6:30pm. He calls me around 7pm asking where I was. I told him on the westside trick or treating. He asked with whom I was with. I told him my sister. He then immmediately threw a fit and said yeah right your somewhere else. Your probably flirting around. I got mad and said don't start and he hung up. I call him back around 8:30pm to let him know I was going home. His cell phone was off. I called his parents house because he said he would be there for a bit. My father in law answered and said he doesn't know if he's here cuz he just got in and he'll call me back. I didn't bother to call him nor did my husband bother to call me. It's 9pm and I fall asleep. I am awakened at 12something pm by my husband climbing into bed. I ask where he was...he said at his moms. I didn't want to fight so I just fall back to sleep. This morning we talk about it and he said he was at his moms and he fell asleep & came back home.

2007-11-01 04:33:26 · 25 answers · asked by Txgirl23 4

2007-11-01 04:27:14 · 17 answers · asked by LeShonda S 1

I have a friend whose children I watched for almost two years...she was a single mom and didn't make more than $12/hr so I understood going into it that agreement that she would be a risk. Her children were actually my first kids in the center so I grew rather attached to them. We had an agreement due to the fact that she had a hard time keeping rent/food/etc that she wouldn't have to make her co-payment until the end of the year with her income tax return. The first year, she kept her word and paid the $2500 she owed in co-payments. The second year, she just disappeared. I know this woman is not a scam artist and she's a good person, just in a very difficult situation. She had no support from any family and in alot of ways reminded me of myself. I tried to call her once, just to let her know not to worry about the money, but that I still wanted to see the kids, but she didn't answer and didn't return my call. Do you think she feels guilty and thats why she ran?

2007-11-01 04:16:11 · 5 answers · asked by Jessica B 2

ok so she is n everything n shes happya bout it., shes 16, no job, will get kicked out, n is dating person her parents hate. i try to be supportive but idk what else i can do. i feel like shes throwing her life away. will she regret having this kid?

2007-11-01 04:16:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

If so, how is your relationship with him now?

My husband is 41. His father was an alcoholic before he was born. He was never home, and when he was home he was mean and hated being a husband and father. He was killed in a bar when my husband was 17. All these years later he still wishes he had him, and thinks things would be different, but his identical twin is 66 and I can say that I don't think anything would be different if he were alive.

Did your father change or do you not see him now, etc.? I always think about Suzanne Somers and how her father was.

2007-11-01 04:12:00 · 10 answers · asked by Teresa 5

2007-11-01 03:54:02 · 10 answers · asked by non active 2

we came to a house where two guys where dressed up pretty scary and they was jus laying there like they werent real.the one got up off the ground to try to scare us and she jus looks at him and says "ooohhhh how scary laugh out loud "

2007-11-01 03:12:19 · 26 answers · asked by jesse m_violated for nothing 3

2007-11-01 02:48:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm going to be 18 in three months and I don't know where to go. I have my grandpa's and then I have my boyfriends. With my grandpa he's involved in a church that I'm forced to be involved in. My boyfriend wants me to take care of his son and drop out of high school and become and instant house wife. Then there is my dad and him and I aren't talking right now but he said he would let me stay. I just want to finally find some stability in my life.

2007-11-01 01:14:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous