I feel so horrible. my grandfather is in the hospital after having a mini stroke. now he cant eat anymore. he has to be fed through a tube. he refuses cause hes very stubborn and even tho he is 89 he doesnt want to be a cripple. my mom has been breaking down. we have been taking care of my mentally ill grandmother since my grandfather has been in the hospital. she has been a thorn in my mothers side. my mom is stressing out horribly. she woke up this morning crying and saying that my grandfather had been telling her to let him die. he has been snapping at her when she is not there. and when she is hes asleep. she keeps crying. she snaps at me a lot cause she is stressed. i have been depressed to begin with but this is driving me over the edge. same with my mom but she is probably in worse condition than me. she has no one helping her. she has no siblings and she is divorced. i feel like i am in complete darkness. my body is aching so much. i have no break.
2007-11-01 04:58:30 · 3 answers · asked by self-appointed queen of bs 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i cant go anywhere for relief. i hate school. i dread going everyday. to the point where i will cry knowing i have to go the next day. i havent told anyone that i am depressed. i began to tell my friend (but she normally doent believe me when i tell her that) and i came close to telling her that i have been cutting myself but i got to scared. i had an episode last night. i start crying uncontrollably and felt sick. i was freezing. and thought i was getting a fever. i went to bed crying and repeating over and over again "im sick". my eyes burn from crying. my mom let me stay home from school even though i was sick to help her out. im very tired. my body keeps aching.
2007-11-01 05:01:42 · update #1
i feel like i am in a bottomless pit. its horrible. i dont know what to do. and i nearly drowned at the beach with my friends last saturday so my mom keeps comming to me and hugging me and crying "you could have died! i cant beleive it i would be so lost without you" she is upset at my friends mom because she did not tell her. i told her not to tell my mom so that i could be the first but she is still mad. i cant take this. help.
2007-11-01 05:04:18 · update #2
I feel terrible for you, really I do.
It is admirable and mature of you to know that you need help and have the courage to ask. Maybe you can go one step further and ask someone who really can. No one on Y! Answers will be able to help you in the way that you need help.
There are many ways you can get help:
1. Tell your mom what you wrote here. She will help, I'm certain of that.
2. Go to a school counsellor, or a trusted teacher.
3. Contact suicide prevention. If you are hurting yourself, even a little, then you need to do this. Call 1-800-SUICIDE or 1-800-784-2433. They are professional and confidential. I know MANY people who got help on the first call and no-one else needs to know. I've listed several websites that might be able to help too.
PLEASE get help. And please contact me to let me know so I won't worry. You can IM or email me from my profile.
God bless you
2007-11-01 05:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by a_niceguy_in_virginia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. I'm sorry about your situation. Unfortunately we all have to deal with death and aging to different degrees throughout our lives. Of this we have no choice. Taking care of the elderly is very exhausting work. When they are losing their mental capacity and it's someone from your family (whom you love and care for) it is enough to break you. I think the thing is to keep in mind that you cannot control other people. They are gonna do and say whatever they wish when they wish. But there is one thing you can control - your reaction to the situation. One trick that is guaranteed to work every time - if you follow the exact instructions - can help your situation = The "10-3 deep breathe" technique - try it! IT WILL WORK EVERYTIME! First you breathe in to the slow count of ten, filling your chest and letting your tummy rise as you slowly count to ten, then slowly exhale completely to the count of ten, once again inhale to the count of ten then out to the count of ten and last time in to ten and out to ten...You should be left feeling a little ticklish in the middle of your stomache. That is the grounding rope you have keeping you steady with the earth (imagine). Your mind feels clearer to better face whatever it is you need to deal with. Pretty neat huh? Share this with your mom so she can have a nice break and not lose it too. Do it together and appreciate that you have each other in this time of need. Things could actually be a lot worse, luckily you are young and strong and resiliant. Hope this helped. Aloha.
2007-11-01 10:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by gmoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry that you are going through all of this and through it all alone...do you have a church that you go to? or one in your area that you can go to? they can probably help to find someone to come in and help your mom with the care of both of your grandparents. Probably someone that is familiar with their issues and it may not even cost anything, which i am assuming is why your mom has not gone for help yet. it is a very expensive and stressful situation and you and your mother both need some help. i pray that you will fo for help and find someone to help with your situation.
2007-11-01 05:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by bjjt_us 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋