As a junior in college, I plan to move states next year. My mom and I have had a close bond and now that I am leaving, it's very clear that it's hard on her. She says she supports me, but unconsciously, she's making it hard for me to leave (i.e guilt trips).
Just recently, she told me that if I go, my papa (grandfather) might get sick and I won't have the money to come and see him. When I told her I already set aside money to fly home, she said that if I come home, I won't be able to afford/make it for the funeral.
I was really hurt by this, but a friend told me that it definitely is possible and I should accept it and go. But I don't feel like I can 'just accept it'.
My mom's guilt trips are common these days but this one really stung, because it is a possibility. Talking with my mom hasn't worked, she just becomes more threatening. What should I do? How should I be feeling?
2007-11-03
21:01:44
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Kyoko
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