my dad has a new gf and my parents aren't even divorced yet, i dont not like her but i dont like her, and my dad can nevr be without her, so i really have no choice, to be with my dad i have to see her...so what should i tell my dad to tell him how i feel without hurting his feelings??
2007-11-03 20:45:54 · 10 answers · asked by Dj MB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell him youre glad he has a new girlfriend but can you spend some time alone with him at least once in a while. Tell him youre not trying to come between them but that youd just like to have some time just with him sometimes.
2007-11-03 21:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably likes all the attention a new relationship brings - which is normal - and he may just need to be reminded that you need him too. It is OK to ask your dad for some time alone together to do parent-child activities. Also, he should spend some time helping you to understand the reasons why they are divorcing. He is an adult and should be mature enough to listen to your feelings. Just try to present them calmly.
Good luck! (and remember divorces are usually due to problems between the spouses, not the kids, so don't even blame yourself or think that you could do something different to change the past.) Don't forget to pray a lot too.
2007-11-03 21:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your dad would get his feelings hurt if you told him that you miss alone time with him and want to go out, just the two of you. Tell him that you want to be free to say what's on your mind and you are uncomfortable talking about personal issues in front of someone that you don't know very well. Women can be so clingy, (I mean new gf, not you) and jealous over their men, even a man's daughter. She may not want him to go anywhere without her. Since he loves both of you she may see you as competition. Sounds silly, but it could be how she feels that's why she's so clingy. If you know that they are going to be together forever, or at least a long time, then you will have to get used to her, but that doesn't mean that she can cut you out of his life. Good luck.
2007-11-03 21:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by checkthisout! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your parents aren't officially divorced yet, but they may as well be. Their separation is no trial and they're not getting back together. Your father has every right to be happy with whoever he pleases. Unless this woman treats you poorly or you have a legitimate reason not to like her, there's no need for you to speak to your father. I think you're just a bit upset because you're jealous over the attention she is getting instead of you. Talk to your dad about that. Ask him for some father son time.
2007-11-03 20:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're very sweet to think of your Dad's feelings first, but you have to get him alone to talk to him. There are several ways you could do this. You could call him at work to arrange a meeting for lunch (just the two of you, of course) you could ask the girlfriend to excuse the two of you and have a conversation, or you could write him a letter and explain that you feel that you never get time alone with him anymore. If you're really brave, you could explain to the girlfriend that you'd like some time alone with your Dad and hope she respects that. Good luck to you, Sweetheart.
2007-11-03 20:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well FIRST and foremost.. your still his child,and you have the right to see your dad without his girlfriend there. Regardless of how she may feel. Explain to your dad you would like to spend quality ONE on ONE with him just the two of you doing the father/child bonding thing. That's what alot of parents seem to forget about when they divorce it doesn't mean they automatically change their relationships with their children.
good luck.
2007-11-03 21:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by dietitian4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to be honest with him. Tell him that right now you are trying to get used to having one parent at a time and would appreciate some alone time with him for awhile. If he doesn't understand or persists she comes along then tell him you just can't see him for awhile until he can spend time with only you.
2007-11-04 00:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The new GF is different, and that bothers you.
Thats normal. Face it, she's here to stay.
Unless she mistreats you, you've
got no real complaint.
You might tell your dad you miss him and want
some 'one on one` time. You'll probably get it.
2007-11-03 21:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Dad you are uncomfortable in her presence (he really is rushing it since they're not yet divorced.) if you and he are close and you feel like talking to him about it.
Ask him if you and he can do something alone like play tennis or something.
Joy to you!!!
2007-11-03 20:50:46 · answer #9 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him: You're feeling uncomfortable with the situation & you want to sit alone and talk it over.
-Cue your emotions to take it from here...
2007-11-03 20:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋