Family - November 2007

My daughter is dumb!!! DUMB DUMB DUMB!!!! I am so angry right now I could spit nails!!!

She withdrew from the university she is at and is planning to come home next semester!!! She waited so long that it's to late for her to go to a community college!!!

I am disugsted with her!!!
i want her out of my house!!!!

what should I do??!!!!!

2007-11-05 05:43:02 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have an argument at least once a week. Mostly it's for no good reason. I feel like he wants to get mad and needs drama in his life. He got mad at me yesterday and I explained to him that I didn’t actually do anything wrong, and since he couldn’t be mad at me any more, he chose a different approach to have some drama. He began crying. I was like, what’s wrong? He didn’t want to tell me because he beg him, and then he told me that his mom is being mistreated by his dad. Whatever he told me wasn’t a reason to cry over. I knew him for a while, and now I totally can see that he just looks for reasons to get mad or upset over. Could it be because he is craving for my attention? Each time he was sad, his mom would baby him and freak out that something is wrong. She would worry so much and I think that he misses that. He wants me to freak out about it to and baby him, but I don’t want to. His is not a baby but an adult. Am I misinterpreting his behavior? How should I handle his it?

2007-11-05 05:04:44 · 5 answers · asked by butterfly-sweetypie 1

I've asked my question last night and all answers were saying I was wrong to picked my family over my wife and children. I know I listened to my mom alot and I did what she told me to do to my wife and 1 yr old daughter. She kept telling me " I've brought you to this world and raised u up if you leave me, I'll disown you." and my younger sister also gave my wife hard time too. I told my wife no matter what my parents said even it's wrong I still listened to them. Now, she's in N. CA being 6 mons pregnant and taking care of my 1 daughter at her mom's. We still contact but I still want my wife to go back to live with my family but she doesn't want to. She said "even you're not with me I'll take care of our kids myself because I owned them for not giving them what they deserve. I'll always welcome you back when you realized how important we are to you because my kids only have 1 father." Now, I'm in S. CA all I can do is to hang out with friends and go home, I don't know wat else to do.

2007-11-05 04:53:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

What can I say or do to change his mind???
PLZZZ HELP!
I really enjoy modeling and I think I'm really good at it but now my dad has a problem with me modeling :..(

2007-11-05 04:51:00 · 5 answers · asked by Nicole ♥ 's Brazil! 6

what do i get him for his b-day? What do you get a guy who has everything??? I don't want to give him a gift certif. for anything..i want to give him something from the heart...you know what I mean...What can I get him???? Help

2007-11-05 04:39:47 · 7 answers · asked by terri2003anne 3

i dont know why i care but i worry about my daughter. her father has not tried to see her and his parent havn't either! i'm not allowed to talk to him at this time but he can speek with my mother and/or sister to see his child. he's came by twice and i've told him that i wasn't keeping him from his child and that if he wanted to start seeing her again he needed to talk to someone other then me. i found his g/fs email and wrote her(not being mean) saying that my ex can see the child and im not keeping her from him. she didn't write me back. idk what to do! i mean if it was the other way around i'd be trying to see my daughter all the time and wouldn't stop. my daughter is happy being with me and my family. i dont know why i care so much becuz my family gives her all the love she needs i just find it sad her fathers side can't do the same. and his g/f of only four months (who he's cheated all the whole time) are supposed to be getting married. you'd think she'd help him see her.

2007-11-05 04:34:38 · 1 answers · asked by mamma christy 1

i live w/ my boyfriend and his mom is literally a witch. shes horrible and she always is extremly rude and yells at us. last night boyfriend and mom got in a fight and she is giving us two weeks and kicking us out.. what am i going to do? im a broke college student and nither of us can save our money for nuthin. help!!

2007-11-05 04:18:00 · 16 answers · asked by fashionladyy8 2

My sister just asked me if my husband and I would be okay if she can put us down as her son's legal guardian if anything should happen to her and her husband.
I couldn't give her an answer right away.
What other aspects do I need to consider before coming to an answer? Financially?
Please give me any serious answers I could use.
Thanks in advance.

2007-11-05 03:58:47 · 5 answers · asked by pangfvlx 3

This woman just does not like me or approve of me, through no fault of my own. Let me explain. My hubby was married for 20 years and his ex was extremely close with his mother. They shopped together, called each other, etc. Well, after the divorce his mom felt like she has been fooled all those years because it turns out that her ex-daughter-in-law is a real piece of work and my hubby kept it concealed for all those years. So, he meets me and all through our courtship she disagreed with him being with me. Said it was too soon for him to move on, she doesn't like the fact that I brought two children under ten years of age into the relationship since his are grown, doesn't approve of the 15 year age difference, whatever! Well, even after being married and around these people for three years, there is a marked tension. They'll call here and talk to my hubby and not even ask about me, or when we do get together I will get the obligatory half-assed hug and kiss on the cheek.

2007-11-05 03:52:21 · 18 answers · asked by Marina 7

My mil wanted so much for my son to call her grandmother. My son calls his granddaddy, granddaddy. I keep telling my mil that my son will eventually call her grandmother. She does not want to hear this. Now my son calls her grandmother. I feel like she rushed him into doing this. When he is in her room she quizzes him on calling her grandmother. My mil is very evil. She wants things to be her way and only her way!

2007-11-05 03:51:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-05 03:42:58 · 12 answers · asked by non active 2

My grandmother recently died and now my nutty aunts have started waging a hate campaign against my mother because she told them off for being paraletically drunk after the funeral etc etc. They have sent her letters claiming my gran said all sorts re her while alive. Grant it my mother and gran didn't have the greatest relationship at times but they were both very frank with one another. She's received 2 letters now and much as she likes to say they don't hurt her, they do. Should I basically write to these cows or simply ignore them?? To be honest I'd love to give them a good hiding but that's not possible as they live in UK and US...any suggestions???

2007-11-05 03:29:17 · 16 answers · asked by izzif 1

There is a very beligerent, heavy drinking, relapsed alcoholic who is an in-law and scheduled to come with his wife (also an in-law) to our holiday dinner. For 20 years I put up with the my father-in-law being an alcoholic until he died and every get-together and meal of any kind was completely ruined.

Fast forward a few years and my sister-in-law marries an alcoholic who relapsed a two years ago with no intention of seeking help. Even before he drank he was beligerent, but now it's unbearable. He'll definitely ruin our holiday meal and will definitely bring his own liquor.

My husband thinks I'm making a big deal out of this (they're children of alcoholics), but the entire holiday get-together will indeed be ruined. He'll probably arrive drunk as well. His actions are literally nauseating (and I'm no prude).

The rest of the family drinks very reasonably and will want to drink wine etc. My "birth family" is dead so I want to look forward to a nice Christmas. What can I do?

2007-11-05 03:26:23 · 9 answers · asked by Bella 2

I'm 19 years old, and a guy. I have been raised by wonderful parents, except it seems the older I get, the worse it is everywhere! My parents treat me like a baby, and it is begining to affect my relationship with my girlfriend (in a way), her father, my girlfriend, and myself all feel as if my parents (mother especially) treats me like a baby! I was not allowed to get my permit till I was 16, then I didn't get my lisence till I was 19. I have just been allowed on the highway (because it was "too dangerous"). They said in the past they were afraid of me being an impulse driver, and I'm not at all! The worst thing is, they won't let me get a cell phone, a student loan, or even move out! It seems like their restrictions are getting tighter, and it hinders my ability to move on in life! And I started to believe them, they said not to get a student loan because debt! But if I don't I can't really go to college! And I can't buy a car without my parent's approval!

2007-11-05 03:22:57 · 33 answers · asked by Confessions 2

Heres the problem what should I do???
When my husband and I met he was activated by the USMC for a year. I then spent a lot of time with his family. Everything was cool typical family issues ya know. Well my brother in law is crazy, this I know now not then. Anyways he always acts up and gets into truoble(drugs, jail, dui, etc.) Well my mother in law does nothing about it. he pretty much rules the house. Well I just had our third child and I often go visit with the children by myself because my husband is always working. The last time I was doen there my sister in law and my brother in law got into a fight, yelling and screaming over something stupid. Well my sister in law had my youngest in her arms while she was yelling and fighting with my brother in law. Anyways, I got up and left and I told my mother in law , if they get out of hand just take the baby please. She agreed and the fight continued for like 4 hours. Well , I left the next morning cause it was so crazy. Now we have to

2007-11-05 03:22:54 · 20 answers · asked by KMGSP 2

I have been fortunate, because I have never had a family member die in my life, but this morning, I was told that my uncle passed away. He had been a heavy drinker at some points in his life and it was his liver. He was in his early 50's, and so is my mom. He is the 2nd oldest of 9 siblings in my mom's family. Our family was always very close. We had so much fun and I love all my aunties and uncles very much. I am finding this hard to deal with. I am sad, for his wife and for the rest of my family who I know will miss him. And I will miss him, no family event will be the same. But I also feel angry. I can not believe that he died so fast. No one got a chance to say goodbye. I feel angry with god for taking him, and for making it a reality that my mom will also eventually pass away. And he hid the fact that he was sick in bed for 8 weeks prior, so no one got a chance to be with him. I am just mad, and I feel terrible for that. I can't deal with this very well. I hate this.

2007-11-05 03:17:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

We were out for a meal for my other uncle's birthday and my aunty and uncle arrived. My uncle said to my Dad, jokingly (who's birthday it also was) "You look good for 70 (he's nearly 10 years younger). Then he said to me "You look good for 40 (i'm neatly 10 years younger). That was fine, as he was just joking. But then he went on "You need to put weight on though. If you stand sideways, you'll disappear." I'm the correct weight for my height and said "If the doctor says I'm alright, I'm alright. I'm not going to put weight on to please you." He said "Men like women with meat on them." I said "Not all men do." He said "Well, I wouldn't like to put my arm round you, just like I wouldn't like to put my arm round your aunty" (a different aunty). I said "You can't compare me to her, I weight 8 1/2 stone and she weighs 5 1/2 stone." And this is coming from a guy who is overweight and looks 9 months pregnant! Why couldn't he have just said "Oh you look nice"? Was I right to stand up to him?

2007-11-05 02:58:16 · 9 answers · asked by coz_6 1

2 tell you that she thinks your 5 month old baby is too fat and that when we go to the doctor the doctor will probally say something. (we went to the doctor and he said my ddaughter was perfect and it is too soon to worry about weight of an infant)
and sometmes she talks to me like i am 10 years old....it drives me crazy!!!! I told her i was not feeling well and she did not need to come over to watch my daughter while i went to school and she replied "are you really that sick..you cant go?"

i felt like i was 10..arghhh is this wrog or normal MIL behavour

2007-11-05 02:54:58 · 7 answers · asked by xoxo2u 3

Move out of state live our friends and be close to my husband mother, becouse my family live in Europe. We have baby my son 11 month .I was thinking my mother in law be close to my son grove up with same family members. And we move. Here dont have no friends , she no visiting to see her grandson for 5 month , from my house to hers 15minuts, all the time we go visit her but she never come to see grandson. And i get angry stop visiting . NO fiting no nothing. She have son he 23years He get some girl pregnant bolth dont live togeher dont communicat with her. But my mother in law everyday visiting that girl and her grandson .And i in family for 4 years married her older son ,work have help her.
15 hours ago - 3 days left to answer.

2007-11-05 02:39:42 · 5 answers · asked by tina 1

My wicked step sisters hate me and cause nothing but trouble for me and my family , they treat my mum like Cr&p and basically are jeolous of everything i do and my sister.

They really are a nasty pieces of work, they have turned my step dad totally agaist my other sister and my mum .

I am getting married very soon and i really don't want them there, but my step dad would be upset but he is blind to whatever hatefullness they cause and they can not do any wrong.

They only want his £££ and we just love him very sad people i am afraid to say and rather dangerous in there sneaky way of looking perfect all the time to him and making us look bad.

What would you do ????

Invite then or finally show how you really feel, they are awful to my mum who has brought them up from young as they are scrared she will get his £££ if anything happens.

My sister is already out of there family circle cause of them and my mum bless is in the middle .

What would u do ?

2007-11-05 02:31:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents and I have been fighting every week about very trivial things. I am 22 yrs old and in 4th yr Engineering in University. I don't go home until about 10pm every weekday due to schoolwork, and on Fridays and Saturdays I come home later from partying. On Sundays I am not home all day because I still go to school to work on group projects. And I am always with my bf most of those times. My parents (esp my mom) is complaining about how I am not at home all the time, and how I am not helping around the house. Wtf? I always wash the dishes when it's my turn, and on Saturday mornings/afternoon I stay at home to cook and help clean around the house. She also said that "You are in my house, so you will live by my rules." I totally snapped at that statement. She went so far as to say that "You are not setting a good example for your little brothers. You're not always home and you don't help around the house."

2007-11-05 02:26:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husbands grandmother lives next to us and will not leave us a lone for a second. She calls and comes over(walks right in) at least 5 times a day. Every time I leave the house she comes out to ask where I'm going and when I'll be back. She even goes through our grocery bags to "get ideas" for things she can buy. The last straw was I'm 7 weeks pregnant and not telling anyone yet. She walked in my house to see what I was making for dinner, picked up my prescription vitamins and read the label. Now she knows and is going to tell everyone. What do I say to this woman.

2007-11-05 02:22:05 · 9 answers · asked by klyn 2

I talk to my mil sometimes. Then I don't. I try to avoid her because she always is finding something silly to say when she is around me. The silly things are very mean and nasty. Why would she spend so much time trying to bring me down? Also, when she does these mean things to me they are done when no one is around or either they are out of earshot.

2007-11-05 02:13:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have an nineteen month old toddler, whom I stay at home with all of the time, he's not in daycare. Last night, I was sitting on the couch beside him and he was lying down because he had felt sick all weekend (stomach virus). He then got up, walked over to me, put his mouth on my arm and bit down as hard as he could it left teeth imprints and even a small rash the next day. I pulled him off of my arm, told him firmly "no you don't bite" took him to his room with the lights off and closed the door. That is the only form of time out I can use, it actually works. Then a few minutes later, I went to his room, he came out and I told him "you don't bite, that hurts, do you understand" he just sniffled and I kept repeating until he looked me in the eyes to let him know I was serious. Then he walked into the living room, laid on the couch, I ignored him and began cleaning the kitchen, and he fell asleep. Did I do this right? I was stunned, but hope he doesn't repeat this behavior. Advice?

2007-11-05 02:13:07 · 8 answers · asked by crymeariver 5

Me and my girlfriend are extremely emotionally attached to each other. To add to it we live a state apart (8 hours). We've seen each other about 5 times in the 3 months we've been together. Obviously not nearly enough. Its starting to cause problems. Every time I go visit her its harder to go. Now, we both feel a part of our being is missing when we're not together. I really don't want to see this happen. We're both 22 years old and we both know we gotta finish school now. We're both Christians as well. She knows I gotta finish school so I can support her for the long run. We both know we're meant for each other but its starting to make me worried when she gets busy and can't talk I feel horrible and same for her. It's like I KNOW this is silly, and I know our love for each other is very strong but as a man what do I have to do to ensure that she doesn't get physically sick over this? I see her at LEAST once a month but I don't want to see this get out of hand. I get worried...

2007-11-05 01:41:06 · 5 answers · asked by wblack528 1

My bf and I have been living together for almost 4 yrs now I have 2 children from a previous marriage and I get child support for them this money goes toward them and our household bills my bf pays for the mortage and his credit card bills the trouble is his mom and brother are really irrisponsible with thier money they buy things that are way too much for them to handle I don't mind helping someone out in need but how can I tell him to stop supporting them . It isnt fair when his brother's wife dresses better than I do and his brother calls my bf up crying that he has no $ for his kids and his mom has her utilities shut off cuz she is paying for all the bills cuz her new hubby wont get his lazy butt a job and help support her so she calls my bf crying too . they choose to live this way why do we have to bail them out time and time again ? and my bf is a giving person and loves them very much but I feel they are taking advantage of him what can I say ? and not seem mean ?

2007-11-05 01:05:45 · 9 answers · asked by ThE OnE aNd OnLy ..PEPSIGIRL 2

My mother in law likes to comes over to my house every week. she will leave messages on my machine and if I am busy with baby and do not answer them, she will take it upon herself to show up anyway. I love her but sometimes wish she would take the hint. Am I right to feel this way or am I being too harsh

2007-11-05 00:54:19 · 6 answers · asked by martha 1

I have this sister and she is interested in a married man even though myself and others in the family have expressed our disapproval. How do i make her see that he is using her. She has stopped talking about him to me but i know she is still in contact with him. Should i post some kind of comment on his myspace page like, "OH, maybe your wife would love to know that," or something. I don't want her getting used. And that is what he is all about.

2007-11-05 00:35:48 · 8 answers · asked by smokey virginia 3

If you found out that your mother was cheating on your father and confronted her about it but still she contnues what would you do?

2007-11-05 00:16:33 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My aunt is in a nursing home and I was visiting her everyday. I had to stop because it was tearing me up emotionally. I cut down to once a week. My mom said if I do not go more that she will get pneumonia and my aunt will sit and cry in her room and get kicked out. My aunt cries when I go visit her and tells me that I need to visit her the next day. My aunt cries and asks me to pray for her so she can survive the nursing home.

My mom won I am doing what she wants. I realize that this has set a president and my mom will do this again because it worked. My friends say that I need to keep my boundaries, take care of myself and only do what I can do. When I stopped going to see my aunt every day I started sleeping better and was less depressed. What should I do? I am back to my insomnia again this am. It is really early here.

2007-11-05 00:13:53 · 6 answers · asked by adobeprincess 6