"Why is my Mother-in-law so intent on my son calling her grandmother?"?

Question

My mil wanted so much for my son to call her grandmother. My son calls his granddaddy, granddaddy. I keep telling my mil that my son will eventually call her grandmother. She does not want to hear this. Now my son calls her grandmother. I feel like she rushed him into doing this. When he is in her room she quizzes him on calling her grandmother. My mil is very evil. She wants things to be her way and only her way!

Answer 1

What difference does it make if he calls her grandmother, grandma, nanny etc. I don't see how evil that is. Unless, you are just upset about the issue she is making out of what her tittle is and how she is going to an extreme to get her grandson to use it. You need to let this go. I would just watch to see if she acts the same way about other situations with him.

Answer 2

Really whats the big deal be happy your son even has a grandmother! Sh*t he was going to call her that anyway if she is his grand mother and even if he may be a child by another relationship you married into that one so either way she would be his grand mother stop making such a big deal out of nothing. This is why or children ar e so "F"ed up now because of parents making big deals out of nothing when there is so much more that you could be doing with your time and your son's time she's apart of his life is she not just leave it alone.

Answer 3

I don't think your mil is being evil. When your son was calling his granddad granddaddy, she prob felt left out. She's happy to be a grandmother. She's happy to be called grandmother.

It is also possible that she is insistent on name calling as she sees it as a sign of aaknowledgement and respect. My dad's side of the family is like that. When I go back to visit them, I have to call everyone by their family "title" everytime I see them. That extends to my many many uncles and aunties (which all have different auntie and uncle family titles in Chinese. And yes, I had to remember all of the them). It's more like acknowledging them and their presence and therefore a sign of respect.
(All children in my dad's side of the family were taught the "titles" and it was imposed on them to practice it even though one may not feel like it as a child. But it helps with the issue of respect from the child's view when the child gets older.)

Answer 4

Not sure of the entire family situation.....but I think she's lonely and wants to feel loved. And when people get older.....they look for a meaning in life. She's found a child that is now part of her family. She yearns for those times when she raised her children and is trying to capture that moment again with your son.

I don't think the "Grandmother" thing is that big of deal. But if she is being intrusive into your relationship with your son.....you'll have to draw the line. Either mention it to your husband and let him deal with it. If he can't, then you will have to have a talk with her.

Remember....when you married your husband.....you married the mother too. It's important for you to work out your issues with her.....or your marriage will not work.

Answer 5

I don't see how it's evil to ask the child to call her grandmother? Unless you are saying she's evil in other ways?

I think it should be the CHILD'S CHOICE, not your mother in law's choice. There is a difference between telling the child "it's ok to call me grandmother" and "you have to call me grandmother".

YOU have the right to let your son know he can make his own choices.

And if she imposes HER way on you, set some personal boundaries and limits... just because she wants you to do things her way, doesn't mean you will.

take care.

Answer 6

Wouldn't your mother in law be your son's grandmother anyway? Or is he your son from a previous relationship?

Answer 7

Because she's his grandmother, perhaps? Every family and grandparent has a preferred term they'd prefer the child use...granny, grandma, nana, etc. She happens to prefer grandmother.

Answer 8

some people are weird i guess
my mom like to be called mamaw and my mil wants to be called mammy
i guess if the kid is ok with it then let him do it so she will stay off your back lol

Answer 9

that's how my mother in law is,it's not because she is evil,they just don't want to feel old when being called maw-maw or granny,it's OK and you shouldn't be taking so much offense to it.they are just grandparents who have grand kids and don't want to be called anything old.lets not get sensitive.

Answer 10

sounds like she likes to do things to make you mad.carney