I have this sister and she is interested in a married man even though myself and others in the family have expressed our disapproval. How do i make her see that he is using her. She has stopped talking about him to me but i know she is still in contact with him. Should i post some kind of comment on his myspace page like, "OH, maybe your wife would love to know that," or something. I don't want her getting used. And that is what he is all about.
2007-11-05 00:35:48 · 8 answers · asked by smokey virginia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that it's your sister's life, and she can mess it up any way she wants. She knows you disapprove, along with your family.
He's a cheater, also. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
If your sister doesn't take sound advice, she's going to have to learn the hard way. Maybe she needs to?
take care.
2007-11-05 00:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But who knows may be they have a very open marriage & his wife is out seeing other men also. So before you do anything you should check this out first. I she could also be cheating on him (& they don't have a open marriage) & this is his way of getting back at her, by seeing your sister.
Don't do any postings on mypsace because it may end up hurting your sister.
After you find out all the facts & you find that he is the only cheater & you feel you have to do something then mail his wife a letter telling her that you think that she should be concerned about her marriage, because you have heard & others have seen her husband out with other women. Now you need to mail this from a different town then your own & use a computer to write it or a typewriter (or computer) at the library don't sign it, & do not put a return address on the envelope.
By making it plural you aren't saying just one (your sister), & you are suggesting to his wife that there maybe problems in their marriage. If you can type the address on the envelope do not hand write it. this way it stays anonymous.
2007-11-05 08:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're between a rock and a hard place. On one hand you want to protect your sis from being used by this man but on the other hand if you interfer you could become the villian. If he is using her I'd bet he's also doing the same thing to another woman. If you are able, find out, with a little investigation of your own. Then just happen to show up say at the same restaurant that he's at with this other woman. She's not going to just take your word for it. She's under his spell. You have to show her what kind of man he truly is before she'll believe it. It will take a little work but seeing it for herself will bring her back to her senses. Don't you just hate men like this!!!!
2007-11-05 08:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being in an extramarital relationship can end up in a potentially dangerous situation. I would not advise posting anything on his site, because he may end up taking it out on your sister. Remind her that people have ended up either dead or in prison over these situations, and the list is growing every day. Go online and find a few crime facts, show them to your sister and let her decide what to do.
2007-11-05 08:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by bjstree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer Smokey. Tell the wife. Let her know her husband is a jerk and then when he is done with your sister he won't be able to keep playing the field.
If you just stop your sister then men like these just keep moving and believe it our not some wives don't even have a clue.
2007-11-05 08:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you tell her not to do it is going to get worst tell you because every time you say that to somebody nothing makes the person more curios than experience it just let her see that she is young and she should go for something better i mean a man that it's not engage.
2007-11-05 08:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should mind your own business. His wife already knows he's a cheat and a liar, and apparently that's ok with her. You cannot control your sisters behavior and lack of self respect, but what she chooses to do is not your business.
2007-11-05 08:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you need to do something! hes a horrible person to break his vow like that. hes supposed to be with her and only her, not have some poor girl on the side. tsk tsk tsk
2007-11-05 08:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by Brittney Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋