Move out of state live our friends and be close to my husband mother, becouse my family live in Europe. We have baby my son 11 month .I was thinking my mother in law be close to my son grove up with same family members. And we move. Here dont have no friends , she no visiting to see her grandson for 5 month , from my house to hers 15minuts, all the time we go visit her but she never come to see grandson. And i get angry stop visiting . NO fiting no nothing. She have son he 23years He get some girl pregnant bolth dont live togeher dont communicat with her. But my mother in law everyday visiting that girl and her grandson .And i in family for 4 years married her older son ,work have help her.
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2007-11-05 02:39:42 · 5 answers · asked by tina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sister in law she inviting to thanksgiving day go to mother in law house, but M-in law she did't inviting or calling my house. And am not going i can't protent is ok.
2007-11-05 02:43:28 · update #1
It is clear... she is playing favorites.
If she doesn't want to see you, then don't see her.
Just be glad that she is trying to run the other brother's life and not yours.
Find a playgroup for the kids and use that as an opportunity to meet other families in the area.
2007-11-05 02:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why some mothers do this but here is my understanding of it-
She is playing favorites with the other son because he is still with her and she still has control over him.
You "took her (other) son away" from her and it's hard for her to not be the main woman in her sons life anymore.
What she is doing is WRONG, but both of my grandmothers are guilty of it! They favored the grandchildren of the child that stayed with them the longest. And it was always the worst child, but you'd think they were a gem the way their mothers would speak of them.
Also, she sees that you have kept coming to visit, so there's no incentive for her to take the initiative to come see you. She knows she can take from you.
If you bring this up to her, she'll probably deny it and say you're being ridiculous. Have you talked to your husband about it and pointed it out to him? It's a sticky situation because it's his mother, but it's also unfair to your child to not have his grandmother around. I think that maybe for now, for the sake of your son, you should put your feelings aside. It's HER problem, you have done nothing wrong. Don't let it get to you because she is the one with issues. And I really think you might want to mention it to your husband. Good luck!!
2007-11-05 02:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by rockinrisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tina:
You have asked this question 5 times. What answer would you like. Talk to your mother in law and let her know how you feel. Either she will change or tell you to get lost. Either way you will get an answer and this way you could stop asking the same thing over and over again.
2007-11-07 08:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to begin making new friends where you are. go to the park and meet other young mothers with babies. Leave the drama of your mother in law and forget it. Focus on your husband too
2007-11-05 02:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REMEMBER THIS...you married her son and NOT her, stop tryin so hard, you can't make someone accept you or your son. Live for you & your family, and noone elses. Make a Thanksgiving dinner at your home. Don't kiss noones butt to get along with them.
2007-11-05 02:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋