2 tell you that she thinks your 5 month old baby is too fat and that when we go to the doctor the doctor will probally say something. (we went to the doctor and he said my ddaughter was perfect and it is too soon to worry about weight of an infant)
and sometmes she talks to me like i am 10 years old....it drives me crazy!!!! I told her i was not feeling well and she did not need to come over to watch my daughter while i went to school and she replied "are you really that sick..you cant go?"
i felt like i was 10..arghhh is this wrog or normal MIL behavour
2007-11-05 02:54:58 · 7 answers · asked by xoxo2u 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
normal?
some would say "yes" and some would say "no".
as for your MIL, yes, it's normal...for her, apparently.
unfortunately, the best thing you can do is just grin and bare it.
some may say to talk to her and hash things out, but trust me....it will not go well and hopefully, she just has the best intentions and just wants to help with your daughter. she may not even realize that she's offending you. some people are just very opinionated and don't always know how to shut it off or tone it down.
jsut let it go and find an outlet to vent your frustrations and that may help a little!
take care:)
2007-11-05 03:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are but have you spoken to her about it? If you mention your concerns, and, if the baby weight is still an issue, that you spoke to the doctor about it, in a mature manner then perhaps you can sort things out between the two of you? You could make it clear that you respect her advice and you are doing your best to be a good mother but it can feel a bit overwhelming at times to be addressed in that manner.
2007-11-05 03:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Zero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal MIL behavior, but you are lucky. She is being caring and concerned instead of just mean. Count your blessings! If this is your complaint then you are truly blessed to have her.
When she is treating you like you are 10 just say thank you, when she is complaining about your child's weight, don't even acknowledge her, or better yet, take her to the next doctor's visit with you so she can be there to see what the doc says.
2007-11-05 03:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's common. Some only mean well by it and don't mean to offend, but it always does though. Makes you seem like you're incompetent when your not. Even my own mother would make those kind of remarks, but it's always the other way around. Like, "He's so skinny, do you not feed him?" That pisses me off it's like insinuating that I don't feed my child and I let him starve. Just because he is skinny doesn't mean he isn't healthy.
2007-11-05 03:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, so as that they like to make certain your baby on the week ends. If the baby back homestead final week end and left this weekend. in the event that they gained't enable him to be in harms way and that they spend time with him on the weekends and you're able to desire to paintings? he's merely going to could desire to learn, each and every homestead has diverse regulations. no longer that everyday of a deal. do no longer make it out to be one. that's in comparison to she is under no circumstances going to permit you and her son have the baby back. As for the spanking to each their very very own, I spanked my infants and predicted all and sundry Else to realize this in the event that they acted up....... there is not any longer something incorrect with spanking a baby. massive distinction in spanking on the backside and abuse. To be honest in case you have been ringing my telephone off the hook, I too could be project to turning the ringer off. enable them high quality time. As a grandparent now of a 8 month old grand daughter. Her mom and that i do no longer see eye to eye on some issues, yet this is existence and we manage it. i should additionally say, whilst the child gets older my son and daughter in regulation agree a spanking won't harm them. as quickly as lower back I rigidity spanking no longer abuse and you already mentioned they does no longer injury him or project him to wreck
2016-10-03 09:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by emanus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your mother in law's place to give her opinions about your baby's weight, and i'm sure you take it to the doctor regularly, and are a good mother.
Your best bet is just to ignore anything your mother in law says -- just let it go... and don't react to her comments or strike up a conversation about her dumb opinions.
Your life is YOURS. Live it as you please.
2007-11-05 03:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's common. They butt in when you don't need them and then when you do they complain.
2007-11-05 03:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋