Family - November 2007

2007-11-06 08:34:03 · 4 answers · asked by cindy 1

My husband does not support me often when dealing with our sons who are 17 & 18. He actually feels that they have equal rights when a situation occurs. If they stay out all night he won't tell them to knock it off. If I do, they just ignore me. This is just one example. I feel he has undermined my authority and they don't have respect for me. I believe while they live here they are accountable to us. It seems he wants to be their friend which I disagree with. His father died when he was 14 so he was deprived of his father early. I think that may be why he doesn't "parent" them at times. If I feel strongly about certain issues, shouldn't he back me? I'm not trying to control them, but I feel that it is a matter of respect for them to behave in an appropriate manner while they live here. Not come home drunk, (has happened a couple of times), not blow me off when I ask them to do a chore, that type of thing. Am I wrong to be angry at my husband?

2007-11-06 08:33:43 · 9 answers · asked by Chloe 6

Ever since I can remember, my parents were too old to keep up with me . Their attitude was always "Why go out and have fun when we can stay home ?" . They griped and complained every time I wanted to go to the movies, or to another town . I didn't like that, and I swore I'd never put my children through that . NOW -- if your parents are older than most, what kind of an experience was that for you ? Did your parents push themselves to keep up with you, or did you have to have to sacrifice so your parents could take it slow and easy ? Did your parents gripe and complain whenever you wanted to have fun ? Was having older parents a good or a bad experience for you ? Do you think it's okay for parents to be old ? Are there any difficulties with having older parents that I didn't mention ?

2007-11-06 08:20:08 · 2 answers · asked by I_hate_being_single 3

My mom said I can get a tattoo for christmas. I am only 13, but i really want one. Is it wrong to get one at a young age. I go to chruch. I am not a bad teenager. I dont know what to do. Someone can you help?

2007-11-06 07:51:53 · 13 answers · asked by Chelsie (I think Im in love) 1

I have been with my hubs for 4 years now, we have 2 beautiful children, and he is in the military. He joined just over a year ago and ever since right before then his family has gone completely nuts. I used to be really close with his sister, then she got a bf and destroyed expensive clothing of mine and wouldnt replace it...and i decided she was not the type of person I want to be friends with. anyhoo when he left to join, his mother called me one day out of the blue called me every name in the book, accused our son (only 1 then) of not being his, thinks our sex life is her business, got pissed when we bought a car together and she wasnt involved, ect ect. she has always been 2 faced, talking bad about her own children her sister brother ect, and I have come to the point where I dont want my children growing up around people like her, i will be damned if I let her say untrue bad things to MY kids! My husband is 100% supportive, but its such a sad situation. Any suggestions to move on

2007-11-06 06:47:09 · 22 answers · asked by mommyof2 1

She always has to scream and yell and im telling her to shut up! and i get in trouble for it!!! ITS SO ANNOYING!!! HELP ME!!!

2007-11-06 06:45:48 · 4 answers · asked by ♥Webkinz Lover Lilly♥ 2

to those who responded soo negatively and didn't read the last part i put in there.
My husband calls me because he wants to call me and he wants to talk to his son as well. He works 12 hour shifts some nights and doesn't see us much during the day. I love seeing the smile on my son's face when he talks to his daddy on the phone. So it has nothing to do with me clinging to him and i'm not worried that he's cheating on me or anything like that. We have a healthy happy marriage and wouldn't change a thing! I only see my husband maybe for 3 hours a day. He works alot of weekends as well so we try to stay close! Our son is learning new stuff every day and it's exciting to tell my husband about it!

2007-11-06 06:41:27 · 2 answers · asked by JumpingBean 3

My husband of 1 month and I are moving back to my hometown in a month. We've been discussing where we wanted to live for a while now, and being there makes the most sense for us. Both he and I found good jobs there, we already have land to build a home on, I have a large family very close by, and the town supports the community lifestyle we want for our future children. However, his mother is hurt. She wants us closer to her. How can we assure her that she will be part of our lives? We feel terrible about this, but it is the right thing for our lives. How can I help him feel less guilty? I feel sad for him that his excitement about a new job and moving out of the large city we live in now is dampered by this. And I feel sad for her that her son won't be close by and that she is jealous of the relationship my family will have with us.

2007-11-06 06:37:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

How old do you have to be to change your surname with your mothers permission, i'm 16, can I change it now?

2007-11-06 06:36:52 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby ALWAYS calls me on his breaks. 5pm 8 pm and 10 pm. WELL I was sooooooo worried alll last night because he did not call. I understand that he was busy and his phone crapped out on him but he knows that I'm a worry wart and I was soo sick to my stomache thinking the worst possible has happened. Should he have tried to find another phone to use to let me know he wouldn't be able to call me? They hardly ever answer their phone where he works because it is sooo loud and always very busy and I couldn't exactly drive there with my 15 month old asleep.
When he finally got home I was soo relieved but I broke down crying, I don't know why. I don't want to go through that again!

2007-11-06 06:25:03 · 48 answers · asked by JumpingBean 3

My mother is single and lives alone. She has always taken favours from me but rarely gives them back. She always has asked for favours from my family from shovelling her sidewalk to letting her stay with us for a month till her new house was ready. But when it's my turn to ask for favours like babysitting for a few hours,.. etc she either says no or backs out of it last minute. What should I do? I wanted to have a relationship with her, but I don't think I can. When I do hang out with her, she doesn't seem interested in what is happening in my life or in my kids at all. She more or less ignores them when they try to tell her their little stories. Mostly she uses the time to tell me everything about what is going on with her. It's sad, because I don't think she will change as she is a very defensive person. Well, my question is how do I have a relationship with a person like this, especially being that she is also my mother with out being a doormate?

2007-11-06 06:16:22 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister's ex-husband physically abused her and her kids. We helped her get separated and she eventually got a divorce. She then got engaged to another man but sadly she was involved in car accident in which she was left paralyzed from the waist down. Her stupid fiance left her shortly after that when she was still in recovery. She moved in with our family and of course wasn't able to work. We noticed one of the nurses that cared for her when she was hospitalized had become good friends with her and would check in on her a lot. Then she started taking her out and low and behold one day my sister announced she was in love with his lady and they were moving in together. Now it's been 6 months and my sister seems to be happy after a long time. This woman takes care of my niece and nephew like they are her own children. She's working two jobs now because my sister cannot work yet. She wants to put the kids in private school. We feel like she's going a little overboard for our approval.

2007-11-06 05:09:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Met someone online 9 mo's ago. We spoke briefly-phone & then drifted apart. He contacted me 2.5 mo's ago. I responded. I did a background check & all is good. We began speaking via phone-2 wks. We met in person. We hit it off. It's really difficult 2 spend time together since we live about 40 miles apart & we've got responsb/children. We are both in our early 40's, married 2x's & fulltime single parents. We are much alike & want the same things. We are a great match. We've gone out together w/children & that's all good. We do not not want to depend on leaving children constantly w/baby sitters. Kids on both sides get along great. He suggested we alternate weekends in visiting each others home. That may make us vulnerable to sex. We both have very strong feelings f/one other. We have much respect f/ our children & rather wait. I want 2 know more about him-before I become more involved w/ him how can I tell he is really serious about our relationship? it's been a while since I've dated.

2007-11-06 04:55:41 · 2 answers · asked by metalgods 4

My dad looks at pornography... he hid it from me but I'm not stupid... I caught him looking at RealityKings.com.

Also I'm the kind of person who wakes up in the middle of the night and then goes back to sleep. Lots of times I'll hear my parents having sex (they are loud!) down the hall. GROSS! Dad's 50, mom's 40 btw. And the next day their bed's a MESS, they don't clean up! EWWWW

Help me not to be so grossed out, I don't love my parents and they don't love me, they are just people I live with. But STILL its nasty!

2007-11-06 04:51:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

A girl is three years old and her brother is three times as old as she is. When the girl is 7 years old, how old will her brother be?


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2007-11-06 04:48:14 · 10 answers · asked by george t 1

He said he is going to go to court & try to change custody so that he can live with him during the week (he lives 2 hrs away) but he lives with me during the week and has since he was born (he's four). We have joint legal custody but physical custody is 60/40, I have the 60%. Is there a chance that the court would take my son away from me and give majority to his dad and only give me two days a week with my son when I raised him from birth and all these years his dad flaked on getting him about half the time? I'm so scared that it will happen. I'm an excellent mother to him and I've never had a problem w/alcohol or drugs or the law. So he has nothing on me but I'm just scared that he'll be taken from me. Please anyone with info or advise on this I would appreciate anything. thanks.

2007-11-06 04:42:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my dad died when i was 4 months old a pertunity test was never done but the social security has on file that my dad was on my record as my dad for 3 days which means i never got and ss... no big deal my mom did awesome job with out it anyways so i talked to my step grandma and back when they asked them if he should be put on they said yes which means 3 days later my real grandma called and told them no and i met my dads family when i was 13 because my dads mom was very mean to my mom and denied i was her (she still does) granddaughter do i have the right to be mad and if so should i confront her or just ignore her like i have since the day i met her

2007-11-06 04:41:42 · 5 answers · asked by Miranda 3

my dads a good guy, but hes trying to be way to involved in my life, im 19, i have a job, my own house, and a few kids. im happy, but my dad keeps saying im wasting my life, because of my younger bf, he hates him and hes never even met him. i love my bf, how do i get my dad to accept him? hes 16.

2007-11-06 04:24:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my boyfriend have only been together for 9 months and i am seven months pregnant with his son. though we have not been with each other for very long, i am in love with him and intend on marrying him. we just recently got our own place.... and his mother moved in. the closer and closer it got to her coming... the more and more i didn't like her or the situation. she is only 52 and doesn't work, have a car or licens, she is well over weight, lazy, and a terrible alcoholic. i hate her so much for being there and can't get past it. i don't want her to live with me. i am only 19 and pregnant... i didn't picture it this way. i thought that when i started a family it would be me, my spouse, and our child... well now that his mother is there i don't even know if it will work between me and him. i don't mean to pick, but i catch myself doing it and he is always getting mad at me. this is a big issue. im going crazy!!! What should i do?

2007-11-06 04:11:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-06 04:08:02 · 12 answers · asked by jesse m_violated for nothing 3

I was never married to my son's father. I haven't seen him since 2002. I haven't gone to court over custody or child support. Do I have sole custody?

2007-11-06 03:59:26 · 7 answers · asked by Spunky 1

OK..lately my step daughter (she is 8) has been acting strange. She will not respond to her father if he yells at her for somethig she did not do..she just gets into a mood and totally withdraws...when she is tired..she will just stop walking...talking nice doesnt work...yelling doesnt work..and if you need to go somewhere..one of us has to carry her....if we tell her to get dressed, she will procrastinate and not want to do it, or she will say she is cold when she gets out of the shower but not understand that by drying off and getting dressed she wil be warmer faster. Sometimes getting her to school is a struggle (she has to wear a uniform) so she will not talk. and is sulking and when i try to dress her starts wrigling and fighting me because she does not want to get changed. At first I thought she was just being spoiled, but now it seems as if something is wrong. I dont know if its physical mental or some deep issue she is having? has anyone experienced anything like this?

2007-11-06 03:59:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi,My dad is a widower of two years.

My siblings are: 22 years old (autistic) and 15 years old (with a history of emotional problems after my mom's death)
My dad asked me yesterday at dinner if I could watch my siblings for three weeks, while he flies down to Brazil to visit his girlfriend of 4 months. He expects to be gone for Christmas.
I told him no. He states, "I am being selfish and controlling his life."
I feel most single parents do not up and leave to go to exotic countries. If anything, they take their children with them for the trip. He states it's too expensive.
His girlfriend has vacation during Christmas because she is a teacher. I asked why she can not come up here. She is single and has a self sufficent 24 year old daughter. She plans to return to the US in 5 months.

And I being irrational about this? Please help.

2007-11-06 03:53:11 · 9 answers · asked by pasta812 1

my family treats me like s**t,and iam so sick of there bull s**t.my sister who lives with my mom tells me that just cuz i don't even live there anymore that i can't eat there.my mom says that she really don't even care if i eat there.i pay for there rent,and lights.eveytime i even get money my sister begs me for it,and that is getting really old to.so i've made up my mind,i won't go over there anymore,but since my mom won't come over to my house,how the hell iam i going to see her?

2007-11-06 03:48:43 · 8 answers · asked by mary s 1

Hey U Guys I Just Moved To England And I Go To School And All. My Dad Ain't Here Yet But He Gonna Come In Like 1 Month. With My Dog. My Mom Just Started Her New Job And She Gets Out Of The House At 8:00Am And Gets Back At Like 6:15Pm. And Im In Da House Alone From 3:15 To 6:15. I Don't Have Any Bros Or Sises. I Feel So Lonly At That Time. My Mom Says She Will Work At That Job For 2 More Months And Then Going To Work At Anoter Place. Now What Can i Do In The Meantime? ANd How May I Get Her To Maybe Quit Early?

2007-11-06 03:47:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a thirteen year old girl, and my parents are really over protective... See, my sister made some mistakes in her past, and now my mom lost trust in me as well, even though I didn't do anything.. So my sister's mistakes influenced their trust in me as well (especially my mom's). They won't let me out with friends to the movies, or ANYTHING! They won't even let me go out to the park or something... My B-day is coming up soon (nov.16) and I'm not able to celebrate it out with friends because of NO REASON! How can I earn their trust?... I really appreciate honest and serious answers... It's like I'm stuck in prison.. Home-school, home-school.. I don't go anywhere else.

2007-11-06 03:28:03 · 9 answers · asked by introspective rissa 4

I was told, some 20 years ago, that a daghter will never grow taller than her biological father.
I have made it my business to observe this, and have asked many girls..especially the tall ones..the height of their fathers.
Has anyone else noticed this to be the case.?
The only 2 exceptions I found..both girls looked a lot like mother, but nothing like dad.

2007-11-06 03:27:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok this is what happened, I was looking for my mom's camera, and so I looked in the den, and I see my 16 year old brotherlooking at ponography video(s)! He told me not to tell Mom or he'll hurt me (because he really can)! What should I or he do?

2007-11-06 03:01:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm 20 yrd old and i still live w/ m dad. he's EXTREMELY old fashioned, so the question about moving out never really was an option until marriage. at 20, i still had to ask permission to be able to go out, and had to come back home early. couldn't sleep over @ a friend's house or anything like that.
for a long time i've thought about it but i never really did abything, but recently i stayed over @ a friend's house since she had a party and i wasn't able to drive, and he made this HUGE deal of it to the point were i CAN'T go out at night anymore. he's reasoning for it is since i'm in college my grades have been going from bad to worse and my GPA has gone down, so b/c i can't seem to get my priorities straight until i bring up my GPA to a certain lvl i won't have my going out rights...

i want things to cool off before i make ANY decisions, but i don't want to take the "easy" way out of my problems either...that's why i wanted to know ya'll's opinion. Thank you!

2007-11-06 02:59:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok i live with this guy .all most 3 years he makes good money i am disabled. his son of 19 works he lives here to he dont pay no bills he dont even buy his own razers or toilet paper. his dad buys it all for him i give him $300 a mounth i only get $623.my kids live in ky about 2 hours away. his mom lives there to when i go see my kids i only get see them 1 hour. he spends about 5 hours at his moms i dont mind going to his moms but is it fair to me.i help pay bills my oldest girl starts school in jan its not free i give her money to help her he jumps my *** he says my girls are just useing me. should i leave.

2007-11-06 01:53:51 · 6 answers · asked by s k 2