Family - November 2007

My mom and I live in an apartment. She refuses to clean it with me. She says she doesn't have time. It's got fleas and roaches and our dogs poop everywhere. There are stacks of garbage and boxes of stuff from when we moved in last year. I have flea bites all over me and roaches in my bed. I keep my room clean and I eat mac n cheese from the microwave for dinner while I wait for her to get home. I talked to her about it and told her I was embarrassed to bring friends over, but she says we'll just leave the door shut all the time so people can't see. Dad's house is clean all the time. I want to live with him and my sister. Mom says she'll take him to court if he takes me away from her. What do I do?

2007-11-07 04:43:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I moved out of my house cause of course i am old enough...now my mom brother and sister are touturung me. They do stuff to hurt my feelings and my brother even went as far as beating up my boyfirend..what should i do!

2007-11-07 04:32:42 · 10 answers · asked by deprived08 2

My Mother and Father were divorced, my Mother was remarried with children when my Father died in Nov.1968. My Father left my Mother a letter earlier that year, which is a will.. At the time of his death, he was buyin some land. In this letter, he states he wants my Mother to take the money that would be coming in from S.S. to pay the land off, and make sure that his daughter got it. My Mother paid the land off, and somehow got the Deed put in her name.Then in 1999 she gave it to my half Brother. This land was in my Fathers Succession. When I had found that out, I had no choice, but to get an attorney. Last year I dropped the law suit, to save face with my family, thinking that they would do the right thing, and have the Deed put in my name...Not, my half Brother is still on the Deed....My question is...Why do I have to settle with half of what, was to be mine. Brother had the nerve to tell me he was (giving) me half, how is that ,when its not his to give? The nerve of some people..

2007-11-07 04:22:41 · 6 answers · asked by Confused 1

Throughout our relationship, his mom has been very controlling: treating us like children, calling and coming over all time, wanting to pay for things, getting upset when we didnt participate in family events, etc. Then everything got worse the day we first told them we were moving out of state, they went balistic and said a lot of disrespectful things to me b/c it was for my job, but he chosen to come with me. I have not spoken to his mother since that day, which was 2 yrs ago. Through this time, my boyfriend's relationship has deteriorated w/his family too. They barely talk on phone and when they do they start fighting. His family asked to come visit us and we refused b/c his mother wants to act like nothing ever happened without confronting the issue or apologizing to me. We our going visit our home state soon (my fam still lives there too) and I know if I try and sit down and talk with her, she wont want to talk about it and things will escalate. What should I do?

2007-11-07 04:15:48 · 20 answers · asked by ddok 4

I am 22 yrs old and I have a 3 yr old daughter. I live with my boyfriend at his mothers house (he is the father of my child). I have been looking for an apartment or house for us to move in for a few months now and I finally found one. It's right down the street from his moms house and all his friends are still around, but now he's saying he doesn't want to move because he currently doesn't have a job. I told him we might have to struggle at first, but we need to live on our own... I mean, we have a family now. He said he doesn't want to have to struggle and he doesn't want to live on a budget, but I feel we need to be more responsible. It's not that I want to struggle... no way! who wants to do that? I just think it's the right thing to do. we need to start from somewhere and learn on our own. no one is going to be there to guide us all our life. am I right? he insist that I'm trying to move too fast and I'm not thinking. I have a job and I do make enough to pay everything on my own

2007-11-07 03:54:27 · 11 answers · asked by DADDYSGAL 2

So,my mom is Really honestly getting on my last nerve,I am 18 years old and almost 19 in a couple of mths.I am a girl who focus on the important things in life. I use to be close with my mom when i was younger we no longer are.As i get older she is difficult to speak too. She already found out about a mth ago a guy tried to rape me,which is attempted rape.and guys havent treated me well.She makes me feel she is trying to control my life.I have a new boyfriend which has been treating me very well.he is well mannered,gentlemen everything of good he is it.I for once feel Very happy. My mom is trying to tell me what i should do and not do..she tells me i shouldnt call him,he should always call me..i should do this and that.. Its getting on my last nerve.I am going away in february to a different college.I do have my own Job etc.But what do i say and do? i am at my witts end.She is getting too bossy at me and i dislike the attidude at me. Help!

2007-11-07 03:52:10 · 3 answers · asked by Andrea 3

What is your opinion?

2007-11-07 03:36:26 · 11 answers · asked by MiMi ♥ 4

My Brother, Twin brother, is doing drugs. I never caught him in the act but it is so easy to notice that I don't NEED to catch him. How can I get him to confesse and get help??

2007-11-07 03:29:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello Everyone, I am a single mother with a 5 year old dauther I go to school full time, work full time, and send my daughter to private school. I am from MA and my boyfriend is from NY. He like to go visit his family atleast twice a year. I do not want to come in between that at all.
We were talking about how I feel if he would like to be a family for the holidays as he has stated this then throughout the year he should save for tickets, car rental and extra funds not just for himself but for us as a family (mind you we have been together for 3yrs) He got upset about my comment. I am not unwilling to contribute funds but if he truely wanted us to go up as a family wouldnt he save for the three of us not just himself? Again, I want to contribute but feel he should contribute more as he makes twice as much as I do and I have other expenses them him? What are your thoughts and how can I communicate where he will listen better?

2007-11-07 03:25:36 · 32 answers · asked by brandlee01 1

I recently moved from a neighborhood in which we had a really big home and good schools. Money was really, really tight so I decided that it was better if we moved b/c I need to support 5 kids! I went from a $1450 rent to a $900 rent.The neighborhood we are now in is not so great but it isnt the worst either. I now have some money left over to take my kids out to eat and buy them some clothes and shoes sometimes. Well, I have been critisized from both sides of my family saying that I took my kids out of a good area and schools b/c of money and they call me money hungry. They disagree with my financial situation and think education is more important. They belittle me and this has made me very depressed to the point where I cry every night. Even my 14 y/o is upset b/c I took them into a smaller home and calls it a ghetto house.Its a new house and is not that small.She even has her own room but she was just used to the really big and flashy home we lived in.Was I a bad mom for this?

2007-11-07 03:20:05 · 37 answers · asked by mariah-cali 1

he sit around and doesn't do anything all day. only when his come to the house he'll get up to go to the garage. thats it nothing else just for that why?

2007-11-07 03:15:42 · 6 answers · asked by babyboy462 1

The other day I was walking into the bathroom and the shower was running....so i figure it was my little sister whoz like 9 taking a shower and so I usually go in the bathroom and pi** her off....cuz it is so funny and so anyways i walked in there and like throw bath toys over the shower and anyways I did and the shower door swung open and it was my mom and dad in the shower!!!!!! ahh! im so scared about what i seen....and im so confused.....eww that waz discusting and I havent been able to get what I saw off of my freekin mind and it iz driving me bananas.....what do i do!

2007-11-07 03:13:24 · 10 answers · asked by luv_zac_braff 1

I'm 14 and.My sis has always been good with my mom. She tells her about her job,friends and her boyfriends and asks her for the advice.On the other hand,I was never that close to my mum and I doubt I'll ever be. I always liked reading and music,so I spend the time in my room doing that and I never get to talk to mum about the stuff that's worrying me.
When I was a kid,I spent the days with my grandparents til my mu get home from work,which is about 5 p.m. and then she needed to take care of dinner so she never had any time for me. And my dad is realy nice but I can't tell him my problems,you know...I can always hug him,but I think i have never told him that I love him. A couple of das ago I started crying cause I had some problems and mum heard me and came to my room and hugged me and said that I can tell her everything,but I sent her away. I'm not so close to her to tell her my problems. And my sister is.
So,I wonder,why is it that I don't have a normal relationship with her?

2007-11-07 03:07:37 · 2 answers · asked by glad to help :) 6

My brother and his ex wife have shared parenting over my 8 year old nephew. My brother has him EVERY weekend, while his ex goes out and parties and he has him 2 -3 days during the week. During the summer, he has him for weeks at a time... his ex wife makes more money then my brother does, but my brother has to pay child support. How does that make sense? He has him just as much as her if not more sometimes and she makes more money. She even violated a term in the divorce decree, he isn't in the school district he is supposed to be in, when my brother talks to the courts about it, they act like they don't care, is this right?

2007-11-07 02:54:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Now that I am out and about with my 11 month old daughter, the other mommy and daddy's at her playgroup don't seem to approach us and I think it's because of my "look". I have dyed black hair, tattoos, body piercings and although my clothes aren't risque or slutty, they are modern. Hard to explain. I'm a radio personality and the look goes with my career, but I wonder if it's time to tone it down for my baby's sake. Any suggestions?

2007-11-07 02:53:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I was little my family drank almost every day. My mother, uncle, stepfather. There was always fights in the house. My mother was a battered wife. I saw this and kept to myself. I didn't socialize with anyone that came to the house at all. I helped raised my four sisters and did my chores while my mother drank her life away. I don't have any desire to be social even today. I don't get along with the rest of the humans in this world. There is one person in this world now that I like being around. The holidays are here and I was asked to socialize. I declined the invitation. I don't like seeing people getting drunk and then starting fights or quarels that don't involve me. How many people stopped socializing this way? Are you living a lonely life because of your past life? I feel very uncomfortable around people. I always see something wrong with people. Things that I don't want to be around. Like people getting high, drunk, sarcasm and just plain nosy. I see a lot of snobbiness too.

2007-11-07 02:52:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay...I lived with my dad and my step mom and They were getting a divirce and we moved out to my grandmas then my lil brother and I went to my moms for the summer ..and Decited to stay there instead of cumming back to my dads...Okay He Refuses to sign over custady ...and I no HWy He doesnt want to pay child sopport But When I went to his house to get my stuff he told my 8year old brother and I that he hated us and Doesnt love us ...Should I sue Him 4 Abondonment Becuz im 15 and my Brother is 8 and he Is really a jerk ...But should I sue him For abondoment and To get my stufff since he wont give it to me

2007-11-07 02:46:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have this cold war going between me and my brother in law ever since my sister got married 5 yrs back. Now they have a kid and I live with them. I try to do everything possible for him to talk to me but it is just not happening. He talks but he answers in such a rude way that one do not feel like asking him anything. I care for him but it seems like he does not care for me at all. So today I got a gift for my niece and he did not like it because he wanted to get the same thing for her. Now how would I know if he won't communicate with me nicely. I have to think ten times before asking him anything what if he will feels bad. Becos he is really moody and when he gets angry he closes himself in a room and won't even come out to eat or shower. He had done it earlier when I wanted to watch my channel and he got really upset. Whenever I go out i make sure I get him something but he never buys anything for me .I do not want that to happen as this is just not good. Please tell me what to do

2007-11-07 02:40:03 · 5 answers · asked by applecity 1

how do you handle making up, holidays, your anger? how do you handle them trying to interact w your kids when they treat you badly? How do you find peace? Do you have silent arguments w them in your head where you try to convince them how they've wronged you? How do you deal with this?

2007-11-07 02:36:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

He cheated on my mom, NEVER paid child support, never came to my wedding, then disappeared off the face of the earth. I invited him to all my school stuff & made him homemade cards. Why didn't he want me? What did I do? Why doesn't my daddy love me?

2007-11-07 02:32:01 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-07 02:27:02 · 11 answers · asked by Virtual Evie 4

My daughter is 13 yrs old and has been having some issues with a few of her friends.i give my daughter my opinion on things but leave it up to my daughter how she wants to handle things.Long story short my girl started goin out with one of her friends ex"s.They are young so i tell her boys will come and go.This friends mother recently got involved when my daughter was talking to her daughter and another freind about everything going on.She basically called my daughter trash and forbid her daughter from hanging out with my girl.so i stepped in when i saw her in my girls face and all h*** broke loose.she even went as far as to call this boys mother and he had to break up with her.My girl has been really sad latley.I jus think it was wrong for an adult to say such things in front of a child and to take things this far.The kids were working things out just fine on their own.Am I wrong in being angry?

2007-11-07 02:18:42 · 11 answers · asked by oobie1994 2

is the day before Thanksgiving. I was thinking of just having cake on Thanksgiving after dinner since everyone will already be there. His father is upset b/c he feels that his son is being cheated and should get a "real" bday on the actual day of his bday. I was trying to explain that nobody is going to show up on his bday and then again the next day for Thanksgiving but he doesnt seem to understand that. Plus I have another child and threw her a really huge 1st bday but realized its too expensive and they dont even need that much so he thinks Im cheating our son. How should I explain to him that its for the better?

2007-11-07 02:03:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

my parents used to take me and my sister ice-skating, then we'd go home and have cinnamon toast and hot chocolate. that was always a fun treat!

2007-11-07 01:33:02 · 9 answers · asked by Tracy 1

I really am having a hard time with "Thanksgiving Day"coming.
My 4 kids are not transitioning well after been in charter schools,now in public schools.14 yr.old on suicide watch and 11yr. old suspended after just 2 weeks. Charter can't get them back in til next yr. The whole reason was to sell our house and move to another state where my husband got a job after being unemployed. My youngest daughter has episodes of passing out and is on a heart monitor 24- 7 for the next month or longer.
My husband works out of state and only comes home on weekends kinda of "weekend dad" and is so busy trying to make it up to the kids I guess he forgets about me. My closet friend has been avoiding me because I depress her and my problems are wearing her down and my second closest friend has just been diagnosed with a brian tumor (can't E V E N think about venting to her). My parents - Dad with stroke 2 yrs ago and can't speak Step mom is well ....let's just say non-caring. I'm thankful 4 u listening

2007-11-07 00:54:05 · 6 answers · asked by CiCi 2

When growing up my parent's would always tell me that i was adopted because i was so out of control. Well after years of searching for my "biological parents" i came to realize that they were actually my parents.

I feel that we have lost years of our relationship together and now we can't even get together and do shots. It always feel so weird whenever they come to my house and i have to pretend im not home in order for them to go away.

Do you think it's possible for us to reconnect after all the years of damage?? Am I wrong for feeling anger towards them for all these years of lies. All i wanted was a mum whom cared.

2007-11-07 00:03:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm confused. My father doesn't like me that much because I make him embarrass. (He said that himself. Because I'm fat, can't even get a single A at school.)

I feel little bit sad but I don't know...It's not feel good but it's not feel bad either. But you know How can I know that it's usual or unusual that parents don't like kids like me.


I just want to know that it's normal. Does many parents like this?

2007-11-06 23:03:54 · 8 answers · asked by RG 1

the college is alfred university...

2007-11-06 16:32:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have gone out with guys that r very different from the ones my family have dated. two of them had a disability which required me to use a beautiful language called sign. my last and very recent ex was from the other side of the world.
maybe i have a taste for the exotic//// why would anyone tell me to stop going out with them?

2007-11-06 16:29:01 · 6 answers · asked by princess 3

I haven't seen him since I was thirteen (20 now) and I need to get some memorablia from him. All I know is that he's in Vegas, Nevada. Is there any way I can request his address somewhere (with verifying that I'm his daughter) or should I go on Yahoo! People search or any other of those kinds of sites and order the info?

Suggestions?

2007-11-06 16:24:09 · 3 answers · asked by zailew 2