how do you handle making up, holidays, your anger? how do you handle them trying to interact w your kids when they treat you badly? How do you find peace? Do you have silent arguments w them in your head where you try to convince them how they've wronged you? How do you deal with this?
2007-11-07 02:36:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi... you didn't say whether you were being abused, or just find yourself disagreeing with others....
If you've been abused, well, no wonder you are having issues.
Otherwise, if you don't always see eye-to-eye, well, that is OK... just realize everyone has different opinions, and no sense arguing... compromise, and accept others at face value, even if they are annoying.
If people love and care for your kids, and treat them well, i don't see a problem. Just because YOU might have a problem with these particular individuals, doesn't mean your kids do? If they treat your kids with regard, no problem.
There is no sense rehashing old arguments over and over in your head, when it's easier to accept things and try to move forward.
If you want to try and get along, then let the person know that it would be a nice thing if you could just start from scratch. There comes a time in our lives when we realize we can't control anyone but ourselves..
If people abuse you, you don't have to associate with them... it's about self-preservation.
2007-11-07 02:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The idiots I have to deal with, there is no talking to them. Basically, they may as well be 2000 miles from us instead of only 2 hours away as far as I'm concerned. I don't allow my children to see or visit them or talk to them on the phone because they are all low life jack a**es who all need to grow up. As far as holidays and stuff, they wont be seeing or hearing from us. it doesn't make me sad though because they've done it to theirselves with all the lies they've said about me and my family and all the harm they've caused by lying to get social services to ivestigate my home twice within four months, which made my life H*ll because as I was trying to cooperate I was also letting them know I had rights and wouldn't take the crap social services often tries to do to people.
I found the best way to deal with "family" like this, is to either ignore them and go on with your life being happy or go a step further and be super nice to them while going on with your life being happy. For me though, I'm content keeping the morons out of my home and our lives.
2007-11-07 10:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by angelwithadvice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my mom and i have a little argument, we don't talk to each other for a while. let some steam off. Afterwards, if things are better, i try to sit down and talk to her. Let her know why i said things and why i had reacted that way. She will also explain her side, like she reacted that way because she's our mother and she knows whats best for us. Well, my siblings and I have a very good relationship with my mother so its easier i think.
2007-11-07 10:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by xine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my cousin, auntie an grandma aint talkin to me as my gdad just died an i wanted to be the funeral an they sed they were havin it on the first but it hadnt been booked so asked if we could do it a few days later as my bro an i wr away an they made out i wr the selfish one an now aitn talkin to me, im gonna carry on buyin bday an xmas pressies for my cousins so they cant say im beon childish but the rest is up to them
2007-11-07 11:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by lilhails 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For two years, I didn't speak to my mother because she didn't like the guy I was with. Turns out she was right- he was no good for me. And now she's dead, and I wasted two years I could have had with her.
Just a thought..
2007-11-07 10:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋