If your hubbys mother beat him as a child would you let her around your daughter?

Question

What is your opinion?

It was abuse their is no doubt about that. She would tie him up and tell him if he told anyone he would get taken away from her and not be around his brothers anymore. It was alot of mental and physcial hardcore abuse

Answer 1

My husbands mother abused her children, she has now abandoned them, She is not a part of our lives. She would have to be supervised at all times.

Answer 2

Well my Mother beat me and my brother's @ss when we did dumb things as children, we deserved it most of the time. There's a difference between disciplining a child and abusing a child. Even if she did abuse them, it was probably something that she did in the past and could possibly regret now.

If she was a pedophile or did some other ill sh!t that may be questionable in the eyes of the law, then no, I wouldn't. I will let my Mother around my kids when and if I decide to have some, she didn't do anything that I would consider un-motherly behavior. If you do let her around your kids and she does something that you feel is not cool, then you need to do what you need to do.

My Grandmother choked me and my brother in the mall when we were running underneath clothes racks and acting like 5 year olds, because she was always really into appearances and I guess we were making her look bad. I told my Mom later and she called my grandmother and cursed her out. My Mother was that kind of person regardless of who you are, family or not, it's just a title at the end of the day and nobody has the right to touch another person's child for any reason. That's what I was taught. Best wishes to you and your family!

-Knowledge24

Answer 3

This is a tough one. I have a lot of family members that used to be horrible parents and beat their children, however now that they are older they treat their grandchildren very well. I think as someone gets closer to reaching old age they change and they repent what they did in the past. Use your best judgment, if you think they have changed, then give them a chance. I however would make sure to tell me children, if they are of speaking age, to let me know if grandma touches them in any way. GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

No!!! I would not, in my personal experience these people do not change. The child doesn't need grandparents that badly. I'm in that same position and even tho I thought they'd be better grandparents than they were parents, I realized they would not be and they have no contact allowed with my family. I would never forgive myself if something happened to my child that I cold of prevented when I know just how bad they can be.

Answer 5

It really depends. Is he considering being "Beaten" when she disciplined him with spankings or did she actually beat him (slap, punch, whip with objects,grap, shake, deny food or love, etc)
Personally, if there was any question I would make sure that the visits were supervised.

Answer 6

i would have to say as a mother,it all depends on wether or not he (the husband)has made ammends with his mother or not,if he has i would just for the sake of my marige,if not,then no,i wouldnt just let any abusive person near ither of my kids.i dont care who they are or how im related to them,my kids are more important to me then they are.my kids love is unconditional,there love comes with issues & terms.

Answer 7

I'm wondering why he even has a relationship with this horrible person? Family get togethers must be a hoot!

Answer 8

I probably would not leave the child for her to babysit, no.

I hope your husband is ok today... or if he's had issues over the abuse, he got good help.

take care.

Answer 9

Hell no I wouldn't let someone like that around my kids.

Answer 10

i would want to know the reason why she beat him before i acted, Stress, discipline etc?, if it was just because she wanted to then i would keep them seperate.