I really am having a hard time with "Thanksgiving Day"coming.
My 4 kids are not transitioning well after been in charter schools,now in public schools.14 yr.old on suicide watch and 11yr. old suspended after just 2 weeks. Charter can't get them back in til next yr. The whole reason was to sell our house and move to another state where my husband got a job after being unemployed. My youngest daughter has episodes of passing out and is on a heart monitor 24- 7 for the next month or longer.
My husband works out of state and only comes home on weekends kinda of "weekend dad" and is so busy trying to make it up to the kids I guess he forgets about me. My closet friend has been avoiding me because I depress her and my problems are wearing her down and my second closest friend has just been diagnosed with a brian tumor (can't E V E N think about venting to her). My parents - Dad with stroke 2 yrs ago and can't speak Step mom is well ....let's just say non-caring. I'm thankful 4 u listening
2007-11-07 00:54:05 · 6 answers · asked by CiCi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have a beautiful family. Forget about the school politics for a while, just be together on that thanksgiving day and talk. Let each child contribute fixing something and truly communicate with them. Let them talk about how much they dislike their present school ( It is very understandable in the system today) let them know that it is temporary. You need to concentrate on your immediate family unit not your brain cancer friend and not even your dad right now and he would agree its all about supporting your own nest. Stick to the very basics of nutrition ( is your youngest eating well?) getting to bed early so they are well slept and lots and lots of hugs-especially to your hard working husband when he comes home. You will survive this if you can take a step backward and just be together with love.
2007-11-07 02:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me this is more than just being moved from charter school. Do you realize how many children switch schools daily. I think these kids are in need of some serious counseling. You said that he works out of state yet you also said that the reason was to sell the house etc. If he can afford to come home every weekend with flight fees or fuel costs then take that money and find a small temporary apartment until the house sells. Family together living less costly is better than living apart because it is obvioulsy tearing the family apart. As far as a holiday dinner, Its not about turkey and dressing its about family-use that day to make the repairs that your family needs. Order one from a grocery store if you do not feel like cooking if you cannot afford that there are churches that usually will help with the food!
2007-11-07 02:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by LISA C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if you can afford it, forget about cooking. I don't know where you live, but in Oregon there are GORGEOUS places to go for amazing dinners and wonderful atmosphere. I say go out. Just explain to your husband that you are very stressed and just can't deal with it. But that you promise, when you are less stressed, the big turkey dinner will be made. It's just not a good time right now and you are the glue holding all of this together. It's stressful, challenging and you are doing all you can to hold it together. If he doesn't understand, which I'm sure he will, tell him to cook and enjoy himself, what time will supper be ready? I know it's hard right now, but it will be fine. Hang in there. I have troubled children too, feel free to email if you need more support. Blessings to you!
2007-11-07 01:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason you have to make a big huge deal over Thanksgiving Day. Use the day to relax with your family - it is a time to be thankful not a time to stress yourself out when you've already got a full plate. Get takeout or make something you would normally make on a Thursday night.
2007-11-07 02:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Navy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about having a big holiday this year. Keep it simple for your family and for yourself. It sounds like there is a lot going on and heaping on the responsibilities of entertaining is going to be more stress on you. Try to get some counseling to vent if no is around to hear you. I hope everything works out for you and your family.
2007-11-07 03:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by DAR76 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. you have my sympathies. i'm not what you would call a religious person myself but, have you thought of attending the local church of your domination? maybe getting the kids involved with something like that or a youth group will help them transition better. it's also a great place to meet a few good people and have someone to tak to or that might be able to give you some help.
take care and try to have a happy thanksgiving.
2007-11-07 01:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋