I am a thirteen year old girl, and my parents are really over protective... See, my sister made some mistakes in her past, and now my mom lost trust in me as well, even though I didn't do anything.. So my sister's mistakes influenced their trust in me as well (especially my mom's). They won't let me out with friends to the movies, or ANYTHING! They won't even let me go out to the park or something... My B-day is coming up soon (nov.16) and I'm not able to celebrate it out with friends because of NO REASON! How can I earn their trust?... I really appreciate honest and serious answers... It's like I'm stuck in prison.. Home-school, home-school.. I don't go anywhere else.
2007-11-06 03:28:03 · 9 answers · asked by introspective rissa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't say what the mistakes are that your sister made, but you need to ask your parents to sit down with you as a maturing young person and discuss how unfair this is, especially if you haven't made mistakes to cause this treatment. Put on a pot of water and make some tea after dinner one night and ask your mom and dad to sit at the kitchen table with you and have a "grown up" talk. Explain to them that you respect their decisions and rules, but that you also need to spead your wings a little and flex your muscles with your friends and that you will obey any guidelines/boundaries they put on your outings, etc. but you really need for them to lighten up a little. Maybe ask if they could start with a few hours at a friends house (a friend they trust both the friend and the parents). Tell them you'll call when you arrive and call before you leave for home. After this goes well for awhile, expand the outings and types of outings. Also ask if there is any possible way to have a little birthday party at your house with some friends, maybe orders some pizzas put on some music and play some party games (twister, scene it, that kind of stuff). Or a pajama party with a couple of girlfriends (do each other's hair, makeup, tell scary stories late at night - all the usual fun stuff of teenagers). Also ask your parents what you could do to help them to trust you and treat you like yourself instead of your sister. Tell them you are sincere in these efforts and would appreciate their honesty with you. Good luck to you and God Bless.
2007-11-06 03:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason. The reason is you are 13. Your life should be school and home and apparently your parents feel that is best. Your sisters mistakes may have influenced your parents decisions about you, but I would look at that as an advantage, you don't have to go through the drama your sister did. There is no reason for you to go out with your friends and celebrate your birthday, that should be something you do with your family or in your home.
You want to be trusted, then change your attitude and your behavior. Yes you have to prove yourself, we all do.
Ask if you can have a sleepover party with some of your g/f's for your birthday, and then do what you need to do to get ready for it.
2007-11-06 03:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can really do about, in a productive way, is to show them that you are responsible. Start helping out more around the house, if your mom does allow you to go to a friends house call her a few times from there just to check in. Doing things like this will help build trust from your parents and will give you more freedom in the long run.
Good luck ;)
2007-11-06 03:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by Blue-eyed Stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are the same way!!!!!!! but, i think u need to talk to them, sit them down,and explain u are respnsible, and tell them that your not the same person ur sister was, and u are trust-worthy.and if they still dont get it, then just ask them are u scared that i'm gonna make the same mistakes as my sister, and then go from there.i talked to my parents and they've been much better since i've talked to them, so i think they should understand if u just sit them down in an adult way and just explain in a calm way.
2007-11-06 03:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by stylingrly23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-10 11:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by tschannen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS a mother of 5 grwn up I do understand your mother But you are a smart girl and your fredom will come Do you like arts theater or danse If so ask your mother if you can take a course in that field
2007-11-06 04:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god!
im 13 aswell,and i have the same problem, my parents are soo annoying,and even when i ask can i go out with my friends my parents say why don't i just invite them in our house that way they are safer!
i know how you feel girl, im sorry but i dont think theres anthing can do.
byex
2007-11-06 03:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur parents that you love em and you want be a responsible child like they want you to be. but this is not a solution to it. coz of one bad dream, we jst cant stop sleeping, life has to go the usual way even after accidents. only one thing can motivate me to be responsible, and can stop me from goin on the wrong way ever, and that is your love and trust on me.
2007-11-06 04:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by Andrew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear this! but ill probably provide you with a sucky answer...and it is...
just show them how good of a kid you are! i mean, since you cant do much else, thats all you really can do. and try to sit them down and have a talk with them. they need to understand youre growing up and if you dont get out, youre teenage years will be worth nothing. all i can tell you not to do is rebel.
this happened with my cousin. once she was out from their control she went crazy and got into some wild stuff. i hope you can talk to them and work things out. good luck!
2007-11-06 03:39:18 · answer #9 · answered by msjadeybaby 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋