My dad looks at pornography... he hid it from me but I'm not stupid... I caught him looking at RealityKings.com.
Also I'm the kind of person who wakes up in the middle of the night and then goes back to sleep. Lots of times I'll hear my parents having sex (they are loud!) down the hall. GROSS! Dad's 50, mom's 40 btw. And the next day their bed's a MESS, they don't clean up! EWWWW
Help me not to be so grossed out, I don't love my parents and they don't love me, they are just people I live with. But STILL its nasty!
2007-11-06 04:51:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
btw I am 14 years old
2007-11-06 05:02:39 · update #1
btw I am 14 years old
2007-11-06 05:02:40 · update #2
Oh, I completely understand how you are feeling. I had some similar "traumatic" experience back when I was 15. Now it's been a couple years and my parents are divorced, but that 's not the point anyway...
Try talking to the one you're closer to. I don't understand why you don't love either of them, but I guess you have your reasons. I didn't like my father so I talked to my mother about it. She put the blame on me because I had late nights -jeez. Sometimes it can't be helped I guess. I didn't like knowing what happened in their bedroom but that couldn't change whatsoever.
Now, as for the mess they don't clean up, it's truly gross. Your parents are irresponsible or have underestimated your intelligence or something. I mean you can't be ignorant about sex. They should stop treating you as if you're a kid; to me it doesn't look like they care at all though. At least that they should fix somehow...
Just be patient until you grow up and leave your home -I assume you are planning to since you say you don't love them.
2007-11-06 05:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you hate your situation; change it. If you don't like living there, and you are old enough and have the means to get gainful employment and grow up; then move out. It's natural for a husband and wife to be in love with each other. Unless you've never taken biology, you really should, then maybe you will see it is natural. If you are awakened by them having intercourse then talk to you dad about hearing noises from there room late at night. Then they may try to keep it down.
Another thing, if your parents didn't love you; you would have been out of their house a long time ago.
2007-11-06 13:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm your parents age so you know right away you aren't going to get the answer you want to hear as far as their ongoing love for each other is concerned, how not to be grossed out about it is realising thats what it is, two people still in love showing their affection for each other and maybe if you could have a quiet word to your mum about the noise level, she may not even realise she is waking you up.
2007-11-06 13:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by OzDonna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad your parents are having a great sex life. If the noise bothers you either put a pillow over your head, turn on the tv or talk to your parents about it. I can't believe you say you don't love your parents. That concerns me... you are SUPPOSE to love your parents. I hope everything goes ok for you.
2007-11-06 13:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are adults, and you live in their home. They have a right to look at legal porn and have sex. You are finding this stuff because you are looking. Stay out of their room and you won't see it.
On the other hand tell them tactfully that you can hear them at night and it's disrupting your sleep. I am sure that is not their goal and they would be embarrassed to know that you know.
All of you need to work on respecting each other, but you are guilty of it too. Stop spying on your parents, and then you won't be so creeped out.
2007-11-06 13:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Liza S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's really strange my parents are about the same age, and are doing the same thing! The best answer I can give you is stay with as many friends as possible. Also when you stay at home sleep with ear plugs if you have to...seriously. It is really disgusting! Justdon't go into your parents bedroom anymore to block any anymore scaring images you could possibly see.
2007-11-06 12:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsay O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know for sure they don't love you? People who don't love their children, don't let them live in their homes and provide things like the internet.
My advice to you is to mind your own business. What your parents do isn't your concern. Stop being a snoop and you won't have these issues. You might also want to educate yourself on human sexuality which might help you be alittle less judgmental.
Your other choice, since you are simply using these people for a place to live and letting them pay your bills, is to move out. Too young? Well then have alittle more self respect than to get into things that aren't any of your business. Your folks don't need your permission to live their lives.
2007-11-06 13:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh sweetie, that is sad! How horrific!! I had the same problem when I was bout 16 or 17 my brother in the room right next to me had sex all the time with his girlfriend. And they were loud! Mind you, my other brother and sister in other rooms downstairs with us could hear too! One night me and my sister freaked out and told my mom and my mom went and pounded on the door- HOW EMBARRASSING! Thats what he gets!!
Anyway- you should pound on the door, or tell em to shut the hell up. For real. That is SO rude!! You need to confront them about it... I'm sorry sorry hun. Good luck! And as for your dad and porn... I have no idea... sorry :(
2007-11-06 12:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sex is normal.
When you are more mature you will understand that your parents are doing nothing wrong.
Meanwhile, perhaps try coughing loudly if they wake you, or tell them you get disturbed by noises at night.
As for not loving each other.... try to work on that aspect, life will improve a lot!
2007-11-06 13:02:12 · answer #9 · answered by donedeal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most guys look at porn at least once in a while. Your parents having sex is normal. Married couples do it all the time. Get over it.
2007-11-06 12:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋