my family treats me like s**t,and iam so sick of there bull s**t.my sister who lives with my mom tells me that just cuz i don't even live there anymore that i can't eat there.my mom says that she really don't even care if i eat there.i pay for there rent,and lights.eveytime i even get money my sister begs me for it,and that is getting really old to.so i've made up my mind,i won't go over there anymore,but since my mom won't come over to my house,how the hell iam i going to see her?
2007-11-06 03:48:43 · 8 answers · asked by mary s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We can't choose our family, therefore we make the best of what we have. If you are so bothered, and know that even your mother does not care, why do you even bother going there. Make a new life, if you are unwanted at that house, and if your mother loves you, she will come to you. You can't force your mother to love you, and if she behaves like you say, then say goodbye and start living your own life away from such bad tensions and selfish people. Make friends, you can choose them, get few girls together, and rent a house, and have a good time.
2007-11-06 03:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by mx. know it all 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who can draw the line.
This is about boundaries.
This is an abusive relationship you have with a couple of world-class leaches. Time to start cutting yourself loose.
Your sister needs to get a job to support herself instead of trying to control you from afar.
The next time they try to shake you down, you need to say, "Sorry, but I've had some major expenses crop up and I don't have anything to give you. You are on your own." Then give them a $20 out of your purse so they don't walk away empty handed. Keep that approach up.
Every time you DON'T give them money, you put that cash away in a metal cash box... see how much they've been getting into you for after a month, or two or three months.
Use the answering machine to screen your phone calls.
2007-11-06 12:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you allow yourself to be treated like ****, then that is what you will get. You seem like you have made something for yourself, why are you allowing others to take from it. You can not buy love, it seems you are by paying them and they still do not love you, so why keep paying when you are not even receiving any kind of love. Let them be, if they want to be in your life then they would have to work to be in your life.
2007-11-06 12:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a grown woman. Grown women understand that no one can walk all over them unless they lay down. Stop paying their bills and live your own life. Eat in your own home.
2007-11-06 11:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women what are u doing paying their rent? mom i can understand why u would worry but sis needs a slap in the face and needs to be reminded who pays for the roof over her head. obviously ur independent
2007-11-06 11:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set limits in your life. If you want to see your mom, take her out for dinner, just her. Don't put your self in the postion to have those kind of comments made.
2007-11-06 17:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet her at the mall or a coffee shop.
2007-11-06 11:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by cooter726 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet her for lunch
2007-11-06 11:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋