My wicked step sisters hate me and cause nothing but trouble for me and my family , they treat my mum like Cr&p and basically are jeolous of everything i do and my sister.
They really are a nasty pieces of work, they have turned my step dad totally agaist my other sister and my mum .
I am getting married very soon and i really don't want them there, but my step dad would be upset but he is blind to whatever hatefullness they cause and they can not do any wrong.
They only want his £££ and we just love him very sad people i am afraid to say and rather dangerous in there sneaky way of looking perfect all the time to him and making us look bad.
What would you do ????
Invite then or finally show how you really feel, they are awful to my mum who has brought them up from young as they are scrared she will get his £££ if anything happens.
My sister is already out of there family circle cause of them and my mum bless is in the middle .
What would u do ?
2007-11-05 02:31:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks everyone, i am only having a ceremony and no eveing reception only a small FAMILY meal awwwwwwww
2007-11-05 03:43:27 · update #1
Well in your position I wouldn't sacrifice the hapiness of my wedding day for people who I don't like.
Either create a small selective guest list and tell your step-dad that there just isn't space for everyone.
Or tell him how you feel and hope he will accept you decision - maybe he has noticed, but didn't want to interfere?
Or invite them and expect a miserable wedding.
2007-11-05 02:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by elephantemg83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elope and get the heck out of there.
If you have a formal wedding, just do the wedding ceremony and leave out the reception so you don't have to deal with the step-sisters. Pocket that money if you can.
These step-sisters will not be your problem in a relatively short matter of time, anyway.
Your mom doesn't have the nerve to stick up for herself.
You have an out, so use it and don't look back.
2007-11-05 02:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similiar situation and really feel for you. It is difficult because you would like to stick two fingers up at them and say they arent invited. In reality this would make things at home even worse particularly for you mum.
I think the only option is to invite them, perhaps just to the reception or evening do. But make it very clear that they have no involvement in the day, in that they are just guests like every one else so they will not be bridesmaids, etc and make sure your mum and particularly you sister are made to feel special.
Try to enjoy your special day as much as possible!
2007-11-05 02:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you invite them or not you can rise above this. I wouldn't bother to invite them, as your own feelings are more important than anyone elses. If you do decided to invite them then be prepared and don't let it affect you in a negative way. Get the support of your fiance.
I had a whole group from my wife's side turn up to our wedding all dressed head to toe in BLACK. We just laughed at them good and hard - together as a couple laughing and enjoying their petty minded silliness!
2007-11-05 03:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by The Chesire Set 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol You're describing my family right there! Dad's daughters hate me for being born and they hate my mother for being the woman after their mother. They have turned my dad against us for years and totally ignored that his 'girls' made our lives a living hell. My dad still wont say he loves me if any of them are within earshot, and he told me once I had to 'validate my existance' with his daughters and thenmaybe they'd like me. Putz.
I am NOT inviting any of his daughters to my wedding. He has been a selfish, spineless, cruel black hole in my life and does not deserve me to ruin my special day to make him happy. He can just deal with it. I have been through a lot from those evil people and I will not let them into my life now that I am an adult and free to choose who I let in my life just to please someone who thinks I am fat and therefore am 'lucky' to have a wonderful man, rather than I deserve him...
You have a very hard decision ahead of you, but whatever you choose just remember it is YOUR and you mans day, no one elses. This is a one time thing if it goes right, and you shouldn't compromise it for anyone's sake.
Congrats on getting married, I hope your day is a dream.
2007-11-05 02:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by kinkykiosk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up once again and invite them. If your step-dad will be upset if it's not the whole family (his included) and if you really want him there and happy then.............I'm sure at this point your just as biased about them as they are about you, regardless of who's right or wrong here. None the less, you don't get to choose your family and whether you want them or not, they are part of it. Good luck tho and an early congrats.
2007-11-05 02:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that it's your day. It's about the union between you and your husband. Make it a private affair. If you really feel these people are hurtful not just to you, but to your mother, don't invite them. Your step-father should understand that. If he doesn't, it's unfortunate. But I wouldn't subject my mother to them. That can't be tolerated.
2007-11-05 02:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Mimsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them the wedding is on A but actually have it on B and say I thought I wrote down the wrong address
2007-11-05 02:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ghimraab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋