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If someone close to you jsut recently passed away, would you want to go to school/work? To get you mind off of things, or is it better to stay at home?

2007-11-04 05:51:49 · 13 answers · asked by Luckystar25 3 in Family & Relationships Family

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When my son died I stayed at home for 2 weeks, a week before his funeral and then a week after. I was pleased to go back to work as it occupied my mind and for those few hours he wasn't in the forefront of my thoughts. It put some normality back into my day instead of sitting at home thinking of him 100% of my time. 27 years have gone by and I still think of him every day. If I had stayed at home I think I would have gone into a downward spiral of depression. Each person grieves differently so there is no right or wrong here.

2007-11-04 06:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dory 7 · 3 0

Hey darling,
First of all I would like to give my condolences for your loss. My father who was my best friend passed away Nov 15, 2005. I had to stay home for the first 2 months from work, because I just could not accept the fact that he was no-longer around. I would recommend that if you can, you need to stay home and grieve your loss. Do not return to school/work until you feel that you are ready. Some people will suggest differently, but when I returned back to work initially the very next day after my dad's funeral, believe me I was there only physically, mentally I was not in the position to be concentrating on any other matter, and because my boss's were very understanding I still have a job, otherwise I would have lost my job due to not being in my right mind and not realizing what was coming out of my mouth. I also recommend that you get some grieve counselling, that will really help. Your body will automatically tell you when it has finished grieving and is ready for your regular day in and day out activities. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me. Take care, and all the best.
Simbha

2007-11-04 06:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Simbha 3 · 0 0

Everybody handles this situation differently, as I'm sure you've seen just from some of the answers here. For me, when my mother passed away in January of '05, I stayed home for a week and then went back to work. I think it's better if you can get back into a routine as soon as possible to try and take your mind off of it, but never forget the good times.

2007-11-04 07:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by phatchick182004 4 · 0 0

Putting your own life on hold makes the grieving process that much worse. Get back into the routine of things, and let your heart work things out naturally. Make sure you give yourself time to cry, if you don't the anguish will build up to unbearable heights, and years later you'll regret having not cried. When I was younger I was extremely close to an elderly woman who lived across the street from my grandmother. She was a part of my life until she lost her own to age. When my mom woke me up crying, and told me she had passed on, I couldn't cry. I was devastated, yes, but mainly I didn't believe it. It took me a long time to cry for someone I loved very much, and then there was the guilt.

2007-11-04 06:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by LunaRossa 6 · 0 0

My mum died in January of this year after a very short battle with lung cancer.
I was off work for over 3 weeks, one week before she passed away, and 2 weeks after, so many things to organise and my head was all over the place.
You need to do what you feel is right for you at this time, as somebody pointed out, there is no right or wrong way to deal with this situation!

2007-11-04 06:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0 0

i lost my brother a few months ago and it was very hard but i stayed home for a few days and then my mother made me go back to school and get back in the routine. it is not very easy but if u stay at home and think about them then u will go into a deep depression and not many people will want to be around u if u r always depressed get your family or friends to cheer you up. good luck and i am sorry for ur loss

2007-11-04 07:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I think that it would be better to stay at home.......because if you were really close to them than you would be depressed and people at school/work would notice something was wrong with you.........and when you go to answer the question....you would have to hold back the tears.....i say you just stay home.......call in sick..........stay home and try and get some sleed or watch t.v.......something just relax and just try and free your mind of all thoughts.........good luck and sorry :)

2007-11-04 05:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Chanelle 2 · 0 0

My uncle passed away this morning but I have to stay strong so keep going to work and school and never forget him or her. Always remember the good times

2007-11-04 06:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by THe CW 1 · 0 0

whatever works for you. in my case, i was busy with 2 little ones when my mom dies and taking care of them kept my mind occupied. most people i know take a few days to grieve then go back to as normal a life as possible. the grieving doesn't suddenly stop, it just gets easier to deal with.

2007-11-04 06:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0 0

i find it better to keep busy to take your mind off the upset cos in the nights when your trying to sleep you cant stop crying

2007-11-04 06:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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