Family - November 2007

I'm 13, and 3 weeks ago, my dad died. Can anyone tell me some suggestions of how to cope with it?

2007-11-02 13:52:53 · 32 answers · asked by Spencer 2

okay well this is a long story, but my dad is a complete idiot. and my mom last year asked for a divorce with him but it hasnt happened yet because my dads lawyer is purposely taking a long time to fill out papers and stuff. well almost every friday my dad goes into my moms room and puts a letter in there to read. last week my dad had a proven letter that my mom was apart of a cult of budhisim (but she seriously is not) she just prays for peace, not even kidding. and my dad thinks its dangerous to me and my brother that she prays? wtf. and then just an hour ago my dad and brother went out to get a movie and left her another note saying that she is abusing our animals and he had like "proof" that the SPCA has proven that my mom is being cruel to my dog and cat. honestly, my dog is a loser and really smelly, gross ugly, etc. so my mom just ignores him. and she loves our cat, but she is allergic to cats so we like to keep her downstairs so my mom doesnt get sick. ........

2007-11-02 13:15:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok...I just met this guy and can't figure out if he's my second or third cousin and it's driving me nuts! His father is my fathers first cousin. His fathers mother and my father's mother are sisters(our grandmothers)....so what does that make us? (I'm trying to make a family tree but it's getting MUCH more confusing than I thought)!

2007-11-02 12:52:49 · 8 answers · asked by skyelark209 1

I chose not to tell my parents for several reasons. But there are times- when I have such difficulties with my mom that I just want to tell her to make her stop being so crazy with me. So maybe she'd sit and think about me and my feelings for a change. But then she'd go and tell the world, so I don't want that at all. I'll prob keep this with me my entire life. But I just broke down a little bit ago- this being the day it happened, my mom threw another fit about money and the wedding my fiance and I are planning for next year. I've already told her we could save our own money and do it ourselves, only hold it off until the following year. Anyways, there are times I wish I'd blurt it out to her but then again, I don't think she'd quite get it and almost feel she'd end up blaming me anyways. It just hurts not being able to communicate with my own mother. And I don't want to hurt my dad by telling him.it's been quite a few yrs now, and I still have a tough time on Nov.2nd.

2007-11-02 12:43:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hope the kid gives him a bunch of grandkids!

2007-11-02 12:18:32 · 12 answers · asked by new haven chuck 1

My son got a girl pregnant, he wants to be a part of the baby's life but the girl doesn't want any part of us...what do I do?
I want to help my son be a part of his son's life... but his ex doesn't... we need advice.

2007-11-02 11:55:23 · 6 answers · asked by phoenixlstilwell 2

ps
blames everyone but herself and is wrecking her body, mind and her hygene

2007-11-02 11:06:35 · 10 answers · asked by JF_14 3

I made over $2500 last month for my kids Christmas selling antique and other stuff, then my wife son who is a juvenile was lock up and she needs $2500 for a lawyer to get him home until he go to the next court date. Now I dont know if he committed the crime or not but should I give her my kids Christmas money to help her get a lawyer or should I tell her I just dont have it?

2007-11-02 10:38:27 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

will someone read this. you would be doing me a HUGE favor.
i know its long.


Like I said, we never seem to get a break. As soon as all the
stuff was over with Floyd and I thought my life was getting back
to normal, a police officer drove up to my house and knocked on
the door, my mom and dad answered it. I could catch little bits
and pieces of what they were saying, I heard "cutting them out"
and something about a hospital, that couldnt be good. my mom
came back into the kitchen, by this time she was hysterical, and
my dad I could tell he wanted to cry. I became numb, thinking if I
didnt cry then maybe it wasnt happening, and I could ignore it, it
seemed to work. I tried to console my parents telling them that
there was a good chance they were still alive. Do you know how
hard it is for a 15 year old to comfert her parents? something i
never wanna ever again. They called my grandparents, they
were over in nothing flat rushing off the two different hospitals,
they had to put my brother in one and my sister in another. I had
to stay up late that night, to check samantha [my diabetic little
sister] at 2 am. I sat on the couch not completely grasping the
situtation, I dont know if its just because i didnt want to, or i
didnt understand.
My brother and sister were in the hospital for a week, and
during that time, I had to play mom. I cooked, I cleaned, wathed
kids [i have 9 siblings] and gave samantha her shots. Even
though I hadnt done it before, i turned into an exact copy of my
mother, forgetting completely i was a teenager. My friends
would call, and i just about cry when i had to turn them down, i
was so sick of playing "mom" i just wanted my life back, to be a
teenager again, but i kept those feelings inside, put on a "mask"
and acted as if everything was alright. School, and even church
that week was hard. Having to repeat the story over and over,
the knot in my throat growing larger with each telling, but still i
didnt cry, i couldnt.
Over the week i decided that was it, this was too much for me,
and finally went to talk to someone, my school counselor. For a
week I went, telling him everything, pouring out my soul, but
still no real tears, the ones i did cry were fake and forced. But
isnt that what your supposed to do during a time like this, cry? I
pushed everything that had happened in the past week, two
weeks, and even month into the back of my mind. And now when
it seemed to all be pileing up on me there seemed to be no way
to release it. and i sank further and further into depression.
I became numb, a zombie walking through the halls at school.
I wanted nothing to do with anything or anyone there. I was
completely withdrawn, thinking to myself, i dont even remember
about what. I'd get home and go right up to my room to sleep.
The mornings though, were worse it was a battle to get myself
out of bed in the morning. I would tell me counselor about
everything, but that got me no where. He basically told mr that I
was on my own and that i had caused myself to feel so upset.
I dont know anymore, I've talked the counselors ear off and
i talked his ear off, i've told him about this. but i dont think that I 've
evr even
delt with it, just ignored it. It seems silly though, , this
happened two weeks ago why bring it up now? its in the past. I
really think that im just wasting his time, and that he thinks im
im in this all for attention. but believe me thats not what its
about.

2007-11-02 10:37:15 · 27 answers · asked by d_asnightnday 1

I love my Brother. We are very close and I want to get him something special. I have bought him alot that he loves. running out of ideas.

2007-11-02 10:24:23 · 10 answers · asked by CasperinMississippi 3

my parents drive me insane!!!!!! my mum had me when she was 40 and my dad was 43. now im 14 and they are driving me insane!!! they never did before i just cant stand my mum trying to get me to knit and bake go to church and be the perfect daughter. and the only time i ever really talk with them is when where having a fight. am i an awful person?? i just cant stop acting this way help!!!

2007-11-02 10:23:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom is, well, a person who drinks to much. I don't know how to handle it anymore. I go to my room but I'm sick of living there. And my step brothers and step dad don't help.

2007-11-02 10:16:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-02 10:02:19 · 25 answers · asked by markr76262_2 1

She was my little angel, the love of my life. She was my best friend. Now, I irritate her. Everything I say is 'wrong' and she fights me on everything! I try so hard to avoid arguments, but I refuse to let her get away with stuff just so she'll like me.

My question, is, do they grow up and come back to being a friend?

2007-11-02 09:21:51 · 12 answers · asked by The Grand Inquisitor 4

Okay so my mom and dad have been married for about 19 years already and he has been an alcoholic ever since. My mom has put up with him because he always says sorry and is alcohol free for a couple of months then does it again.
Currently we were on welfare and he didn't have to pay rent, etc. because they were paying it for us and now since he is working and everything and making about 500-600 dollars they took welfare away from us so imagine they cannot count on him for nothing because he is not paying the rent like he is suppose to and they are close to getting evicted and he is not giving them any money like only 100 a week and they are 3 kids. so can they get welfare since they don't have any food currently they took of the cable etc.?? what can they do?
I am not living with them since I am 18 with a kid and recently moved with my husband

2007-11-02 09:20:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

alright so here is the run down...i live in a decent 3 bedroom apartment...my mom my sister my brother and i...and my mom and sister have their own room of course...and the last room goes to my brother who is 21 who should be living on his own providing for himself correct? and me...17 years old...i sleep on a couch....should it be i that gets the room or my older lazy P.O.S brother...?

2007-11-02 09:13:04 · 27 answers · asked by David S 1

How important are they to you?
I have an older brother, Chris, whom I would give anything for, even my left arm if neccessary.
Since it was only he and I growing up we have a super close brother/sister bond.

2007-11-02 09:03:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my man has a fiery temper, he hates it when i start talking if he aint finished and he's quick to start shouting at little things, it's doing my head in, when its good it its good but seriously his shouting is wearin me down, what can i do?

2007-11-02 08:52:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hope you say yes. At the end of a phone call etc............ If you don`t please remember that it does not go without saying. I lost my mum7 years ago and found that i could not forget that i did not tell her i loved her. My daughters and family always say it . i tell my father i love him. It may be a generation thing to finish a phone call with "love you!"

2007-11-02 08:06:56 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-02 07:27:06 · 11 answers · asked by Mouse 1

she loves to talk on the phone and i dont have the patience with them like she does.....plus its pretty funny watching her

2007-11-02 07:09:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-02 06:39:31 · 13 answers · asked by non active 2

Basically my MIL has hated me from the moment we met. Her and my husband do not get along and can barely stand each other but I tried being nice and allowing her to come to both of our weddings and all she did was cause problems.

After we got married she went on a tirade telling me that I had to give her the money we got as a wedding gift even though she paid for nothing in our wedding and when I refused she threw a fit and started telling me she was glad that my dog died the week of my wedding and she hoped I did. Along with other harassments and cruelety.

Now my hubby and I are going to buy a house and she feel she needs to be involved with every aspect and when we both told her no because every time she came house hunting with us she threw a tempertrum because she didn't like the place and we did ...

2007-11-02 06:12:17 · 29 answers · asked by ♥Holly Cookie Starr™♥ 6

My baby sister use to call me izzybet

2007-11-02 05:55:47 · 7 answers · asked by CasperinMississippi 3

hey whats up, im 19 now and my dad passed away when i was about 3 in a half.. i was wonderin if it was normal to have most of the side effects? i grew up very insecure and im still shy, and i dont have much confidence. I was wonderin if anyone knows about it or knows from personal experience...i dont mean to sound that bad, but i think that it changed how i grew up. If anyone knows or relates thanks again

2007-11-02 05:41:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

!st My daughter is being bullied by a neighbor boy. Found note where he has called her a f****** wh***. They are both only eight years old. Confront mom about it didnt go too well.2nd. Cps comes out to my house and tell me that there has been a report of drug ang alchol being used and sold out of my house. I have taken a drug test right there in my house before they leave. I know that I'm clean so I'm not worried. But they remove my daughter out of the home until the investigation is over. Shes with my mom.3rd. My brother gets hit head on in a car accident and is in critical condition.4th. I went over to my boyfriends house last night to surprise him because I have not seen him all week with everything else going on.. Well to my surprisse there is another girl there and her is hanging all over her. He total ignores me the whole hour I'm there. I stayed in the other room with his best friend while hes in the other with the other girl. I know that was the stupid thig to do.

2007-11-02 05:25:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

He has already threaten to leave the town i live in since he moved down here after i moved with my mother and step dad i just dont know how to handle it. He can make me feel so bad about it sometimes.

2007-11-02 04:57:09 · 8 answers · asked by Lauren Strawser 1

I was being a little noisy sister, and went through my sisters messages on MySpace, and noticed that "Shes NOT a virgin anymore" and it really shocked me for some reason. I always saw my sister as a virgin, but now shes not, and her and my mom are extremely close, they tell eachother almost everything, do you think my mom knows? My mom loves her boyfriend, hes really nice, and he sleeps over almost everyday. and I wanna tell my mom shes not a virgin, but i have a feeling she knows already, should I get into this? or mind my own buissness? They've been dating for like a little over a year, and shes 16.....Idk im more in shock than anything, but idk why im making a big deal out of it, what should I do? how can i just deal with it? (it's not jealousy)

2007-11-02 04:16:33 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'am 29 and i get treated like a child in the family. My dads had 3 strokes but i'am getting sick and tired of him treating me like a little boy i owe 6grand to barclaycard and 6grand to him. i feel in a traped from becoming a man cause he makes me feel like a child i wish i could leave but with no money dosent help. Does any one have any suggestions to help me out?

2007-11-02 04:13:41 · 18 answers · asked by james c 1

I get together with my wife's family three or four times a year for a Holiday get together. One of my sisters has a husband who does not socialize with anyone. He will talk to his son and daughter and exchanges a few words with his wife, but will not reply when anyone in the extended family tries to engage him in conversation. If we attempt to ask him a question he will just have a pained expression and turn away.

No one ever talks about him, so I do not know what the rest of the extended family thinks. I find it real odd. He is a fairly successful person at work and I understand he has a number of close friends.

Is this common, do you have people in your extended family who you see all the time but you have never had a conversation with?

2007-11-02 03:57:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous