He has already threaten to leave the town i live in since he moved down here after i moved with my mother and step dad i just dont know how to handle it. He can make me feel so bad about it sometimes.
2007-11-02 04:57:09 · 8 answers · asked by Lauren Strawser 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As they say, the phone works both ways. If he's so put out about your not calling, he could have called you. His making you feel guilty is emotional blackmail.
2007-11-02 05:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First off you said your dad moved to where you live right?
And you live with your mom and step dad right?
I'm sure your dad is feeling a little shafted? And I think you know this already.?
If your dad has moved to a new town to be closer to you, has he met any new friends yet? If not, he is feeling he has wasted his time moving to be closer to you if you haven't called him.
Can your dad honestly call your house without an uproar from your mom/stepdad?
Can your dad honestly feel comfortable about calling your house?
If not, then tell dad your are sorry again. Explain to dad how grateful you are that he lives here now and maybe you two can set it up to have dinner together at least once a week.
Is that too much to ask from a father who wants to be close to his daughter?
I know he's sounding childish, because he's hurt, he may even be feeling "he's been replaced by your stepdad".
So, If he CAN call your house with NO problems, let Dad know the phone works both ways.
So, If he CAN NOT call you at home, you do need to talk to him and try and find more time for him.
Hey, if he were not around, you will eventually miss him really bad.
Talk to your dad maybe over a dinner, I'm sure he doesn't enjoy eating dinner alone every night.
Good luck, talk, talk and talk, get it out in the open how you feel and find out where he is coming from, You can't keep having him threaten he's going to leave because you may go to call him and he'll already be gone....talk...
2007-11-02 05:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I imagine he is feeling really bad. My girls talk to their dad every day or every other day. I talk to them every day. Not long calls, sometimes its just "hey how are you doing today, anything going on? No, ok love you, bye."
Its the contact that is important. Men don't handle their emotions the same way women do, so his being mad and threatening is probably because he can't express his true emotions which is hurt and sadness.
You don't have any excuse for not calling him, and he should be calling you. You have a relationship with your father that requires extra care because of your circumstances. It doesn't matter who is at fault in the divorce, or what he did to your mom or what she did to him, that has nothing to do with you. He's already shown he really cares about you by uprooting his life and moving to a new place just to be closer to you. I imagine he needs to know that you appreciate that.
You need to see him and give him a big hug and just "dad, I'm a teenager and sometimes I do the wrong thing. I'm sorry I didn't call, I'll do better in the future. You can always call me too. I love you." He'll forgive you, he obviously cares a great deal about you.
2007-11-02 05:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-23 06:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone else said it, emotional blackmail. What's he doing, following his divorced wife around? You? He needs to get his own life now since he couldn't stay married to the woman he had a child with. Certainly there can be phone calls but to go down the road of quantifying them...he sounds like he's reverting to childhood early. Guilt is a wasted emotion.
2007-11-02 06:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him how you feel!
Yes, you made a mistake and didn't call for two weeks, but that doesn't mean he has to get all crazy and up and leave you like that.
Communication is key, talk to him about how sorry you are, and that you will try your best to keep in touch as much as possible; that you love him and don't want him to just leave, because you need him, he's your father.
The two of you can work things out if you sit down and talk about it.
2007-11-02 05:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes parents can make us all feel guilty, but so what if you didn't call for 2 weeks. You still love him, just be open with him and let him know how you feel. Maybe tell him you will set aside some time just for you and him. Parents just want to feel loved, he can call you also. Good Luck Stay encouraged!
2007-11-02 05:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by Kima 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
say -----"hey dad if u wernt a f*ck up and a terable husband i would live with u AND mom, so since u dont live with me or your family im a busy girl and i have things to do, if your upset that u cant be part of this MAYBE you should have thought about that wayyyy back, so dont take ur anger out of me k thanks "- then ur all set
2007-11-02 05:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by future lambo owner 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋