should i tell my dad?

Question

i'am 29 and i get treated like a child in the family. My dads had 3 strokes but i'am getting sick and tired of him treating me like a little boy i owe 6grand to barclaycard and 6grand to him. i feel in a traped from becoming a man cause he makes me feel like a child i wish i could leave but with no money dosent help. Does any one have any suggestions to help me out?

Answer 1

Burn your shorts as an act of protest

Answer 2

Should you tell your dad what?

Your dad has had 3 strokes and you are talking about him like he's some piece of crap because he treats you like a baby at the age of 29?

Should you tell your dad he's right. That you are sorry you have disappointed him and you are going to go out there and get a job and get on your on 2 feet.???
Is that the question you are asking? Then yes, by all means tell your dad this.

You are 29 years old. You should have been out on your own a long time ago and stayed there if you tried it once.


this sounds all about ...me me me me and me again.

Your father makes you feel like a child because you are acting like a child. after 3 stokes, I'd be pretty tired too and he's just calling it like he sees it.

I know he wants you to do more with your life. It's up to you to JUST DO IT.
We ALL have bills. that does not make us an adult.
So, you owe $12,000.00 do you own a car?
What did you do with the 6grand dad gave you?

Are you paying him back? I hope you are and paying on the credit card bill.

Get a job, pay your way and grow up. Dad will then stop telling you, your a child because then you will be doing ADULT things....
oh and don't forget to tell your dad today, right now...that you do love him...

Answer 3

You are 29 and still dependant on your Dad. That is reason enough for him to treat you like a child. You need to get a job if you don't have one already. You should be paying rent to your Dad and also paying down your debt to him.

Additionally, you should be helping with the maintenance of the home since your Dad is no longer able to fix and repair things. If you eat at home then you should also pick up groceries and give a hand in meal preparation.

If you need to work more than one job then so be it! An adult takes responsibility for his life and corresponding expenses and obligations. I know that some cultures encourage their children to stay at home even as adults until they marry, but in normal North American culture a young man is especially expected to carry his own weight.

A boy is never a man until he can earn his own way in life.

Answer 4

There is no easy way out of situations like this, the answer is to work for what you want.
I know saving is hard but it would be best. Pay off your barclaycard, putting every pound you can on to it every month (maybe you could consider working 2 jobs like I do).
Once barclaycard is cleared, pay off your dad and then you will have the money to move out. It won't take as long as you may think.
If you don't have to pay to live where you are now, you could have both cleared in a year, so it's totally worth it.
Is there the option to move out once barclaycard is clear and pay your dad in installments?

Answer 5

Your father probably treats you like a child as he sees that you are not always responsible.
If you have never moved out he has never seen you as a responsible adult living independently.
You need to explain to your father that you know you owe him money but you are a man and could he treat you as one. However as you live under his roof and have spent his money it is probably about time you acted like a man and started to find a way to save for a place of your own and get some financial help that isnt from your father. You will need to prove to him that you can act like a man before he will start treating you like one.

Answer 6

Well my suggestion to you is this the only way your going to "become a man" is to grow up, get a job and quite living off of your parents. He treats you like a child because you still act like one. GET A JOB AND MOVE ON

Answer 7

Are you paying on your expenses you incurred on a regular basis.You need to be responsible for your own actions.
You went into debt
You need someone to support because you are incapable of doing this yourself
How does this make think someone should treat you as someone your not.
You impose on others and are incapable of being responsible for yourself without someone paying your tabs.
If you want to be treated as an adult act like one.
Start making payments you can afford and get your own place even if it means working more than one job if you have one

Answer 8

do you have a job? if so move out maybe a batchelor pad with friends and start paying off the money to your dad and the bank though how you encured such charges are beyond me if you dont then get one! you need to look after yourself BY yourself and stop blaming your dad for feeling like a child

Answer 9

Find help. Get a steady job and go from there. I'm 16 and my mom still treats me like a baby when she needs to realize I'm not that little girl anymore.

Answer 10

Whoah! De ja vu! (Not really, but I do understand.)

It took me years to realize the co-dependency of it all. We love our parents. But we need them still. Or at least their money. My father would give me his last nickel. But I got tired of feeling like I owed him more than the money. So finally, I made enough money to stay on my own. That was years ago.

You may never be able pay him back fully, financially, but the best thing for both of you... would be for you to become self-reliant. Saving your money and not depending on him so much... may help him to see he doesn't NEED to talk to you like a child anymore. (Hurts trying, but it's worth it.)

Once you're out on your own, and he sees you making something of yourself, perhaps he will be easier to handle when you both set your boundaries.

Setting boundaries comes with experience.
[Now, you didn't say he is relying on your entire paycheck now, did you?]


Good luck to you. and God bless you both!

Answer 11

confused.com LOL. look there are debt people that can help you get your debt payed off. so get filling in your application forms before its too late and you end up the 40 year old virgin that lives with his mum making him cookies and warm milk! give them a call and get a job. youll be free in a couple of months! good luck with your future. X X