Any suggestions?

Question

I'm 13, and 3 weeks ago, my dad died. Can anyone tell me some suggestions of how to cope with it?

He died from a heart attack.

Answer 1

aw, i'm sorry. :(
maybe you could try talking with a family member?

Answer 2

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. Losing your dad at this age is terrible! Take the time to grieve, don't let people say oh get over it or its been such and such a time, why are you still grieving....grief is very personal and varies from person to person. Do you have friends that you can talk to or just hang with? You need that now. How is your mom and rest of the family doing? Be strong but be willing to be sad too. Emotions are good, do not keep it inside.
Do you have a church you go to? That can be a resting place for you and you can get support too. School too, should have some counselors there if you need to talk.
God bless you and be with you as you journey through this sad time.
Cathy

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your loss. There is no way to take the pain away. You will have to learn to accept it and work with it. In time it will hurt less. I found staying very busy kept me from thinking about it so much and that helped me some what. Another thing I will encourage you to do is talk about your dad to your friends and family. Talk about the good times and laugh at them or cry together over the sad ones but talk. Your dad will always be a part of you and will live on through your memories.

Answer 4

Time. Time is all that seems to fix it. My Dad died when I was 23 and pregnant with my first child. My youngest brother was 16 and my other brother 18. After 3 weeks it hurt almost worse than when it happened. But it seems to get worse, then it starts to get better. Allow yourself to be sad. The saddness seems to sneak up at the weirdest times. You may not sleep well for a while. But it will get better. Do things to remember him. It's like a bad wound. It hurts and stings when it happens, Sometimes it is worse in the first couple weeks. Then it starts to heal. It's ugly and bleeds for a while. But eventually it heals. The scar will always be there, but it will heal. Just give it time. Take care. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Answer 5

I'm sorry that you no longer have him on this earth. The best way I can think of to help you is based on the assumption that you want to have a spouse and children when you grow up. If so, then make a couple of projects to help keep his memory alive for them. For example, make a scrapbook with your mom about your dad full of pictures and some of his momentos (like adding stuff about what he likes, such as sports, art, etc.). You could also make a video with people you love where they talk about your dad. It may make you cry and it may make you laugh, but I hope it will make you happy to know that your future family can know your dad without ever meeting him. And you can also go through your projects at times you will need him, like for your graduation or prom. Ultimately, remember that he wanted you to be happy, so try and be happy. He would be happy with that.

Answer 6

I am very sorry for your loss. The loss of a parent at your age can be very hard.If you think grief counsiling would help then try that, but only time will help ease the suffering. All you can do is your best to be there for those you Love and they'll be there for you. The support of family and friends can help you cope. Try and remember all the good things and know that he loved you. He will always be alive in your heart and memories. Good Luck and again, I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

OK...

2002. My Great Grandfather died :Heart Attack:
2003. My Grandfather died. :Aneurysm:
2007. My Great aunt died :Natural Causes:
2007. (Same month) My Neighbor died :I dont remember:
2007 (Next month on valentines day) My Grandma Died or stroke and massive heart attack:
2007. My Great Grandma Died.

I know its hard cause I cry about them at least once a month! so its hard ALOT and I can relate to your situation tho with diff family members. I'm REALY Sorry for your loss!

Answer 8

Sorry to hear. My bf's dad just died this year... and to be honest, you would never even know. He copes so well. (And believe me, he cared about him a lot!)

He just made a point to keep living. He makes a point to go out with his friends and keeps in close contact with them. He focuses on what he needs to get done, and it basically he keeps himself occupied with things he needs to do (like school... work) But if he has spare time, he goes out and has fun.

He is really close with his family and he kind of took on the role of supporting his mom.. he doesn't talk about it ever (but I actually think that is a bad thing... so You should talk about it if you want to). He has a lot of close friends that he can confide in... and has someone who went through a similar thing that he is close to and can talk to about it. They share it, since they have it in common.

And actually what he does talk about, is the good times. Him and his family always make jokes and talk about his dad. "He would have thought this was funny, remember when he tripped that lifeguard?".. They remembered and talked about the good times. It is okay to do that, and the more you do I think the easier it will become.

But to sum it all up - You need to be with people who are supportive and put you in a good mood (family, friends...). You need to make sure you go out and have fun. It is okay to be happy despite this. Make a point to have friends over, throw a party. Celebrate. I mean, that may not sound good.. but celebrate his life. Don't be upset for him. He is in a good place. At my bf's dad's funeral they had a party after at the house. It is sad, but a positive outlook will make a world of a difference.

Also - volunteer. Be of service to others. That will always make you feel good.

Answer 9

I am sooo sorry to hear that. You definitely need to talk about it, don't hold it in. Whether it be a great friend, family, or a counselor/therapist. You need to help support your mom and any other siblings you may have. Life does go on, and your father would want it that way. But definitely talk to somebody, get some closure on it. The pain will always be there, but time does heal. Pray for it.

Answer 10

Honestly, cry. After my grandpa died me, my dad and my sisters were in K mart and he just broke down in the middle of the store. I'd never in my life seen my dad cry until that day. No one laugh at him, pointed, stared, or even really took a notice.So, don't be embarrassed. Talk to you mom/siblings about what your going through. It will help all of you a lot.

Answer 11

acceptance. losing someone you love an early age is not easy. it'll be painful and hard to accept their gone but confronting the truth is the best in dealing with reality of life. also talking with other family members will help and being there for your siblings (it you have) and mom, you all need each other to go through with this ordeal. and try thinking that your father will always there to guide you despite he's not physically present in your life from now on.