okay well this is a long story, but my dad is a complete idiot. and my mom last year asked for a divorce with him but it hasnt happened yet because my dads lawyer is purposely taking a long time to fill out papers and stuff. well almost every friday my dad goes into my moms room and puts a letter in there to read. last week my dad had a proven letter that my mom was apart of a cult of budhisim (but she seriously is not) she just prays for peace, not even kidding. and my dad thinks its dangerous to me and my brother that she prays? wtf. and then just an hour ago my dad and brother went out to get a movie and left her another note saying that she is abusing our animals and he had like "proof" that the SPCA has proven that my mom is being cruel to my dog and cat. honestly, my dog is a loser and really smelly, gross ugly, etc. so my mom just ignores him. and she loves our cat, but she is allergic to cats so we like to keep her downstairs so my mom doesnt get sick. ........
2007-11-02 13:15:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and nowmy dad said in the letter that if she gets caught being "cruel" to animals again she would have to pay a fine for $1000 and spend time in jail. but seriosulyy, she isnt cruel to the animals AT ALL. so now im really pissed off and i dont know what to do. BUT I SOMEHOW WANT TO GET BACK AT MY DAD AND SEND HIMM "A LETTER" TELLING HIM THAT WHAT HES DOING HES WRONG. (BUT IM GUESSING I NEED PROOF IN SOMEWAY TOO) SO CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME AD TELL ME WHERE I CAN GET ACCURATE INFORMATION ON WHAT HES DOING IS WRONG! i want a serious answer, im just looking for help. please dont be nasty. thank you
2007-11-02 13:18:45 · update #1
please email me if youre willing to help.
i seriously need some help. and i didnt exaplin that very well, and theres alot more to the story.
(:
2007-11-02 13:25:40 · update #2
first of all don't neglect your dog and second of all by playing your dads game of writing mean letters your not being helping at ALL. ignore him and tell your mom that if hes harassing you guys to place a restraining order against him.
PS: don't be mean to your dad, he is the only dad you will ever have, and when hes gone you are going to regret being mean to him. be the bigger person and don't pay attention to him.
2007-11-02 13:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buddhism is not a cult, but your dad isn't the only person to think that it is. His actions, though somewhat misguided, are driven by his concerns for your well-being...and his opinion on this issue is shared by many. That isn't what I find most bothersome about your story. What's really disturbing is the polarity that has developed within your household, and the fact that the situation has deteriorated to the point where children are involved and have begun taking sides. A divorce is a highly complex, adult issue....so complex, in fact, that adults need lawyers to sort through all of the myriad issues and a judge to rule on them. So if adults don't jump into the middle of such a mess without professional guidance, there is NO reason a child should ever attempt to negotiate this mine field. You have NO credible voice in this equation because they are BOTH your parents. But for whatever reason, you have labeled your father as a "complete idiot" and apparently identified with your mother's side. You can do this, but it's a mistake. At the end of the divorce, he will still be your father, and you only get one per lifetime. Sadly, sometimes marriages die, and that's the sole responsibility of the married parties. But you will all be "family" for the rest of your lives, and the quality that life has is dependent on decisions you make today. Try your best to stay out of it...you're not qualified to help anyway. There aren't any heroes in this equation, you know....it takes two to fail at a marriage. Good luck to all of you.
2007-11-02 13:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your Mom and Dad are getting a divorce....how come he can get into her room??? Your Mom and YOU, should be living separate from him. I am also disturbed when you said that "if your Mom is found guilty of cruelty to animals "again." Does this mean she has been cruel in some way in the past??? Your Mom can get herself to a lawyer and speed up a divorce. She doesn't need to wait on your father to do everything. Your Mom needs to get a restraining order to keep your father away from the both of you. I wouldn't suggest you "getting back" at your father. Don't stir up the pot anymore than your father is, or you will be no better than him.
2007-11-02 13:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Grandma of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i suggest is that you tell a trusted adult or a family friend what is happening between your dad and your mom. What you're dad is doing is not right, framing your mom. Thing is this could also be your mom and dad's problem so talk to your mom and ask her opinion about this, if both of you want this to stop tell someone now!
2007-11-02 13:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead and write that letter let him know how feel, if you live with your mom then you should know whats going on in the house you can tell is an animal has been abused my how they act and if they have marks on them from being kicked or something. If your old enough when your parents go to court you should have the right to choose which parent you want to be with.
2007-11-02 13:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Sounds as though there is some control issues with your Dad! I agree, that what he is doing and saying to your Mom, is wrong and mentally cruel to her! My heart goes out to her!
I also agree that your dad needs to be confronted on how he is mentally abusing your Mom. This must stop! I can understand why your Mom would not want to live under such controls!
However, your Mom is right to pray! I am a Mom and Grandmother and I can tell you that those who pray to God, are doing what their hearts desire, communicate with our Creator, God! She is wise to pray! Hun, do you pray? I hope that you do as I would ask you to pray, to God, for the words He would have you speak, to your Dad. I know you are angry! I would be too! However, there is much power in prayer and only God can truly change another's heart! He can take your pain and use this to open your Dad's eyes as to his cruelty! I hope with all my heart, that you will pray and give this anger to God! Let God guide your words and peace will be given to you! I am praying for this as it breaks my heart to read that this is happening!
Please know, you may e-mail me if you have any questions! Know that I will be praying for all your family as I know God can change things, when we cannot!
Blessings,
Gail
2007-11-02 13:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I just have to comment on where you said your "dog is a loser and really smelly, gross, ugly, etc." He is YOUR dog. Dogs are a reflection of their owners. Maybe you should take better care of your animal by giving it a bath and playing with it. Maybe he won't be such a "loser" then...
2007-11-02 13:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by WinstonPug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Save all of the crazy letters. When it comes time to use them.
They will collectively portray the work of a crazy and not too intelligent person.
2007-11-02 13:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by robbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you help her out and tell someone about what your father is doing, because it sounds like he wants to take the kids from your mom
2007-11-02 13:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋