I get together with my wife's family three or four times a year for a Holiday get together. One of my sisters has a husband who does not socialize with anyone. He will talk to his son and daughter and exchanges a few words with his wife, but will not reply when anyone in the extended family tries to engage him in conversation. If we attempt to ask him a question he will just have a pained expression and turn away.
No one ever talks about him, so I do not know what the rest of the extended family thinks. I find it real odd. He is a fairly successful person at work and I understand he has a number of close friends.
Is this common, do you have people in your extended family who you see all the time but you have never had a conversation with?
2007-11-02 03:57:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This just sounds like fun. I don't know how out-going the extended family is, but I'd be like "Hey Bob, how's it going?" "Hey Bob, who would win in a fight, a velociraptor or Jack Baur, Jack gets a gun with two bullits" "Hey Bob, you have something on your face. No not there. Up a little. Higher. Higher. Never mind."
2007-11-02 04:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think this is common. But, maybe their is an underlying issue. Perhaps he is very nervous around your family, doesn't feel comforable. Next time you have a Holiday get together, try a different approach. Ask him a question directly. You stated "If WE attempt to ask him a question".
Next time you ask him a question directly instead of it being a group of you. This can make a world of difference. My son who is 10 does this. He is the best kid in the world, but he gets so nervous that he will give a weird look at the person who asks him something and look away. Is that common? No. Not everyone is common.
2007-11-02 11:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever my aunt has a gathering, her husbands family sits on one side of the room, or park or hall, etc. and they never talk to anyone on our side of the family unless we engage them first.
I figured out that my aunt or her daughter speaks bad about our side of the family and that's why they act the way they do torward us. We only see these people a couple of times throughout the year and they are always antisocial and sit separate from us and my aunts best friend is the same way, she won't stay long when our family shows up.
So, your sister has spoken bad about your family and that's why he's acting like that.
2007-11-02 11:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by Neenah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds anti-social, however you said he had friends.
What kind of friends does he have?
why don't you talk to your sister about it. That way he could never accuse you of talking about him behind his back (with the whole family that is)
It sounds like he may not like your family. If he doesn't respond to anymore outside his own immediate family and he acts like he doesn't want to be there, that would make sense.
Yes, I've had "others" that weren't as outgoing as our family at gatherings. I guess they feel, like ok. if I don't show up everyone will always ask where I am. AND what's wrong, so I guess he's trying to keep piece within his own little family circle of "Showing up but I don't have to like it" attitude.
If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck....it must be a duck...... Good LUCK ~ talk to your sister !
2007-11-02 11:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have family members who I don't see very often. However, they hardly call or sometimes don't engage in conversations when the family gets together. Why, I don't know. Never done anything to them, and I am a very likable person. I believe it is THEIR problem.
2007-11-02 11:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tend to not talk to me, similar to that. It's like I'm a Nazi or something. Humans are just odd.
2007-11-02 11:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by Austrian Theorist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-11-02 11:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by delicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F him, don't ever attempt to talk to him again. Ignore him like he ain't there.
2007-11-02 11:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lelar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why haven't you asked your wife? He is really rude. That is bizarre.
2007-11-02 11:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋