Horrible Mum?

Question

i dont think i can live here anymore. im 15 and my mum keep threatening to hit me and throws stuff at me. she yells at me for the slightest thing and locks me out the house alot. Once she threw one of my sisters hard toys at me and it hit my head, i had a bruise and i got up the corouge to tell a friend, who told her mum. But my mum just said that i keep telling lies and that i fell over! she also told some of her friends not to let their kids hang out with me becuase i lie alot. I asked her about it and she said "Thats what you get for lying" but i wasnt!!!
Shes fine with my sister but is really mean to me.
Once i didnt want to go out to the park with them and mum said to my sister (3) "oh well we cant go to the park, because your mean sister wont let us so you will just have to go to bed" My sister started crying becuase of this and my mum MADE her go to bed at 5 And said it was my fault!!!!!!
What can i do?!

Answer 1

You can call Childline on 0800 11 11 or the NSPCC on 0808 800 5000 for advise. You don't have to give your name or details, the phone call won't appear the phone bill and the phone call is confidential. These are the links to the websites.

Answer 2

You are not a bad mum. You are a great mum. In fact, if anything, I would say that your daughter was being extremely uncaring and nasty towards him in saying that if another dog bit him, it wouldn't be too bad. How would she like it if someone said that they didn't care if she got bullied by someone or some group? I would go and tell her that there is nothing wrong with allowing to go off the lead in a safe, secure place once he has been trained to always come when called. Please don't ever let anyone allow him to be off-lead in public until he has been trained to come back and you can actually find a place like the one that I described above. Tell your daughter that he should be okay as long as he is not allowed off-lead when there are other dogs who are aggressive/defensive and are not muzzled, the chances of him ever being attacked like that by another dog when out in public are slim. If it happens anywhere else, there will probably either be someone who will be able to separate them and/or call a vet if one of them is badly hurt or it will be at a location that will be within the hearing range of someone who will be able to calm things down and help them if any or either of the dogs get hurt. If the small dog that you saw being attacked was okay afterwards, or survived and was, presumably, able to live happily, healthily and safely afterwards, you could also try telling her this. Just knowing that he/she was able to live like this after the attack might reassure her a little bit. Best of luck.

Answer 3

You mum sounds like she has issues in a big way. Is there any reason you can think of that she treats you and your sister differently? Has it always been this way? She seems to have a lot of anger towards you, which must have a basis in something. If you do have times when you get on, try and ask her why she behaves differently towards you than your sister. Tell her how much it hurts you. Ask her if she is willing to work with you to try and change your relationship. If you can't have this kind of conversation with her, is there anyone else in the family that could shed some light on this, or intervene?

It is a very abusive and unpleasant situation. To be using a toddler against you in this way is very warped. She almost sounds mentally ill, to be honest. Try to keep the relationship between you and your sister positive as much as you can. Be loving towards her and when she gets older, talk to her about this situation with your mum so she doesn't get drawn into blaming you. In the meantime, if you can't get on with your mum after trying to talk to her, is there anyone else you could live with for a while? This is a very damaging situation for you, and it shouldn't continue.

Answer 4

It sounds like your Mum hates the fact that you're growing up. When you were little, it was easy for her, but now you're of the age when you're ready to start making your own decisions and she's finding that hard to take ....

But her lying and alienating you is not good. This is very extreme. I think you need to tell a teacher you trust, and find out where you can live in if you can't live with your Mum - or your Dad? You need help with this, so the Citizen's Information Bureau perhaps - especially if the teacher can help you out there - and the Social Welfare Department that deals with children. I know you are not really a child but according to the law you are, so you can't live on your own just yet.

But keep asking for help from people around you, like teachers and the police if necessary.

Answer 5

Oh dear, that doesn`t sound much like a loving mother.
Mine wasn`t nice either.
I tell you what you need to do. Tell a teacher or another member of your family. An aunt perhaps.
You should never be locked out of your home or hit.
If your mother is ok with your little sister, are you sure you aren`t making her angry at you?
If you are desperate enough, go to the Social Services & tell them how it is.
Hope things can turn out ok for you.

Answer 6

Your mother is abusing you and should be ashamed of herself. Get some help now. Speak with a member of staff at school, or phone child line.

Answer 7

Wow! I'm so sorry you have to go through that....maybe you can go live with a friend for a while...I mean that is just too much for you to go through at 15 years old. I hope you are alright and god bless you. Good luck!

<3
Jenny

Answer 8

i feel for you hun ,does you dad live with you ,if so try talking to him,or another family member and talk to them about it, i don't get how your mum can treat you like this , or could u go and live with another family member until you can sort this with your mum,or have you tried speaking to you mum about this, maybe she does not know what she is doing to you,good luck babes.

Answer 9

RUN AWAY!! Take ur sister and run!! Take one of her credit cards and go rent a hotel and take her car so she cant come get u!! She is ABUSING u, and u shouldnt stand for it!! So I say run!! Pack up u and ur sister's clothes, grab her credit cards and money and car keys, and take off in her car!! Make sure she isnt home, though. If she calls the police and they find you, then tell them that you did it for you and your sister's safety. Oh, and make sure you have her driver's liscense since your only 15!!

Answer 10

u should tell somebody u should tell ur teacher or yea run away and with ur siste becasue sooner or later shes gonna do the samething to ur sister im sorry ur going throught this and ur mum is abusing u and shes gonna do it to ur sister so take this in mind

{GOOD LUCK ND TAKE CARE OF U AND UR SISTER}