I'm going to be 18 in three months and I don't know where to go. I have my grandpa's and then I have my boyfriends. With my grandpa he's involved in a church that I'm forced to be involved in. My boyfriend wants me to take care of his son and drop out of high school and become and instant house wife. Then there is my dad and him and I aren't talking right now but he said he would let me stay. I just want to finally find some stability in my life.
2007-11-01 01:14:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to become your own stability. Stay with your Dad for now and try to get training or go to college and get a degree of some kind. You're going to need it to get just a regular job nowadays. But put some thought and research in how you can become financially stable doing something you can enjoy. Then you will never have to depend on a man to give you peace of mind, because they usually do the opposite. Once you get financially set everything else should just fall in place. But you need to make this happen now while your young and still have the energy and drive to do so. Go for it! The web has a lot of resources to help you find your niche. Make your life a great one!
2007-11-01 01:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by gmoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide what YOU want to be doing 10 years from now and then work out how you are going to get to that point and what you will want to have achieved when you look back.
Do you have a career you could get into now or that you want to study towards? Or would you like to settle down to a family life - there's nothing wrong with that option especially if you have lacked that in your life so far but go into it with your eyes open.
Being a stay at home Mum is hard work and being a working (or student) Mum is harder still but both can be very satisfying.
Is your relationship ready for that stage forgetting the convenience to your boyfriend of live in child care? Consider whether he is motivated by true love or convenience and how you will feel not earning your own money, how will it all work?
If I were you I would move in with Dad to rebuild some bridges and because old folk don't adapt as easily to change and because you could end up as Gramps carer (sorry Gramps). Tell boyfriend it is good opportunity that you don't want to miss but that you would like to dip your toe in the family waters and gradually increase the amount you stay with him to see if you like it and to make sure he doesn't take you for granted.
You're young, have fun as you only get this time in your life once. Think what you enjoy doing and do it either in a job or at college before you settle down. Enjoy spending your money on you without the worries of a child's needs.
Good luck!
2007-11-01 08:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk things out with your dad; he could turn out to be your biggest ally. Work, save, and get your own place. You'll turn out to be more stable on your own, you'll only have yourself to answer to for a while, and you can actually plan a life rather than just existing day to day. Seriously, what do you want to do with your life? Write it down, figure out the steps to be taken, write down the goals and a timeline, and make it happen. Good luck!
2007-11-01 09:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you better stay with your dad for a while, till you adjust and get your own place.
2007-11-01 08:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ana m ♦ Настя♥ ■ ■ ■ ╪Hecate╪ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋