How many grandparents out there are guilty of treating one set of grandkids differently than another. Say, treating your daughters kids differently than your son's kids? How do you justify this?
My inlaws treat my sister in law's children totally different! They watch them all the time, buy them EVERYTHING they ask for, but never buy my kids anything unless it's a bday or whatever. They spend all their time with the other grandkids and never any time with my kids! When my kids play sports, I have to BEG them to come to a game... and I'm lucky if I get one game attended per season. One year, I coached a sport, and got my nephew on my team... Miraculously, my inlaws were at EVERY GAME! Because my nephew was there. How wrong is this?! I HATE IT! I feel like my children (3, 8 and 13) are looking at themselves and saying "why don't they love me the same?"... It's terrible!
We all live in the same town within blocks of each other, and the kids go to school together also...
2007-11-01 06:16:31 · 2 answers · asked by Amy G 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I agree that they really only need their parents to take care of them. But you have to understand this is stuck in their faces every day almost. It's being force fed to my children that they don't measure up. I don't think I'll ever be able to accept it.... It's wrong and hurtful and grandparents shouldn't be like that.
2007-11-01 06:52:53 · update #1
I definitely feel for you. We went through the same thing...long story short... my children now 17,18 & 21 havent spoken to that grandmother (even when shes at a family function) for more than 5 yrs. Good luck... your children are probably better off having little to do with her because it will effect thier self esteem.
2007-11-01 06:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kit 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your children definitely WILL look at the grandparents and wonder why they are treated differently ESPECIALLY if they hear you complaining about it.
You can't change the in laws, and there comes a time in our life where we have to accept situations as they are... and people at face value.
Your kids need YOU and their father... you are the two people they look up to and love.. remember that.
2007-11-01 13:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋