Is it just me, or was this lady rude?

Question

My daughters are 2 and 4 years old. Last night while we were trick or treating, I picked my 2 year old up and was carrying her because she was getting tired. My husband was holding my 4 year old's hand and walking with her. I was cuddling my 2 year old and singing "You are my Sunshine" to her and kissing her head. My 4 year old was busy having fun trick or treating with her Daddy.

This other mother was walking around with her son (obviously her only child- no others were with her and I could just tell by the way she acted with him he was her only). They were sort of on the same path we were- we bumped into them several times.

She snidely remarked that she hoped I pay as much attention to my 4 year old at home as I do my 2 year old then commented "I couldn't do that to my son- have another one and take any attention away from him." I was insulted, but didn't say anything because I didn't want to get upset and I tend to get more upset when I say something back. I wish I would've

Answer 1

I wish you would've too. She had no right to judge you for being a MOTHER. What a twit.

Answer 2

♥ Yeah that was totally rude and totally uncalled for!! I've always known people were rude, but here lately it seems as if they whole world is rude & impatient. For example: I was on my way to college the other evening [[about 5:45 ish]] and I was coming up on a in intersection and a road off to the left lets people come on from a major highway [[I live in Jersey]]. Well there is always alot of cars there, but that day it was exceptionally busy and people were honking and yelling. I figured that they were just angry because of the slow moving traffic... and indeed they were but it was mostly because a guys car had broken down in the middle of the road and he was trying to steer the car & push it at the same time. I was 2 cars behind him and patiently waited and when I turned I made sure that he was alrite. I mean I didnt understand why someone just didnt get out and help him if they were that interested in why he was taking so long to move. You know? And then another similar incident was the following morning when I was on my way to work. A trucker, whom had been carrying loads of stuff, had to stop because something fell off his truck into an intersection and one of the lanes couldnt go. The passenger in the first car screamed at this guy the ENTIRE time he was moving stuff to the side of the road. And then up the road the car behind us [[a teenager who seemed to be late for school]] honked & honked at us when we stopped at a Stop sign... haha... so yeah.. people are horribly rude. I always try to be nice! Disregard this womans comment. I'm sure you have enough love to go around! :-)

Answer 3

It isn't you...the lady was ignorant. Kind of like me before I had children. (I also have a 2 and 4 year old - boys). I remember before I had children thinking things like, "my kid would never do that" or "I would never say that". Then you have children and all of a sudden you understand. She only has one child so there is no real way for her to know what it is like to parent two - and that you can do so lovingly.

Even though you may have immediately felt better had you replied to her, it would not have made a difference and you did the right thing. Now you can let it go!

Answer 4

Then she must be awfully rude every day of her life, because I'm sure you aren't the only one with more than one kid. If she says this to you again, say no, I didn't take anything away from my first child. I gave her a very valuable gift by giving her a sibling. And then give her the biggest grin you've ever given anyone.

Answer 5

That was rude of her. I don't understand why people like her just can't keep their comments to them selves.. She must have issues . Wonder what she would do if she did end up with another baby. I feel sorry for the child already.. Sorry she had to be so rude to you.

Answer 6

I only have one kid...and I couldn't imagine having another to give all of that attention to. BUT....when you are a parent, you divide your time naturally. That lady should have minded her own business. Who is she??? Mother of the Millenium???

I wouldn't take it personally, and if she had more than one kid, she would know that with each kid you sneak in a "special moment" with one and not the other(s). It makes each kid feel unique in their time with mommy or daddy.

Answer 7

Yeah that lady was tripping and prejudging you. She don't know you from a can of paint and it was none of her business to say something like that to you for no reason. Wow that was rude. It was best you didn't say anything back to her. The comment wasn't worth responding to. The lady was ignorant

Answer 8

Of course she was rude! YOu can see why she only has one child. Feel sorry for the little kid. Imagine having a mother like that!

Answer 9

She was entirely out of line and does not deserve a response, I am glad you did not give her one. She belongs on a psychiatrist's couch. That is the appropriate place for her to bring up her issues, not to strangers on a public sidewalk.

Answer 10

you should of said that u share ur time with both your children and unlike so many out there you are blessed to have their dad play a big part in their lives... sounds like a bitter lady. dont let ppl like that ruin your enjoyment with your children

Answer 11

You did the right thing! Who cares what that lady has to say? She might have been rude and completely out of place, but you know what she said is untrue. That's all that matters!