ok so she is n everything n shes happya bout it., shes 16, no job, will get kicked out, n is dating person her parents hate. i try to be supportive but idk what else i can do. i feel like shes throwing her life away. will she regret having this kid?
2007-11-01 04:16:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow. Well, she must be under a lot of stress even though she seems fine. Talk to her, let her cry, hug her and let her no your there for you. I think you should tell her to talk about her possibilities like, marriage, abortion, etc.
2007-11-01 04:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking about an emotional state (regret) in a future time period. That answer can not be given... by anyone.
You've obviously have point out all the reasons that teens should not be having kids and her life and the life of her parents are going to be VERY difficult over the next 10 years or so. This isn't a 'single event' that is only difficult for a few months until the child arrives.. .this is a COMPLETE change in your BFF's life. If this boyfriend is not someone her parents like and now, because of this child, he's going to be in their life FOREVER, it's time to come to the realization that it's not going to be easy.
Now.. her life.. is going to be TOTALLY changed. Education will be more difficult to acheive, which will impact her ability to care and provide for this child. Her ability to obtain work will be impacted. The boyfriend will have to begin making child support payments (does he have a job? can he support this child?).
She should consider to the quality of life she can bring for this child.
Abortion is still legal in this country and this is a good really reason why!
Good luck!
2007-11-01 11:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by wrkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is throwing her life away because im 100% sure the father will not stepp up and take responsability she should not have been messing around in the first place but i do think she should keep the child so she has to live with her mistake then maby later in life she'll think a bit harder before doing somthing stupid. Where are her parents???What do they think?
2007-11-01 11:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by themagicalmuffin31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know that she is walking into a huge responsibility ! I think she should give the child up for adoption ! Difficult decision but she has to do it for her own good and for the good of the child. I wonder if she understands what it means to have a baby ! You as a friend should not leave any stone unturned to make her see reason. She might turn away from you or may even be rude. But one day she will realise her mistake and will have no one to turn to except you ! So always be there for her !
2007-11-01 11:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by HimJoy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jesus H. Christ, what the hell was that question supposed to be? A warped version of English for sure. It blows my mind that there are people who come here from China who can speak better English and perform better on SAT exams than our own teen citizens who have had English both at home and in school from birth!
You teens and your abbreviations make me wonder how abbreviated your brains are! Can't freaking spell, can't freaking abbreviate. "Idk" sums it all up, none of you seen to have a clue or know a damned thing!
You've got bigger problems than worrying about your friend and her pregnancy. Worry about the way that you talk and write! I am so disgusted with this generation of teens. And you are our future.... Geez.
2007-11-01 14:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by attyoncall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get counseling first and to be sure she is capable of caring for this child , I had a friend years ago that had a child very young , the hardest thing for her was to tell her parents ,this friend of yours needs too., and it is her body , and her child no one should take that away from her. not even her parents they need to be supportive and if there not there is counseling and help for young to be mothers out there . plan parent hood has that info. best of luck.
2007-11-01 11:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may regret it or she may not. some people are mature enough to deal with having a child that young. if she is still with the father it may be fine. its a shame her parents aren't being supportive as she'll need her friends and family around her. make sure you're there for her either if she keeps the child or if she doesn't but at the end of the day it's her choice
2007-11-01 11:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by izzy01 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know this sounds mean, "she made her bed now she must lay in it"so mean teenagers think they are so much in love and they always know everything so they think.She chose to lay down with this boy so now she will have to deal with it You try to make the right chooses listen to your parents they tell you thing for a reason..good luck
2007-11-01 12:22:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has ruined her life and she doesn't know it yet. Reality will set in when the baby is born. I hope she gives this child up for adoption. He or she deserves a better life that his mother can give him.
2007-11-01 11:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be her friend (which she will need during this time), don't judge her or try to make the decisions for her. Just tell her that you are there for her and perhaps have her talk to her priest or a counselor?
2007-11-01 11:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by yogurt777 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋