Should I take him?

Question

First off I will tell you some background. I am 22, with my own house and a fulltime job. As far as I know I cannot have kids. I run a daycare out of my house. One of the boys I babysit is a placement child. He is 2. His mother did drugs and he is "delayed". His biological mother is dead. His "mother" is really his aunt and his brother(cousin) is three. His "mother" cannot take care of him she has had surgery and cannot hold a job. She wants to give him to me if I want him, or else he will go into the system. I am wondering if I should take him, she said if social services would not comply she would move him into my house and give me his checks when she gets them. She wants him to go to a pllace that she will be abl to visit him (she is his aunt) but knows he will be loved and be taken care of. We are very close he comes 5 days a week now and loves it here. I just don't know how I would explain it to my family but I would love to have him and he calls me mom on his own accord.Should I?

I am married we have been together for 4 years. He just wants what is best for everyone, and is a little uncomfortable about her still visiting him later. But that is something to be discussed when the time comes.

Answer 1

I think you should take him. Think of how hard it would be for him to adjust to brand new people being 2 yrs old. I would not be able to bear the thought of the lil angel goin into the system. Bless your heart for even the considering of this. Do this strictly out of love for the boy cuz things cold happen and what if she didnt get you the checks. And as far as the aunt seein him that is still great. He should be able to know some type of blood relative. As far as your family.. Tell them that this little angels soul has touched your heart and you have gladly recieved him from up above and he is an addition to the family. I am sure they will love him and treat him as if he was real family.

Answer 2

I think you have answered your question on your own, if you love him and you know you can provide for him why not. It would be the most rewarding thing you will ever do in your life!! Is it hard heck ya but in the long run worth every minute. I was a single mother of 4 and there dad is a dead beat when i see them succeed it brings tears to my eyes! Do it you already broke down the barrier with him he already looks at you like a mother don't care what family and friends think do what right for you and the little boy Oh and now I'm in a relationship w/ someone w/ custody of his two kids so now we raise 6 it isnt easy but niether is life

Answer 3

If you love this child then do whats best for him, just make sure you really want him and your husband does too, or it wont work and he will be traumitized. A family is way better then the system. But keep in mind if its not legally authorized she could rip him back away from you at any moment, even 6 years from now. Or if she died or was questioned she could be in trouble for collecting checks and accused of fraud. It could up a huge legal mess for all of you. I would only do it if you were legally approved.

Answer 4

None of us can make that decision for you. It's one of those things that I prefer not trying to persuade one way or the other. I think you need to sit down with family members and the boys family and all talk about what is going on and see if you all believe it is best. But in the end just do what your heart and mind tell you to do. Good luck. = )

Answer 5

It'd be better if he had a mother and a father, but seeing the situation you'd better jump in there if you can.You can always get married later, but he needs you now.