My brother verbally abuses me and hits me!?

Question

I hate my brother, he belittles me everyday and he can't stop yelling n call me names! He takes me as his punching bag always unloading his own **** on me! I hate to be around him when he is in his crazy mood. He always pick on me, calling me names or loose his temper yelling at me like I am totally worthless. I feel very ashame and down because he disrespect me all the time, I tried to fight but he hits me, he recently gave me a black eye because he said he hates my ugly face and I wish I was dead. He is so mean to me and the beating doesn't hurt as much as what his words have done to me. He said he is ashamed of me, calling me an ugly fat loser and an dumbass. He and I are very popular outside but I cant pretend anymore cos when at home is like a living hell. My parents try to stop him all the time but he is just so violent, he likes to belittle me but when I does that to him he will hit me regardless of who is around. I say I hate him but I love him why can't he just be nice to me?

He is my only brother and I told him how his actions affected me emotionally, he said that I must learn that life is cruel and he goes beserk because he care about me and that I am throwing my life away being me. He makes me feel like everything about who I am is not good enough and that I should suit his expectations, I told him he is a real control freak and he said he is just being protective of me because I am his only sister. He just said he was sorry for giving me a black eye and bought me stuffs. He is making me very sick, after every each 'episode' he will be nice to me again but it won't last long. I have heard the term 'we are family' but then isn't this dysfunctional? He is my only brother but I am an adult now, I can't take his **** anymore. I want to move out but my parents they are very protective and paranoid, I feel so sick and yet in front of others, I have to pretend that my life is great because everyone tells me so! Sometimes I just wanna throw up from the stress!

I have considered reporting when I was very very mad but then I just can't do it plus with my parents' rep here, I can't do it. I tried running away but then I have no place to go but just drove around cos I'm chicken ****. I tried to ignore him when is crazy and give him the silent treatment but that made him madder. He said he is very stressed with his own life and sometimes I am afraid he might consider suicide, he is very depressed and I don't know why because he won't tell me what is going on. It's so tense here and I just hate it! I want to scream because I hate the smilling and the pretending with everyone else. I hate myself because what he says about me, I think it's true, I feel so pathetic. My parents tried to made him to get help, that made him even more madder and he targets me even more saying I should be dead and everyone will be happy, I feel there's this void inside of me, he will be nice then he will be mean, it's like I need everyone's approval to just live n be me.

Answer 1

kick his @$$
im sure one beat down with a baseball bat will make him your puppet

Answer 2

First off,see if your parents can be more proactive in stopping this.Ask them to see about getting him help for this because once you are out of the picture,he will transfer his anger and rage to someone else.If your parents refuse to,then you still have options.Contact a domestic violence shelter.They are not just for battered women anymore,they are for entire families now.Not only do they have safe houses,they have meetings that you can attend to teach you how to help yourself.And no,you don't have to go to the safe house to attend them.Also,check with your local police department about taking a self defense course.Most of them offer these either free of charge or at a minimal cost.This way,you can at least defend yourself from his blows.Once that starts happening,he will get the picture and back off.Unfortunately,brothers tend to take out their anger and aggressions from the outside world out on the one person they love the most that will let them.This person is usually a sibling because they know mom and dad won't tolerate them doing it to them.Under no circumstances is it right for him to hit you,but until you can take up for yourself,or you can get your parents to step in,he will keep doing it.

Answer 3

If he's violent and your parents can't or won't control him, call the police when he does this. Call them every single time he hits you. They are busy, so you may need to be persistent, but insist upon it. If you are afraid to call them in his presence, go down to the police station and make a report. Letting him get away with this isn't much better for him than for you. Deal with it before he gets even worse. He could end up in prison or dead if something doesn't happen to him now.

Answer 4

I am sorry you have to put up with this kind of abuse. sounds like your parents should get him some professional help. there is nothing you can actually do until he is willing to admit or realize that he is abusing you. Although this might be considered child abuse and maybe child proctective services might be able to help or step in .....how old is your brother.

Answer 5

that sucks, i rememebr when my brothers used to hit me...i hated it , but hd to face that i was smaller and when i would hit thm back they would act so mad that i actually dared to hit them back. It made me so mad!! I gues dont talk to him, or get in an arguement with him ever...comepletley ignoring him would probably be best.

Answer 6

if your parents are too cowardly to face your brother, and discipline him, you can always report domestic violence to the police.. i'm serious.

you need to protect yourself and YOUR PARENTS need to get your brother help.. it is normal for siblings to argue, but it's not normal for someone to be doing mean things all of the time... and hit and give black eyes....

YOUR PARENTS are responsible to take care of your brother's anger issues, and i hope they do.

Answer 7

beat the crap out of him while he is asleep

Answer 8

Don't take that s... Go off on him.