How do i get my mom to believe me?

Question

My mom has accused me of stealing money from her purse and i didnt, I have told her this and we went into a big arguement over it. Its not in my nature to do something like that, its not what i was brought up to be like but she wont believe me.
Im not talking to her that much either its just made things weird between us and im grounded so i cant go out with friends.
Its so unfair because i didnt do it!
Please help
I dont no what to do, i cant focus at school because im worried now cuz she thinks bad of me.
Its just not how i am. I dont steal for anyone especially my mother.
Help me please. x

Answer 1

That's awful. It's really upsetting when your mother doesn't believe you about something so important.

Are you the oldest child? We always seem to have to take rap for things!

I wish I had better, foolproof advice for you than this, but there are two things you can do:
1. Let it go. Just try to let things return to normal.
2. Write a letter to your mom explaining that you are very hurt by her accusations. Let her know that, because of her job of raising you, you would never steal from her or anyone else. Tell her that you love and respect her, but you feel really betrayed and hurt by what happened.

Answer 2

Since you cannot talk with her, write or type her a note.

Tell her that someone at her work place could have taken the money.

Or one of her visitors to your home.

Or maybe one of your friends that visited your house.

Tell her exactly what you just told us, that you are not the kind of person to steal from anyone.
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Several years ago, one of our friends' son had an overnight visitor. During the night, the visitor actually went into the parent's bedroom and took cash from her purse. The boy was gone the next morning along with the cash.

I was at my dad's funeral and someone took money from my purse while it was in the bedroom.

At a store, my husband dropped money on the floor without knowing it. A man quietly picked it up and left the store before anyone could stop him.

Clerks at stores will tell you that customers often leave money or credit cards on the counters accidentally and walk away.

God bless you, hon, I hope all works out well for you and your mom.

Answer 3

ouch this is a bad situation. is there anyone else in your household that could have done this? here's something else you may want to think about...maybe she's trying to blame you for something she did. maybe she over spent for the holidays knowing full well you're Dad is going to be pissed off b/c she spent money you all really don't have and she's shifting the blame on you. *shrug* parents are only human too and sometimes they do bad stuff also...and shifting the blame onto a teenager is an easy way to avoid an argument with your spouse.

My suggestion is maybe speak to another adult in the family like your grandmother (you mom's mom) or even your farther. Tell them how you feel and that you would never do anything like this. You're mother may have a some sort of under lying problem (maybe like drinking, prescription drug use or even slight memory loss) that only an adult can address to her.

Answer 4

#1 if she is missing money from her purse, how much and when did she first notice it was missing?
#2 Is she a stay at home mom, or does she work?
#3 Did you have a calm sit down discussion as to other possible scenarios as to where the $$ is or could be?
This is the kind of questions you have to ask and start to have an "open" dialog to work the problem out, because it isn't going away by itself!

Answer 5

Obviously you've lied in the past to lose your moms trust. Takes time to get back. And you cant focus on school because your mom is thinking bad of you is an excuse. You need to figure out whats really going on with you. And with the purse money thing... If your mom was smart she would put her purse in her room and out of your sight. Not saying you are taking your moms money but maybe your moms a drunk and doesnt remember what she spends her money on.

Answer 6

Time is on your side, hon. At this point there's no convincing your mother that you didn't take the money. All you have is your track record and your future behaviors. If you are trustworthy, then she'll know that. BTW, could it have been one of your friends that stole her money???? Tell your mom how upset you are and that you feel terrible that she thinks less of you right now. Ask her how this can get better. And remember, in spite of this "moment" between you, your mom still loves you very much and always will.!

Answer 7

May be your mom thinks so cause you recently spent money on something that your mom doesn't appreciate or like or wants to know where you got the money from.
All misunderstandings can be set right by talking to her. Sit down with your mom, without losing patience, ask her why she thinks so and give your mom a hug.... That will help you a lot...
If its affecting you in school, its probably time to talk to your mom about it seriously. If you find it difficult to approach her, try to talk to her about it through some common friend who will let your mom know how you feel and tell you what she feels, some one who is unbiased and someone who you trust....

Answer 8

Do what I do, talk as if she is hurting you by saying it. Sit down one on one and start to cry explaining how you could never do that to your own mother and how you don't understand why she would suspect you. Make sure you cry! Make it seem like she is really hurting you by thinking that.
Since I'm sure she loves you, she will realize how much thins has hurt you. Don't talk about how much the punishment hurts you, act like that is the last thing from your mind. She needs to know that you hurt your feelings. Also, have the dishes or something done for her to come home to. Little acts of kindness show her that you really do love her. Start telling her you love her more often.

Answer 9

Is she ur real mother or step mother? I don't think ur mother can abuse you on stealing money unless u had the same thing previously. Find out the reasons and if u have not stolen the money then who had done this? Plz try to find out whether ur maid or ur sibling? He or she may be taking advantage of ur previous bad impression on ur mother. Plz be positive how can a mother thinks bad of her child? May be she is more tense and worried about ur future.

Answer 10

I feel quite sorry for you, because having bad relationship with your mother is a terrible thing, it is same with me and my mom actually. What i could suggest in your case is try to talk to her again, if you have any brothers or sisters talk to them, what if they did it? You should really show your mom that you are worried and upset of whats going on, and also question her why does she think it would be necessarily you!?! Also tell her that you posted this question on line and this should make her think.....would anyone post this online if they wouldnt care? I wish you good luck because i know hwo you feel right now! =)