But what if your mother abused you and left you at the tender age of six and your father has been in and out of your life since day one. How do you honor them....honestly?
2007-11-29 04:49:08 · 12 answers · asked by Z. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By the way...my grandmother raised me....but she wasnt the baking cookies and cakes type of grandmother...more like this is a family obligation, as well as getting a check on top of it....cant wait till your dumb *** grow up so you can get out of my house situation. I still love her, and the funny thing is out of all the mean spirited things my grandmother has done to me, when its all said and done; im the one who helped her when her lights were cut off, Im there when she needs someone to talk to because no one else will look out for her. She cried when I sent her money for her light bill...outta 27 years, I have NEVER seen her cry....that made me feel like a saint! Thank God for forgivness.
2007-11-29 05:01:54 · update #1
you dont have to honor your parents, honor the person who raised you. people have weird ways of showing love, and now your gramma being old, probably looks bad and regrets how she was. but everyone makes mistakes, its what we learn from them thats improtant. your parents, didnt have their stuff together and prolly were not ready for a child, so im sorry you had to grow up like that, but your gram loves you, sooo honor her the way she should be!
2007-11-29 05:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you describe a case where the biological parents were not parents at all. It takes more than biology to be a mother/father. Your scenario demonstrates that. I don't see an obligation to "honor" them at all. Perhaps the person/peope who actually raised the child, were there when needed, and provided the support necessary for growth would be considered the parents and deserving of "honor." Maybe.
2007-11-29 12:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by ps1ed 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You honor your parents by realizing what they did in their life they didn't do to you. They did what they could with what they had. Unfortunatly the reality of that sometimes isn't very pretty, but that doesn't mean that they didn't do what they could. You seem to have worked that out about your grandma and seen passed her not so nice behavior. What your parents did or didn't do in your life brought you to where you are today, you can't change it and you can't change them, accepting and forgiving really helps clean and calm your soul...
2007-11-29 13:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Respect is earned not just given. I would never disrespect them by cursing at them, hitting them etc.., but I wouldn't disrespect anyone that way unless it was self defense.
But other than that, if they didn't earn it: they don't get it. Sometimes people deserve a second chance. We all made mistakes and have done stupid things but if they keep proving they are not good people, you don't have to keep giving them chances.
Be careful and look out for yourself.
2007-11-29 13:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible tell us we should honor your parent, that your life on this earth well be long live, if your parent was not present in your life God said he well take you in, meaning he well provide a way for you to be taken care off. we are not prefect and everyone make mistake for whatever reason your parent was not in your life. they still gave you life.
2007-11-29 13:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure about honor and I don't think it is meant in the usual way. You can love them, if only because they are your parents. You don't have to talk badly about them or put them down in any way. You can certainly acknowledge to yourself that they are not good at parenting and lack the skills necessary but that's not dishonoring them. Reality is.
2007-11-29 13:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by misselie1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honour those parents?? not on my life! They do not deserve the honour or the title of parents. They were DNA providers only
The honour should be reserved for the people that raised the child and gave it the love and security required to succeed in life.
2007-11-29 12:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by AshphaltDiva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who raised you? These are your true parents and you should honor them. We honor honorable people, just because your birth parents brought you into this world... that does not mean that you need to honor them... when someone else took care of you durring your childhood.
2007-11-29 12:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to! My advice is to forgive because no one is perfect but they made their choices along time ago and now you get to make yours. If you dont want them around its your decision! Learn from your expierences, good and bad, and always remember that you are your own person and what you feel in your heart is always right so follow your heart not your parents!!!
2007-11-29 13:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kikikins 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You shouldn't honor them because they haven't been parents at all... they sound more like sperm and egg doners.
Anybody can hump and pump out a kid. It takes ALOT more to be a parent.
2007-11-29 12:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋