Family - November 2007

I am meeting my brother in law for the 1st time and my sister in law is also coming to visit for 3 to 4 days at Thanksgiving. They are staying with us.
Any ideas for entertaining them or keeping conversation going? I have never met them before, I have talked with her a lot but never this much time. I am a little nervous.
Any advice from people who have been there!!
Thank you and Happy Thanksgiving.

2007-11-19 01:06:41 · 8 answers · asked by Ann 5

I want to know if I'm being unreasonable, do I have a right to be UPSET? WHAT Should I do the next time? The Story: Yesterday by b/f and I were @ his mom's house. She is elderly and needed some assistance with cleaning and such. I voluteered to assist her a few days prior (with the cleaning) NOT NECESSARILY THE MOVING OF FURNITURE (but i did not mind) anyway- we show up & my b/f leaves and goes to talk to a neighbor- (which is fine) however He does walk back in & his mother (who still cares for him (cooks,cleans etc. @ HIS AGE OF 34) Until I met him- she still DID ALL this stuff for him... He's NEVER BEEN MARRIED! he walks in & his mother ask him to prepare a mop bucket, so he does! & brings it to us- WE NEED HELP MOVING HEAVY FURNITURE- and notice another (1) of the neighbors/friends pull up-he walks out to speak 2 him and I say (as he was leaving) WE Will need you in 5 minutes. 1hr and 38 minutes later AFTER I do EVERYTHING MYSELF & READY 2 go Home- HE DON"T KNOW WHY I"M MAD!!!!

2007-11-19 01:05:55 · 7 answers · asked by offroad25177sbabe 1

I am 17 and my fiance is 20. we have a 2 month old son. Despite what you may think we are mature and responsible parents and our son is everything to us. My fiance lives with his parents right now due to family rules. Hes had a really hard time finding work. Our state is very hard to find a job in which is why alot of people work out of state. he finally got a job 2 weeks ago at walmart. he had a blood and hair drug test last week and the results arent in yet. I know he smokes pot twice in august (before we were back together)and the drug test can detect back that far. So the chance that his test could be possitive is an unfortunate reality. His mom said if its possitive she's kicking him out on the street. I couldn't let him live on the street. We were planning a wedding in May, but my mom says if that happens we should elope. I wouldn't mind but my question is what do you think we should do?

2007-11-19 01:04:50 · 19 answers · asked by camdensmommy07 2

I need advice from outside my family. I work for my father and stepmother and they allow me to bring my infant to work with me (which is great). HOwever, they want to babysit him or come to where I work and take him for the day. I am totally against it and I'm about to get fired. I have not left my child with anyone yet and am definitely not comfortable with them watching him as my father drinks and my stepmother is bipolar and I have seen some of her episodes. I have tried to reason with them and explain that he is my first child and I am not ready to leave him yet but i have been yelled at, cussed at, and told that I am being a bad mother. I want to quit but no one else would allow this type of work arrangement. Am I being unreasonable?????

2007-11-19 00:17:02 · 12 answers · asked by brod 2

I have been in a monogomous relationship with the same 55 yr old man for 6 yrs. I work full time and have a successful career and he does too. He has been divorced now for around 7 yrs and I had nothing to do with his divorce. He has 3 kids and
They have told their dad they do not like me. Probably because I have been very up front with my belief these kids ranging from age 26 to 32 should all be out on their own.
They should be able to support themselves by now and not be milking their dad. We have a great relationship except when it comes to these kids. I also have 2 adult children who are independent. His adult kids move home like a revolving door with their whole family and when they move in suddenly go on weekend vacations and dont help with the bills or anything. They blow money and then cannot pay bills.
I pay my share when we go out. I have deferred family get togethers for 3 yrs now. I dont really care either way. I want whats best for him and to make him happy

2007-11-19 00:09:22 · 7 answers · asked by happydawg 6

We live in a dual residence (ie one house downstairs with my parents living there & Another upstairs where my husband & I live with our 2yr8mth old daughter). I am the only child, my daughter the only grandchild. She is used to her grandparents downstairs. Her grandfather is about to die. We do not have any religion in our lives so I cannot say to her that he has gone to heaven, or to live with angels, or god etc & I dont want to just try that now. When he is gone she will regularly ask where he is. We say now, hospital, asleep etc. We can say this after he has gone & she will be fine but I do not want my mother to keep going through the reminder day after day and having to lie to her. Do we actually take her to the funeral and say he is in the coffin and gone? (I dont like that as her last memory of him, but maybe thats what you have to do). i expect many people have tried things that I cannot think of now, so, Please, any and all ideas and suggestions... thank you !!!!!!!

2007-11-19 00:08:17 · 6 answers · asked by RR&BB 1

I really respect my dad and love him dearly. Yet, I can't find the words to tell him this. We don't talk much because of his job but when I try to talk to him it just feels awkward. It maybe because we never really talked but did activities like sports together instead. We never really had a father-son talk. It is also because he is a traditional Japanese dad and if I do tell him I love him in Japanese, it isn't going to come out right. I think it's a cultural thing since my other Japanese friends can't find the right words to say this. I don't want to regret not telling him how I feel. It's easy to tell my mom that I love her because she is pretty americanized, but it is hard to do so with my dad. Any advice or suggestions?

2007-11-18 23:22:29 · 14 answers · asked by UtleyFan 2

my daughter won't speak to me because she says i bullied/neglected her as a chil.d. i sent her a lot of money one birthday. she never thanked me and still doesn't want contact. i've stopped bothering sending cards. i heard through a relative that my daughter has complained that i don't send her stuff any more. what's the point when the effort is not reciprocated?

2007-11-18 23:17:47 · 46 answers · asked by ellen s 1

my mom juz passed away last week, to be exact its 8 days now. yes i am still mourning. but how i do picked up the pieces and move on with life? its extremely hard, i have my faith, my husband as pillars of my strength but its to cope with it.
Life took a different turn, ive lost my confidante, companion and much more...& we are very attached...

help me pls.........sob sob

p/s: it feels like im being robbed of being "me"

2007-11-18 22:51:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi

I'm inlove with this man that has two teenage kids, a boy 14 years and a girl 16 years. Their mother is late now 9 months, The kids don't like me coming to their house to visit the father. And a couple nights i had to sneak into the house to be with him. The kids are aware of this. I told my boyfriend that its risky for me to be coming to the house as the children don't want me there. He says its his house to. The children have alot of outside influence, like my boyfriends mother and his late wifes sisters. They keep telling the children to watch out for me, their father might spend all his money on me. The kids are scared that i will take their money. I was at the house yesterday, and the girl was away, the boy was in the shop helping. I girl knew i was at the house and she asked the brother to come check for himself. My car was in the driveway, and this boy, took a brick and broke my side window. How can i live like this, the children are dictating their fathers life. plz help.

2007-11-18 21:46:27 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay, it seems silly, but here's what id like to know:
im 15 & a girl, and my older girl-cousin is 38. im very close with her, and when i say hello or goodbye to her, i always hug her.. when i give her a hug, as she hugs me, she always laughs. why does she laugh?
--in my last post, i got the answer "just ask her yourself" in all the answers.. if thats your only advice, i appreciate it, but please dont answer with that!!!
thank you!! :)

2007-11-18 21:29:16 · 21 answers · asked by anonymous 2

Before marrying the fruitcake, i only knew him for 4 months so his "mental problems" were not apparent. Several months later we divorced, BUT i was 7 months preggo at the time.
He never offered any help whatsoever while I was pregnant. During that time I moved into my own place, worked full time till the day i
delivered, and did everythign on my own from the time separated till now. My son is now 8 months old and his father has been NO help financially towads my son. In fact, he fears the state is after him (they arent cause I havent filed for anything) so I found out thru his family that he won't work and hasnt ince his birth. In fact, he's staying at homeless shelters in his car, etc. just so he looks broke in case he gets served wth papers. The reason I havent filed is because I dont want im getting visitation cause he can't even take care of himself, so how could he take care of my boy?? His name is not on the birth certificate for obvious reasons...

2007-11-18 19:29:58 · 13 answers · asked by Suzy R. 3

Alright when i was 15 i had a cousin named amy.We both had a myspace.That was the only way we could stay connected cause she lived in portugal and i lived in california.Then one day i was on myspace and she haden't been on for a year.I emailed her and tryed everything but she'd never replied back.Four days ago i looked at her myspace and she hasen't been on for four days.Then i looked her up on people search and it said "Amy Ponceano Deceased Age 23".That's when i went online and searched portugal's news and it turns out 2years ago a car with my cousin (amy) and her boyfriend (henery)Were driving in a foggy night when they drove into a lake and drowned.I am depressed and my mom and my family dosen't know my cousin and her boyfriend soon to be husband is dead.How can i tell then without makeing them break down crying.

2007-11-18 19:26:52 · 7 answers · asked by domenicathesims2player 3

My boyfriend and I have been invited to four different places for Thanksgiving. My moms, my dad's, his dad's, and his mom's. I work 6a-2p on Thanksgiving Day and do NOT feel like going all over. Either does he. How do we satisfy everyone? His step mom is kind of a b*tch and I think will be irritated if we don't show up, but my boyfriend said he just wants to go to my Mom's and I wouldn't mind just doing that either. Suggestions on what to do? Or what to tell his step mom so she's not pissed at me?

2007-11-18 18:46:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and my mother are not in speaking terms. My wife says my mother hurt her but my mother says she's done nonething wrong. I have spoken to my mom about this, yet, my mother refuses to repair the damage. This hurts me becuase my kids are loyal to their mom, and don't seem to care about my mother in their life. Its hurts me more that she is not around to see my kids during the holidays and birthdays.

2007-11-18 18:19:25 · 13 answers · asked by This tears me apart 1

He's just argumentative (16) and does not appreciate what he gets. I just took away a laptop computer from him . He does not seem to care. What can I do?

2007-11-18 17:22:16 · 31 answers · asked by Parercut Faint 7

ok so these past few days my STEP UNCLE has been coming over to do some work on my dads car.. and i am starting to become more and more attracted to him... he is a really funny guy but my step dad and mom are very catious with him like they say be careful i dont want u alone with him.. stuff like that. and i also heard he does drugs. but that doesnt stop me from being extremely attracted to him.. not sexually just i dont know how to explain it.
i would never ever try to break up his family or mine so im not even thinking about taking this any further.
but i just cant stand how much im attracted to him.. i cant stop thinking about him. what should i do?
btw im 15 hes like 30 something..

2007-11-18 17:19:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

How can you make two people that are the families biggest trouble makers have a big fights. As stupid as it sounds i know. Its just that i am sick and tired of their behaviour. One is my cousin in-law and the other is my sister in-law. The cousin plays me against my sister in-law all the time and now the kids are following in their footsteps with my daughter. i can't stand how they both betend to be friendly yet backstab my husband, daughter and i to eachother. then my cousin tells me everytihing that my sister inlaw says . After telling me she begs me to keep it a secret cause she doesnt want her to know that she told me. The when we are all together they make sure that they stick together and i feel uncomfortable. I said one thing about my inlaws and she told everyone and then it got back to me. i didn't say anything. How can i expose them for what they really are. My sister inlaw told our cousin that my husband sister in a lesbian. The cousin rings me up and says to me; so how long have you known? I said known what? she said you know and i said no i dont just tell me. She then said that my husbands sister is a lesbian. i said that i don't know anything about that. I asked her where she heard that from and she said that my sister inlaw rang her up and told her. She then said that i obviously havent heard not to say anything. This what i put up with all the time and i sick of it. I want to tell people that she is saying that she is a lesbian to expose her but i scared cause i think that the cousin will not talk to me. You see my sister inlaw thinks that she is best buddies with her but all she does is backstab her in the back and i keep it a secret for her all the time. I think that if i expose them that i will still be left out and that they will go on being friends. what should i do? i cant't handle it anymore because next week it will be something else. please tell me how to handle this type of situation?

2007-11-18 16:49:31 · 2 answers · asked by Blondie 2

My mother in law told me today that she and my father in law wants to celebrate my sons' first BDAY?
I am not happy about this because I was looking forward to do this. My husband wants to take his parents side and let them celebrate the bday. I am not happy at all. what should I do. I have never heard of grand parents celbrating their grandson's bday. what should I do and is this normal.

2007-11-18 16:04:20 · 24 answers · asked by c 2

Okay I'll make this as short and descriptive as I can....I am part of a family of 4 siblings. We decided only to buy xmas gifts for the niece and nephews this year, not the siblings and their significant others. The 3 sisters have one child each. Brother has none. Brother thinks it's only fair that he and his fiancee should be the ones who receive the gift since they do not have children. I say he's just being greedy. Brother is raising hell over this and says I am being cheap......opinions please?

2007-11-18 16:04:07 · 16 answers · asked by MommyB 1

my dad is drunk and is saying that im worthless and he keeps coming at me like hes gonna hit me and he wont let me out of my room or call anyone

i dont know what to do i cant go anywhere else because i have no where else to go

2007-11-18 16:03:34 · 6 answers · asked by *raven* 2

My fiance and I are planning a wedding in May. At first his mom seemed great with it. His dad was always trying to talk him out of marrying me. Then tonight my fiance's mom was drinking alot and she told my mom how we shouldnt get married. I just feel so unsupportive and it really hurts because I love his family and I thought they loved us together. All of my family is more than supportive. what do we do?

2007-11-18 15:28:35 · 9 answers · asked by camdensmommy07 2

2007-11-18 15:11:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just moved to Ky from Fl with my hubby and inlaws...we have been her for like 4 months and i can't find a job and niether can my hubby...so i suggested we moved back to Fl where we both know we can get jobs...plus i be close to MY family and he be away from his..anyways...his parents dont want us to go and talked to us about staying...his mother is disabled so i try to help around the house...but i dont want to be here..i want to be back in fl with my family and where i know i got a job...but im afarid that if i leave that something bad happens to his mom it will be my fault...what should i do...i am starting to having second thoughts because of his folks

2007-11-18 15:11:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a 21 year old girl and Ilike a 35 year old guy.. we both like each other and have talked on the phone for about 2 hours already talking about what we are gonna do and stuff. He said to me that he thinks I am smokin hot and that I was making him aroused just talking to him and stuff. I told him that I wasnt gonna be his girl that he had sex with only and he said that its not like that at all and that he likes me for me and has for a few months now.... what would you think?

2007-11-18 15:11:06 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was very attached to his mother (who is my grandma) when I was little, and she passed away with cancer when I was seven. Devastating as it was, my dad was fine the whole time, right up until they lowered her coffin into the ground. That was the first and only time I ever saw him cry. Now, nine years later, his father (who I'm also attached to) is about to pass away, of old age and medical ailments. My dad is just sitting in the living room by himself, silently watching tv, as though nothing is wrong.. but I know there is. What on earth should I say to him? I want him to know I'm there for him.. but it's hard to give a heartfelt speech to your dad..

2007-11-18 15:04:38 · 11 answers · asked by yeah 3

2007-11-18 15:03:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

my friend is having her 16th birthday party soon
and she's inviting loads of people to her house,
one of her parents is planning to stay at home to "supervise" and make sure everything's okay.
however, this party is bound to get a little loud and her parent might be a little embarrassing..
how do you think she should try and persuade her parent to go out?

2007-11-18 15:00:22 · 8 answers · asked by Minty_Fresh 1

My ex and I have a new baby boy. I'm 34, pretty independent and I can take care of the baby. The dad works with his family. they have a restaurant and he's there 24/7. So he doesn't have a lot of free time to see me or the baby. Anyway, he won't live with me b/c of my cats (he doesn;t help pay for anything nor has he offered to pay) so I feel he has no say. Anyway, I'm just debating if I should file for cs or give him an ultimatum. pay me under the table and no obligations to see the baby (he isn't that stand-up a guy) we broke up when I was 6 1/2 mos preggo and he never called to check on me, no emotional support whatsoever. Or should I haul his *** to court. The only thing is that I don't want him to have any rights, say if I wanted to leave the state eventually. Any advice? Should I just wait a little while to see how things pan out. The baby is 5 weeks and I need to recover from the c-section completely befoe making decisions.

2007-11-18 14:59:54 · 10 answers · asked by pussnboots333 4

My guy is a naturalized citizen (from another country). My son's friends will sit in my home and berate people from his country on a regular basis. I have spoken to them about it - but it seems to fall on their deaf teenage ears.

I'm ready to throw the bunch of them out of my home but don't want to embarrass my son. Suggestions?

2007-11-18 14:58:52 · 9 answers · asked by Ms. Gump 3