what should i do?

Question

How can you make two people that are the families biggest trouble makers have a big fights. As stupid as it sounds i know. Its just that i am sick and tired of their behaviour. One is my cousin in-law and the other is my sister in-law. The cousin plays me against my sister in-law all the time and now the kids are following in their footsteps with my daughter. i can't stand how they both betend to be friendly yet backstab my husband, daughter and i to eachother. then my cousin tells me everytihing that my sister inlaw says . After telling me she begs me to keep it a secret cause she doesnt want her to know that she told me. The when we are all together they make sure that they stick together and i feel uncomfortable. I said one thing about my inlaws and she told everyone and then it got back to me. i didn't say anything. How can i expose them for what they really are. My sister inlaw told our cousin that my husband sister in a lesbian. The cousin rings me up and says to me; so how long have you known? I said known what? she said you know and i said no i dont just tell me. She then said that my husbands sister is a lesbian. i said that i don't know anything about that. I asked her where she heard that from and she said that my sister inlaw rang her up and told her. She then said that i obviously havent heard not to say anything. This what i put up with all the time and i sick of it. I want to tell people that she is saying that she is a lesbian to expose her but i scared cause i think that the cousin will not talk to me. You see my sister inlaw thinks that she is best buddies with her but all she does is backstab her in the back and i keep it a secret for her all the time. I think that if i expose them that i will still be left out and that they will go on being friends. what should i do? i cant't handle it anymore because next week it will be something else. please tell me how to handle this type of situation?

Answer 1

Since you have to carry on with these schemers in your life, you have to be very careful with them. Obviously they are using you to fire their guns resting the barrels on your shoulder.I suggest you to listen to whatever they tell you. And the matter should come to an end there.Once they realize that gossips ends on reaching you, they may stop using you as their tool and stop bothering you.

Answer 2

You shouldn't have to deal with this. The next time one of them treats you this way, call them out for their behavior. Do this especially if they are in front of members of your family who are involved in this argument. If it continues to worsen, just disassociate you and your family from them.