Family - November 2007

He is snaky and angry all the time. I think its probably his dads and my fault. When he was growing up we worked on a roadhouse full time and didnt make enough time to spend with him.

He was very difficult as a child and we were quite hard on him, we think now this was the wrong way to handle things. We used to yell at him a lot when he was naughty and now thats the way he handles things. I feel like we are responsible but now we just want to help him.

I have taken him to counselling, they told him to take 3 deep breaths when he is angry but he says he cant, its too hard.

He is nasty to his brother and sometimes there is just no talking to him.

If anybody has any suggestions i would greatly appreciate it.

Cheers

2007-11-18 14:52:28 · 40 answers · asked by cunnys_bunny1 1

There has been a history of sexual abuse in my family Me, my older sister, my mother, my half sister, my aunt and my cousin where all sexually abused as children me and my older sister where sexually abused by my stepfather......my real father also went to prison when I was a month old for raping my halfsister....I love my husband so much and I know he isn't a pedophile but I find myself watching him very closely with our 4 week old daughter when he bathes her and I see him touching her I get so uncomfortable.....I know he would never hurt our little girl but I just can't shake this akward uncomfortable feeling at watching him touch her....should I get some counseling or something....

2007-11-18 14:47:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-18 14:44:44 · 2 answers · asked by yanetalex_girl 1

A lil background of us
My hub is 23, im 19-20 in june, been married a yr this dec. lived together about 3weeks marred and then he had to leave.
Hes in the Air force but doesnt plan to make it a career, He wants kids like crazy-hes in iraq right now
but Im more hesitant on the idea.

so I wanted to ask when is a good time to start a family in everyones opinion

would it be wrong of me to have a baby this young and be trying to go to school, and him gone about 7 months out of each year for the next 2 - 3 yrs
he really wants kids

2007-11-18 14:41:19 · 16 answers · asked by corrick_1 6

2007-11-18 14:36:55 · 7 answers · asked by teacherbuzybee 2

I promised my mom that i would have thanksgiving with her. She said she would pick me up wednesday night then bring me back late thursday afternoon.
i told my dad this and he took it as i was going to have dinner with him too!
My mom is like were having dinner at two and i want you to stay the night so we can spend time together.
then my dad is like "i got all your favorite foods, it' going to be great" and he's not willing to eat after 3.
how do i decide what im supposed to do?
do i eat with my mom and come back at like 8 and be like "hi" before my dad goes to sleep? or do i not go to my moms and just wait until the weekend to go? or what? and the option of them eating together is out of the question.

2007-11-18 14:34:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

She shares legal custody, is the cause for the child having repeated frst grade (investigated for educational neglect)- and had no idea where he was even going to shool this year until a school official called her about something. All of his stability is here with us. If heaven forbid something happens to his father, will he be automatically handed over toher? Will I (his stepmiother) have any rights to keep him in the only stable environment he knows? She has only seen him 2-3 times in the last 8 months because she doesnt make an effort- but claims that we keep him from her.

2007-11-18 14:31:33 · 5 answers · asked by **leigh** 3

We are attempting to create a family tree for our children and so on and would like to know how to get started with the search for my husbands past. His grandparents have passed and his other relatives are of little help. We would just like to know where to look and how to find out the correct spelling and how to find out when and where his family arrived in the US.

2007-11-18 14:25:26 · 2 answers · asked by Kim J 1

My grandmother left a will and she had told me that she had set up an account for me with $10000 since 1988 so it has been drawingintrest as well: however, my mother claims there was no mention or she has no knowlege of anything left for me. My grandmother told me about the account and I know she wouldn't lie to me. Now a few things how can I get a copy of the will? i do not know if it was probated or not I do think I know the lawyer who might have a copy. Would I be able to read it, second, if there was money left but no mention of my name am I SOL? and last if I do read the will and see thatthere was inded an account and my name with it how do I go about claiming it? I know that by investigating this I will deff cause issues within the family, but my gma always told me she wanted me to have that money when she passed. I don't want to come of as greedy cause it's not like that. I feel my mom is going to give my share to my bro and sis who also are suppose to have something comming.

2007-11-18 14:09:37 · 5 answers · asked by Geo 2

My sister is currently in counseling, but she's threatened to kill herself with household cleaning products. What kind of products should me and my family lock up or take out of the house?

2007-11-18 14:02:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Father died recently.He did not leave any Will. There are some Family properties and a few Self Acquired properties also.The Family comprises of my Mother, 5 Sisters and me being the only Male.

Would like to know how can we partition the Poroperties?

Suresh

2007-11-18 14:00:37 · 3 answers · asked by velumuthu S 1

For example, you are a 21 year old ONLY child who's living in a house with your parents. The rest of your family lives in another country. Your parents get into a car accident and die.

Please tell me thoroughly what are you to do next?? (regarding the house, money, insurance, funeral, attending college, etc) I would great appreciate it. Thank you so much!

(I know, this is a realllllly sad topic...but it's good to know about these things...life is so unpredictable!) =(

2007-11-18 14:00:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm sure this question is asked many of time on here but i am in such a rut i really need advice. I am 24 years old, I do live with my mother, mostly she cant function on her own. Serious alcoholic, codependent, realies on others to do for her but still fronts to her friends and other relatives that she is both the Father and Mother and some loving being. I cook, clean, do laundry, take care of the horse, sheep, many cats, 2 dogs, try to buy food for the household while working a job that is a physical strugle and have yet to be appreciated by her. I am waste of life in her eye bc of being gay and i will have no "man" to realy on. She has been married 4 times. I dont think she has a right to say that. i do things to help her out and put down everyday for it. I am a total upset to her. I could go on for days about how bad it is. But i dont have it in me anymore to even get upset with her. i put on a front as well to hide the pain i feel. HELP!!!

2007-11-18 13:53:52 · 3 answers · asked by ♫♪®♪♫ 3

My sister in-law whom my husband and I haven't talked to for over 4 years (long story) is now pregnant. We have been trying to get pregnant way before her. Now that she is pregnant first, she is naming her daughter a name we picked out over 9 years ago and wanted to name our daughter if we ever had one. Now that we are enemies, is it fair game to the name? I feel like she is taking a premeditated stab at me and is intentionally trying to hurt me. Should I be the better person like I have been for 4 years, or is it time to confront her and let her know she is shady and evil?

2007-11-18 13:48:57 · 4 answers · asked by blg22 2

My sister is mess up. She been in prison twices for doing illegal things and she have a child 2, but the child is living with his father. She had not learn her lesson yet and still want to do illegal things for living. She had not even graduate from high school. She got issue with me not respecting her, but being honest she is the one who are not respecting anyone in the family. She just do what she want and don't care about others. I really don't know what to do????

2007-11-18 13:47:12 · 3 answers · asked by Angel 1

i love her and i care about her cause she is my mom... i am 25 years old and she has just caused me so much pain that i can't even forget the things she did.... i don't know what to do... is it wrong to feel hurt? inside me is this guilt feeling because she;s my mom... but i am really hurt by her words and actions.... i am an only child and my dad died when i was 18 years old. basically it's just me and her. i am really confused. i am deeply hurt but at the same time i am feeling really guilty, what to do?

2007-11-18 13:38:50 · 11 answers · asked by lovingyouforever 1

2007-11-18 13:27:09 · 10 answers · asked by Antoinette H 1

Yikes! My kid was always busy with school and activities. She never learned how to cook, didn't care. Her fiance cooks and now she wants to learn. It took me years to learn from my grandmother. What can I teach this kid in 3 days?

She spent years in my kitchen and doesn't know a damned thing! I'm kinda pissed she tells me she doesn't know anything and she got ripped off.

She's getting married and she doesn't cook. Now it's MY fault!! I don't cook anymore, I live alone. HOLY COW! Any other single Moms charged with a cooking week-end, for Thanksgiving? I'm kinda pissed. I know how to cook, I just don't because I live alone.

I made her watch me, peel potatoes, help out and do the stuff I did, when I learned. I never made her cook, as a teen.

2007-11-18 13:12:24 · 5 answers · asked by muppetkiller_2000 5

How do you tell an 9-year old girl not to use bad language, hand gestures, and vulgar behavior that it's not right? And what if she doesn't understand anything and doesn't mean what she says? And By the way, don't give me weird answers.

2007-11-18 12:38:54 · 10 answers · asked by Idealatheist 2

my boyfriend left for iraq and i just found out that im going to be a mom and i dont no if i should tell him.and i realy worried that i will lose the beby because i am so young.i cant eat and i cant sleep.what should i do to get through this

2007-11-18 11:55:36 · 12 answers · asked by minda marie 2

OK, Me and my brother got into a huge fight. We have never gone 2 days without talking. I think he did something uncalled for to me and I havent spoke to him in 2 months. (not untill he says sorry) My fiance works with him and talks to him which is fine, and my brother calles to talk to my fiance which is fine, But my Fiance went to a football game and new my brother was going to be there and met up with him and his girlfriend who I cant stand. I am PISSED. If he was mad at his sibling I wouldnt go out of my way to speak to them let alone hang out with them. And I have never liked my brothers girlfriend and she is at the game with them also. Am I over reacting?

2007-11-18 11:40:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is very hard for us and I try to not let my husband see me cry. Because I know that he needs me. But I cant if im crying all the time. Please help me on what i need to do and what not to say.

2007-11-18 11:21:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Recently My Mother Passed Away. She was the best Mother anyone could have ever had. She Worked for a Hospital and was a Fireman and a Youth Leader. She was loved by all in our small community. Nearly 2000 People came to her funeral

After she was Buried we Hired Columbus Arts Memorial to built and Place a Monument for her.

The Company sent out an employee to dig and pour the foundation for the headstone and footstone. The employee placed the footstone right on moms grave, right on top of her vault.

When we discovered this we asked that they place the footstone below her feet and we wanted to be there when they removed the stone to make sure there was no damage to her vault. The employee came and removed the footstone foundation before we arrived and then spit on her grave and cast his cigarette on her grave right in front of us. He then advised what a crappy vault we had, and how it will be full of water soon.

Our family is outraged and mad as hell. Would you be

2007-11-18 11:14:41 · 5 answers · asked by AveryCoolGuy 1

about this guy she was going to start to date, i was so happy, we are so close and tell each other everything but when i found out that she didnt tell me i got upset and she finally did today, anyways he is so gorgous( she knows how to pick um') but now my dad is jealous. My mom was suppose to marry my da when they found out my mom was pregnant at the age of 16 but she declinded and ran away. now they still talk and all, but he gets jealous when another guy is with my mom( which is normal). the problem is my mom invited me to see a movie with her and Mark but my dad suggested i shouldnt and that i should go to his house and stay the night and get to know my step-sister( whom after mom had me, the other woman carly left my dad to go to hawaii when she found out her grandmother is sick and she never came back.)

i dont want to hurt his feelings but says no, but i really want to get to know mark and hang out iwth my mom

2007-11-18 10:52:02 · 10 answers · asked by willflip4ever 2

My husband is disabled. I am 34 yrs old and I am exhausted. Mentally and physically. Though I don't feel depressed. Just I know that I have to do everything. For better or for worse I still believe in it. There has to be some kind of help out there and I tell you I have looked, just none give me the answers and I am missing out on my so many things. It makes me guilty because he can't do them and its not fair for me too. I really take this to heart. I love him so much. Perhaps I smother him and thats why he is mean and says hurtful things. Often it feels like he takes advantage of me and throws a fit over things he can't control. It hurts all the way around.

2007-11-18 10:51:28 · 5 answers · asked by Believe 2

u were at school, and u got caught.....uhmm idk smoking (underaged) by the cop. and the cop called the house. what would ur parents have done?? would they care? or would they be toooooo busy and kinda brush it off?

2007-11-18 10:47:41 · 6 answers · asked by Felicia 3

Ive always wondered what class my familys in. upper, middle, or loweer? my dad is a doctor(urologist) my moms a nurse and works 2 days a week.(my twin bros are going to college next year) so tells me what class this would put my family in. oh yeah i have a sister 2 bros.

2007-11-18 10:41:59 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

dont worry he's divorced. i recently found out he's going out with this rich lady who owns a big cleaning company. i kinda hate her though. what do i do about my dad? ive already told him that im suspicious and asked him about it but he still denies it.

2007-11-18 10:34:28 · 28 answers · asked by ♥Alo M♥ 2

my bf's mother just got seperated from her husband a day or two after i moved in, well the morgaged needed to by payed so my bf payed it on his credit card ($670, i agreed to help him pay it off) well after we did that she asked "so how much you guys gonna give me next week, (we get payed weekly) and we both said what do you meen next week we just payed the morgage for you that should be enough and her reply to that was "well crystal lives there too" and when my bf and i went to bed i told him i said " i thought we had an agrement to pay her $200 a month" and he said yeah but she's asking for more since his stepdad left her. and i told him that she's treating my bf like he's her husband or something, then i said for crying out loud i didn't move from OR to PA just so that someones mother cant afford her own ****, i told him that we need to have a life of our own but she wont let us. i'm just so frusterated right now, she's so up tight and no one can talk to her

2007-11-18 09:56:11 · 6 answers · asked by Babygiirl 1

FIRST OF ALL, YES, Y!A IS BACK!!!

I have been with my boyfriend/fiance for 8 months now and we are deeply in love. I am 23 years old and he is 28 years old. I live in my parents home still and for the past couple months I sleep at my boyfriends house on the weekends. The thing is my parents give me a HARD time every week. They are so against me sleeping at his house and they don't like that I am with him and I know it is because he is a different culture than I am. I cannot take the stress anymore. My boyfriend and I want to do things right and me move out happily but with my parents like this I cannot take it anymore. My boyfriend is totally supportive and tells me all the time that he is waiting for me to come live with him. What should I do? This is so stressful....

Thank you~

2007-11-18 09:31:24 · 13 answers · asked by HotJewels 3