This is very hard for us and I try to not let my husband see me cry. Because I know that he needs me. But I cant if im crying all the time. Please help me on what i need to do and what not to say.
2007-11-18 11:21:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell him that you love him. That is what he needs to hear. There really is nothing you can say to make it better...other than that.
2007-11-18 11:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by my two cents 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all I can tell you is that it does get easier with time. My little brother died when he was 21, 8 years ago. I had a rough time for several months. Now, it is still a hole in my heart, but I know that he is well where he is and someday, we will see each other again. Everyone has their own speed at accepting and dealing with death, some never do. You go through stages, you're sad, mad, denying that they are dead, and finally acceptance. I don't think anyone "understands" death. I worked at a nursing home at the time my brother left, and I always wondered why he had to die when there was people in the nursing homes that had already lived and were suffering. But, if you have faith, trust in God. He doesn't give you more than you can handle, and he needed that person to come on home. Everything has a purpose and a reason, it is not ours to ask "Why?" Good luck, the tears and heartache will ease up and the memories will never leave. Just remember the good times and smile.
2016-05-24 02:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by alida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People grieve in different ways.. the best thing to do is let him know that you're there for him whenever he needs you and let him come to you when he needs it. I know there isnt anything that people can say that will make us feel better. I have gone through a situation like this and nothing helps the pain go away , only time.
2007-11-18 11:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by easter_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk openly with him. Tell him how much you thought of your father in law and that you know how hard it is on him, because its hard on you too. Then hug each other and don't hide the tears, cause they are part of the process in saying goodbye to someone you loved and miss very much.
2007-11-18 11:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jude202122 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys need a vacation. its so sweet how strong you have are trying to be. Try not to bring up and memories of your husband and his father when he was a kid. Try to have fun. If ya have kids grab the family and play a board game that is fun energetic and loud! no kids have a nice dinner you and him even go shopping! Have fun this month
good luck!!!
2007-11-18 11:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him see you cry.It will make him realize it is ok for him to show his feelings too.And if you guys wind up crying together?So what?It might be the tenderist,most touching moment in your marriage.He knows that you are there for him.Just sit back and let him come to you.And when he does,dont judge or criticize,just listen.Sometimes the loudest words are the ones that are never spoken.
2007-11-18 11:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your first mistake is in hiding your feelings. so many people say they can't let there loved one see them cry or i have to be strong for them. nonsence. if you want to cry, then do so. why can't you grieve together?
2007-11-18 11:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that it is alright and that you love him and that you will always be there for him and then give him a long hug
2007-11-18 11:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmine D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋