I promised my mom that i would have thanksgiving with her. She said she would pick me up wednesday night then bring me back late thursday afternoon.
i told my dad this and he took it as i was going to have dinner with him too!
My mom is like were having dinner at two and i want you to stay the night so we can spend time together.
then my dad is like "i got all your favorite foods, it' going to be great" and he's not willing to eat after 3.
how do i decide what im supposed to do?
do i eat with my mom and come back at like 8 and be like "hi" before my dad goes to sleep? or do i not go to my moms and just wait until the weekend to go? or what? and the option of them eating together is out of the question.
2007-11-18 14:34:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your mom, and try to get her to have dinner early in the afternoon on Thanksgiving... or get your dad to have his celebration earlier. Tell each you have another engagement for for the same day.
Your other option would be to take your dad out to a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner at a restaurant.
With my families, my end of the family always did Thanksgiving dinner in the early afternoon and the in-laws always did theirs in the evening. So we always had 2 Thanksgivings.
2007-11-18 14:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to both of them, and work something out to where you can spend time with both of them...They are adults and they love you, so try to find a compromise. Don't do the come back at 8 be like hi before your Dad goes to sleep...Bad idea. It would hurt your dad's feelings and make him feel left out. Talk to both of them now and get it worked out before Wednesday.
2007-11-18 22:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by m p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You promised your mom you'd eat with her so that's what you should do. Then spend the rest of the weekend with your dad snacking on all the leftovers.
2007-11-18 22:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your parents that you love them both, but they cannot use you to get back at each other. They both love you, but they don't want to share you. So look at it as a positive thing. But also, explain to both of them that you can't be in two places at the same time. You come up with a solution and tell them that your solution is how you want things to be. My advice: spend equal amounts of time with both.
2007-11-18 22:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how your Dad could be confused if you told him you are going to your mums.
Anyway you will have to tell your Dad that you already made a commitment to your mum and you are sorry for the confusion. Tell him ASAP.
2007-11-18 22:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing you are really in the middle it's so hard to please everyone..tell them both how hard they are making it for you. Let them know you would like to spend time with each of them but they need to be flexible for you to be able to do that. Too much pressure on you. Good Luck
2007-11-18 22:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is picking you up and dropping you off
if dad wants you.. he is going to have to pick you up and drop you off at your mom's house
you already promised mom.. your dad has to make the adjustments
2007-11-18 22:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by pastels c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋