my bf's mother just got seperated from her husband a day or two after i moved in, well the morgaged needed to by payed so my bf payed it on his credit card ($670, i agreed to help him pay it off) well after we did that she asked "so how much you guys gonna give me next week, (we get payed weekly) and we both said what do you meen next week we just payed the morgage for you that should be enough and her reply to that was "well crystal lives there too" and when my bf and i went to bed i told him i said " i thought we had an agrement to pay her $200 a month" and he said yeah but she's asking for more since his stepdad left her. and i told him that she's treating my bf like he's her husband or something, then i said for crying out loud i didn't move from OR to PA just so that someones mother cant afford her own ****, i told him that we need to have a life of our own but she wont let us. i'm just so frusterated right now, she's so up tight and no one can talk to her
2007-11-18 09:56:11 · 6 answers · asked by Babygiirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and if i do she'll kick me out like she did with my bf's brothers gf. so if you can give me some advise i would love to hear it. i love my bf with all my heart but if she keeps it up she's gonna make me want to go back to oregon and i really don't want to do that.
2007-11-18 09:57:42 · update #1
the car needs a battury and she wants us to use the rest of the money on the credit card but we were going to use that money so we cant get a car of our own but like i said she wont let us have a life of our own.
2007-11-18 10:09:52 · update #2
I personally think that you need to get out of that situation - right now!!!!!!
It sounds like a nightmare waiting to happen and is in fact starting to happen already.
I would do either one of two things. I would tell the boyfriend that I am moving back home and he can pack his bags and come too. Perhaps the two of you can work to pay for an apartment or something. That way you'll will have the freedom that you want and not be under his mothers rules and her thumb.
The other thing that I would do is to stay in the same state as the boyfriend - but move to an apartment.
It seems as if the mother is very insecure and a very demanding person at the same time.
Good luck with this situation.
Another thing - very bad idea to pay the rent with the credit card!!!!!!!!
2007-11-18 10:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by Su-Nami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend need to get out of there as soon as possible. Because every time you give in and pay for her stuff she is just going to keep asking for more. This woman is going to milk the both of you dry and then it will be to late to move as you will have no money left for anything you wont to do.
2007-11-18 18:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kirilee T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so bf's mom is a little needy.....you do not say how old you are however you bf needs to speak up to his mother if not you will not have a leg to stand on and his mother will try to control him if she has not already.....not sure what type of relationship you have with her but try talking to her and get the financial stuff on the table before it gets too out of control
2007-11-18 19:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to Oregon and leave her a note informing her she's on her own to come up with the mortgage money.
2007-11-18 18:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family conference, you need to sit down with all of you, remind her what the original deal was, if she can't make ends meet now because of the bf. leaving, then you might have to re-negotiate, hopefully not but things do have to be paid, for all to be happy.
2007-11-18 18:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by okimreadynow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cook dinner and slip some rat poison in her portion.
2007-11-18 18:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋