OK, Me and my brother got into a huge fight. We have never gone 2 days without talking. I think he did something uncalled for to me and I havent spoke to him in 2 months. (not untill he says sorry) My fiance works with him and talks to him which is fine, and my brother calles to talk to my fiance which is fine, But my Fiance went to a football game and new my brother was going to be there and met up with him and his girlfriend who I cant stand. I am PISSED. If he was mad at his sibling I wouldnt go out of my way to speak to them let alone hang out with them. And I have never liked my brothers girlfriend and she is at the game with them also. Am I over reacting?
2007-11-18 11:40:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off I am 23 and my brother is 22 he hit me and threw me to the ground thats what the fight is over, I think I have a GREAT reason to be pisse dwe arent little kids anymore, he shouldnt lay his hands on me, And also I thought the same thing he is my brother and my only one at that, I called him and invited him to my daughters b-day party thinking we can start over, and the SOB never showed up. So i think I have every right to keep this going. He owes me and my daughter an apoligy. As far as my fiance I wont lose him,
2007-11-18 11:47:59 · update #1
No i was going to let everything go and act like nothing happened, I was going to be the bigger person, as far as what i did to make him hit me, he is renting out my granfathers house, and i suggested that my fiances sister take the finished basement that is like an apartment, my brother said no she was a slob and then started to attack me verbally so i asked him to leave, he told me no so i tried to close the door behind him, and thats when it happened
2007-11-18 11:56:50 · update #2
I see you point and agree with your view. Absolutely no one have the right to lay their hands on you. To keep the feud going though is harmful to your well being. You are more mature and must be the one to show control. Don't push the issue make yourself get over it. Its a matter of mind over matter. Demand respect from him as to the physical and rise above reacting to your dislike of his girlfriend.
He does owe you and your daughter an apology but is much too immature to acknowledge it.
Remember...don't sweat the small stuff. Life is too short. Now is the time to raise yourself to a higher level. Be strong, wise and compassionate. Sooner or later they will all gather around and appreciate your wisdom.
It is you that is in charge!
2007-11-18 12:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're over reacting you perfectly good reasons to be pissed but if your fiance likes hanging with your brother let him but lay down some rules. Like if they are going to hang out your bro's girlfriend should not be there. Also, I think you should make amends with your brother but depending on what your brother did if whatever he did was so uncalled for tell him how you feel or at least talk to him and try to get an apology from him even if you have to beat it out of him (just kidding don't do that). And you don't have to like your brother's girl.
2007-11-18 19:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by city girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know what caused the problem to begin with so, its hard to judge the level of angriness that is justified. One thing is that the problem is between you and your brother. No one else have a problem with him or with you. This is the way your husband sees it. Your husband wants to go to the game and have a good time. He gets along with your brother. The fact that your brothers girlfriend is there is inconsequential because your husband is there to see the game not to sleep with your brothers girlfriend. The way I see it, your husband had two options. To stay home bored or to go watch the game. You didn't want to go so he figure well, Want to go so I'm going. Why should I have to pay for something I had nothing to do with. You on the other hand decided not to go in order to avoid your brother and even worse your brother's girlfriend. But, at the end of the day they all 3 are having fun while you get to stay home and do the housework. So, who had the last laugh? What I'm trying to get at is how much is it worth it to you to be mad at your brother? I mean is your decision but, don't complaint when other people don't see it your way or don't care about it. I'm not saying you are not justified at being angry because I don't know what the situation is but, there is a price to pay for everything.
2007-11-18 19:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your brother and your fiance were good friends even before this fight.So it would be natural for them to go see a football game together.Just because you are mad at your brother does not mean your fiance has to.Be glad that your brother actually gets along with your choice of a significant other.As far as staying mad at your brother for 2 months goes,I would try to get over it.NOTHING is worth giving up a bond with a family member that you seemed so close to.
2007-11-18 19:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by sacred_hart_99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can treat your brother however you want, but you can't make others do the same.
Your fiance has the right to make his OWN decisions and see who he wants to see.
You are overreacting and being controlling. Not a pretty description, but you DID ask.
to your edit:........
I noticed you didn't say what you did before he hit you and threw you to the ground. I'm female, but I don't believe that allows me to say anything I want and do anything I want to a guy and he should not hit me.
A birthday party for your daughter is no place to 'mend fences'. Wrong place for that. It was probably better he didn't come. What were you going to do? Fight in front of your daughter and guests??????
2007-11-18 19:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by momwithabat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep up your hard headed pride, you may not only lose the relationship with your brother, but also with your boyfriend. Grow up, life's far too short to hold a grudge over petty indifference. Your boyfriend has free will and obviously he cares about the friendship he has with your brother. And, as far as your brother's girlfriend? Again, who cares. It sounds to me like you are the one who has the problem, not any of them. So, what's the issue? They are all going out and enjoying one another's company while you sit home with your anger and resentment brewing? Good luck with that situation.
2007-11-18 19:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sister Lourdes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why are you letting a fight get in to way. family is more important then some fight. How would you feel if your brother died, and you were mad him over some thing. was it really worth fighting with him about. maybe you should both admit you were and both say sorry. nothing is worth not speaking to a family member.
2007-11-18 19:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by sassylassy2876 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should reconcile yourself with your brother. Life is too short to be mad at each other. You don't want to lose your brother.
2007-11-18 19:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by xxfoundthewayxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think is a big deal...you need to respect that your brother has someone in his life..even if you dont like her that much..you have to deal with it. You can't just tell someone what to do..or who they will go out with. I say yea you are over reacting..
2007-11-18 19:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by blondie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't chose who your brother dates.
2007-11-18 19:44:44 · answer #10 · answered by John Avry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋