FIRST OF ALL, YES, Y!A IS BACK!!!
I have been with my boyfriend/fiance for 8 months now and we are deeply in love. I am 23 years old and he is 28 years old. I live in my parents home still and for the past couple months I sleep at my boyfriends house on the weekends. The thing is my parents give me a HARD time every week. They are so against me sleeping at his house and they don't like that I am with him and I know it is because he is a different culture than I am. I cannot take the stress anymore. My boyfriend and I want to do things right and me move out happily but with my parents like this I cannot take it anymore. My boyfriend is totally supportive and tells me all the time that he is waiting for me to come live with him. What should I do? This is so stressful....
Thank you~
2007-11-18 09:31:24 · 13 answers · asked by HotJewels 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The way I see it you don't have a problem here........move out of your parents' home.
2007-11-18 09:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could remark on your parents attitude, but since we don't the reality of what your boyfriend is REALLY like, we don't know whether your parents are overacting or not.
The one thing that did strike me when reading your question was - your are 24 and still living at home.
I suggest before you move in with your boyfriend, you move out of your parents house and find a place of your own.
Has your boyfriend talked about getting married, or having some kind of commitment for the coming years. Don't be foolish and move into a situation that you will regret. Be independent first and then decide later on, say in six months time. If you move for any other reason, I feel you will be making a mistake.
You say "a different culture than" you are. That could mean lots of things, and it could be that your parents are prejudiced or it could mean that your boy friend is from another culture, that would completely turn you around, say Muslim. I am not saying there is anything wrong with him if he is Muslim, or any other Eastern religion. However, since their lifestyles are completely different to North American lifestyles, you could be walking into challenges that you don't expect.
Use your head. You have the rest of your life, go slowly and be independent first and then decide from that point on.
2007-11-18 17:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do is sit your parents down and talk to them about how much you like your man and explain how important to you it is that they be apart of you guys life. Parents will come around if they know that you are happy and if they think that he is good to you, no matter what culture he is from. I have been there and my whole family now loves my man and we are a biracial couple. Just make sure that you do not turn your back on your parents no matter how upset you are because you will need them for the rest of your life.
2007-11-18 17:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by sylke9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe your parents are upset because they don't understand why a person his age is not willing to make a committment to marriage yet. If you two are deeply in love, what not just get married? Your parents want you happy, and being in a sleep-in relationship on the weekends is probably not what they envisioned their daughter doing.
2007-11-18 17:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 24, you should get a good career and get your own apartment and grow up. The problem is you live at home and your parents treat you like the little girl you are because you have not really grown up. You are choosing the easy way and it is too mooch off them. Grow up and move out. Your parents won't know what you are doing and you will be much happier.
2007-11-18 17:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Julie H 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your parents are giving you a hard time because of your b/f's culture? Maybe it's because you are SLEEPING (having unmarried sex) at your boyfriends house. Something happens to parents when they KNOW that their young daughter is having unmarried sex with an older man. Sex would be no problem for them if you were married because that's what married people do.
2007-11-18 18:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by Poopsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The solution is to stop living with your parents. Only then will you experience true freedom, love, and happiness the way that a 24 year old is supposed to.
2007-11-18 17:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by airforcewolf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 24 years old, long past time for you to have your own place and experience life on your own. You'll never really learn who you are if you go straight from your parents home to your boyfriend's. You need your own space, you need to understand what it's like to pay the bills. You'll gain immense amounts of self confidence if you are on your own, knowing you have what it takes to support yourself.
2007-11-18 17:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
time to grow up and get out of mommy and daddys house and start being an adult. if you are happy with this guy what gives them the right to tell you who you should be with. make your own choices and you had to live with them get other people advice and see how long you will be happy
2007-11-18 17:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by onix557 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he is your fiance your parents have no right to get mad.. you are old enough to decide for yourself what you want to do... prob is your under their roof... if you want them to be cool about this move out and in with him he is your fiance....
2007-11-18 17:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by Skylar1983 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋