I just moved to Ky from Fl with my hubby and inlaws...we have been her for like 4 months and i can't find a job and niether can my hubby...so i suggested we moved back to Fl where we both know we can get jobs...plus i be close to MY family and he be away from his..anyways...his parents dont want us to go and talked to us about staying...his mother is disabled so i try to help around the house...but i dont want to be here..i want to be back in fl with my family and where i know i got a job...but im afarid that if i leave that something bad happens to his mom it will be my fault...what should i do...i am starting to having second thoughts because of his folks
2007-11-18 15:11:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well for a start it is up to you and your husband what you do. Why did you move to start with? And how much of a hassle would it be to go back now? You obviously never wanted to move to start with so why did you give in. I know what you are going through. We moved out of our home and into my mother-in-laws to help look after her as she isn't in the best health. My husbands brother and wife were living here but moved 4 hours away. We are going to rent out our place as his brother will be back in 2 yrs. I help out around the house and look after my 5 kids, hubby and an 18 yr old niece. If I didn't want to I would never have said yes. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty or bad. If you are not happy then your marriage will suffer. I think yours and your husbands happiness is more important especially if you cannot find employment. Talk to him and then once you both decide what you want tell his parents what you are doing. Don't ask them or let them add their opinions as it isn't warranted. It isn't their life so what business is it of theirs. Good luck.
2007-11-18 15:38:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kym M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do the ol' Ben Franklin approach with your hubby to get him on the same page. List everything good about KY and FL, then list everything bad.
If he has siblings, they are probably in the area. If his parents are in a house that is too much to care for, they need to move to a smaller and easier place to live, closer to health care and other useful services / resources. A judgement call needs to be made on this.
His and your parents cannot be calling the shots. It sounds like his parents just want the slave labor without any consideration for your needs. Staying in KY only serves his parents at the expense of you two actually making a living.
2007-11-18 23:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just moved from Mississippi to Illinois, and my family is here, and I have been here since August and unable to fine a real job either, but I am not giving up. But if you really want to be back with you family and it a hard choice to make. But now you have to think about your husband, what does he want to do as well, now that you are one, you need to make this decision together.
2007-11-18 23:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by flannelpajamas1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, you're going to end up homeless if you don't get jobs. I think you should go back to where you can be employed. Your in-laws should understand that you have to be able to work. Your mil will be fine.
2007-11-18 23:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the decision by discussing it with them, not a bunch of nerds on the internet.
2007-11-18 23:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a decision with your husband and if that means that you move then move if not then not. Why does your life have to be hell all you need to do is talk to him.....Rachael
2007-11-18 23:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋