I was very attached to his mother (who is my grandma) when I was little, and she passed away with cancer when I was seven. Devastating as it was, my dad was fine the whole time, right up until they lowered her coffin into the ground. That was the first and only time I ever saw him cry. Now, nine years later, his father (who I'm also attached to) is about to pass away, of old age and medical ailments. My dad is just sitting in the living room by himself, silently watching tv, as though nothing is wrong.. but I know there is. What on earth should I say to him? I want him to know I'm there for him.. but it's hard to give a heartfelt speech to your dad..
2007-11-18 15:04:38 · 11 answers · asked by yeah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just sit with him and let him know you are there for him. He may open up and talk or just like to keep sitting there quietly.Maybe even ask if he'd like to talk. Give him a hug and tell him you love him and will always be there for him. Maybe just hold his hand and watch telly too. If he stays like this for too long though maybe you should tell other family members as they might be able to get him talking and out of his slump. He may need professional help as his depression may have spiralled too much. No matter what be there for him and offer your support. Don't forget about yourself too. You are going to need to grieve and look after yourself too.
2007-11-18 15:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by Kym M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way of telling your dad you love him is by not saying anything at all. I'm younger than you by two years, but take my advice.:) When he's sitting alone, watching tv silently, just sit with him, but don't say anything. After a while, you can ask him, " Do you want anything to drink?" If he says no, it's fine, just stay with him. When he gets his breakfast in the morning, go downstairs and eat with him. Say things like, "Good morning, Dad!" He will sense your love and concern for him. He'll get the hint that you are there for him, and no matter what trials he may go through, YOU will always be there.
2007-11-18 23:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by SoundofSettling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is facing a major milestone... burying his parents... and it hurts. Everyone faces this.
It is common for people to plug along until after the funeral... all that busy activity is really a good thing.
There is an initial phase of shock, then denial, then the realization hits resulting in the usual emotional roller-coaster... "is there anything I could have done?" (self-blame), grief, anger, crying... you name it.
The tough stuff comes with having to clean out their house and do the estate sale and then selling that house.
Just be there with him, sit with him, hug him, tell him you love him, and try to get him to eat right.
2007-11-18 23:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. that is tough. im sorry to hear about your grandparents.
dont think of it as a speech. just go in there and sit with him. you dont have to say anything, just be with him. Sometimes it's the little actions that speak much louder than planned speeches.
Everyone has different ways of dealing with grief and loss. remember that.
Just be there for him, tell him you love him.
2007-11-18 23:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Death is a part of life, and I know how you feel, I lost both of my Grandparents and I love my Grandma dearly, and was unable to come to the funeral, my Dad was upset, and I tryed to talk to him on the phone, it wasn't the same, I still miss her and he does to, we talk about her often. It will get better, and I know that you don't really have the words right now, but they will come.
2007-11-18 23:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by flannelpajamas1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best thing to say is that you love him and you'll always be there to talk to him. I know it's hard to go through but all you can do is wait for him to come to you. maybe all you can do is spend time with him and take him places just to spend the quality time with him while you still have the chance....Rachael
2007-11-18 23:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard.. Its really hard to relate to parents but you just need to go in there and tell him what your feeling in your heart and just let him know your concerned and let him know its ok to show how you feel .. He may even just be in shock you know? So just talk to him or if your still not ready give him time to come around and then try.
2007-11-18 23:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by *ChElSeA* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your dad ...hug him tight and tell him you love him and are there for him..Thats all you need to do.. Believe me just those few words will be better than a speech,,,
2007-11-18 23:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit with him. Sometimes little things can make a huge diffrence
2007-11-18 23:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you and your dad. He's lucky to have such a considerate daughter. Just give him a hug and let him know that you love him.
2007-11-19 09:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋